Do you think that a man must to work in house how his wife do too?

Well, noone made these rules but it has just been carried out since the time of the cavemen. Biologically, men are stronger and bigger than females and are more capable of hunting. So to survive, it meant that cavemen would go hunting while cavewomen stayed to prepare the food and take care of the children. If both male and female would go hunting, there's a risk that females wouldn't be able to keep up and die instead of being able to come back to the cave. Moreover, noone would be left to watch the young. It isn't really about rules, it all started with survival. Nowadays however, we are all more liberal and many women work and I know of families where the husband is the one who stays at home.

In my house, I work full-time and work part-time as a freelance writer. My husband does not currently work as he is on disability. I bring home the 'bacon', vaccum, sweep, wash the bathroom, share in taking care of the kids when I am home, drive my husband to his doctor's appointments, make the meals, wash the floors and take care of the laundry when it is cleaned. My husband takes the kids to school and takes care of them when I am at work, does the dishes, cleans the laundry and folds it, takes out the trash, makes our bed, cleans the cat box and pays the bills. I believe that we share the chores in the house. That is the only way it will all get done. I believe in sharing all the chores. That way it is more equal. I realize I work full-time, but if my husband was not on disablilty (which he get a check for this) he would be working full-time. I work part-time as a freelancer because I want to, not because I have too. So, its even. What does others think?

My husband doesnt help around the house and sometimes its so frustrating, specially since I work whole day. What bugs me most if ever he comes home before me, he will bathe and be refreshed and wait for me to come home and make some tea for both of us...I mean if he's come in before me, why couldnt he have just made the tea, kept it in a flask and then I could have some rest too! But he wont do it...anyway, more than rules, I think its the culture we grow up in. Traditional societies, like we have in India, expect men to earn outside while women stay at home. While that is OK but now times have changed and women are working and earning too but men have not evolved...I think nobody enjoys doing housework after a tired day...so men avoid it as long as possible.

There are no rules. In my last relationship, my boyfriend used to cook, because he was doing much better than I do with cooking. We cleaned together and work around the house together. There are no rules, but woman feeds to be more demanding...

I am a man, I cook, clean, do washing, ironing, shopping, etc. I am not married but live with my parents and I help with all household things. I know many men who do. But..... How many woman change the lightbulb, fix the car, fix the broken pipes, mow the lawn, etc. I know thers are woman doing those things, but I strongly believe more men do household chores than woman doing things that men usualy do. There are no rules, I believe in equal rights. Just as much as I can do the dishes, so can the woman light the fire, wash the car, whatever. Some men and woman do not want to share these things, but I think it is good for relationships if both do everything. But, if I was married, I would neverr expect my wife to do the dirty things that is seen as the man's job. I would rather do it, and still help in the house. Married men who go with their buddies to drink and leave their wifes at home, they do not deserve to be married. They should leave their wifes and go stay with their buddies. If you are married, your place is with your family. Then you have mutual friends and visit them together. If men and woman do these basic things, there would be much less divorse. Blessings

traditionaly the woman always takes care of the home. If you look at the many different cultures all over the world, different races, religions, world wide you will notice this trend. this is because of two reasons. 1. in a majority of the world man holds 99% of the power and desision making responsibilities. men are more aggressive (testostorone - chemicly controled)and based on history will fight to obtain power. women on the other hand are biogicly designed to nuture and care for children this makes them the ideal candidate to stay at home and care for the family. 2. the poorer the country the more control man has over a woman. if you look at more progressive countries like the united states, japan, canida, germany, etc you see woman play a greater role in the developing a nation. this is because these richer countries see the value behind diversity (why have a man work and make 50,000 a year when the wife can work and bring the house hold income to 100,000 this country like so many other rich countries see the value in matierial things. so because of MONEY women have been able to leverage there position in power in this country. and soon they will be a mans equal. right now women are still struggling in a sexist enviornment and don't make nearly as much, but that will soon change. to answer your question its all chemical and bioligical. only capitalizim can change these circumstances

I have been in plenty of relationships (marriages) that even though I worked too, I took care of the house and kids too. And then they wonder why I was so tired lol Well duh, I was doing the same as working two jobs! I am now engaged, and we have discussed everything, and he told me early on, this is not just a marriage, it is a partnership, we will both be working, and our jobs are not only mentally draining, but also physically demanding, he is a structural firefighter and I am a wildland firefighter, He made sure I understood that we will both be taking care of cleaning the house, and other household duties, there won't be any kids to take care of as they are grown. So, no we won't be living by that 'rule'.

both are working outside of the home....both should be working inside the home. I'm not saying it has to be 50/50 but the couple should be working together on whatever works for them. There is no way that one should be feeling that they are doing more than their share of the workload. That just leads to resentment and trouble for the relationship.

Yes, the man should work, especially when both of them are working. I know that how tired I will feel after returning from work. It is difficult for me to do all the work at home. Luckily my husband helps me a lot, especially in cleaning, which I am not good at.

Man and woman should helping each other.Tere should be not that only woman do all the work.I think man should help too.But i cannot accept when man is not working and let his wife go to work.I cant respect this kind of man,they are lazy and just want take profit from their wife.Thank you.

i think that a man should help out with house chores if they both work out side of the home.some think they would be doing womans work and some are just to lazy to help out at home.

I don't have a job since moving here in Sydney, Australia with my wife, who has a job already for a year. I resigned from my work in the Philippines just to be with her. But bad timing due to the recession, it's extremely hard to find a job now. I'm planning to go back home. For me personally, I don't think a man should work at home (full-time).. it's just crazy..I don't know, but that's my opinion.

i guess i'm one of the lucky ones, you see i married a man that helps me around the house. when we first got together we both had a full time + job. so we helped each other out around the house, whatever needed to be done he would do it, and yes even the bathroom if needed. we now have a 1 yr old and i'm a stay at home mom now, yes he even helps now without me having to ask for help he will just do it which i love. he gives me my free time just like i give him his free time. we believe it is a partnership each has to help the other one weather its, cleaning, shopping, yard work what ever the case we are here for each other, my last marriage was not like that i worked and did everything else while he went and did whatever he wanted at anytime. i was miserable never got any sleep. SO I COUNT MYSELF VERY VERY LUCKY.

In my house we both work, and we both do the dishes, yard work, cleaning, and everything else. We practically see each other most of day as week since we work so close together. I wouldn't have it any other way - if one person is doing more than thier fair share, they will be tired of it and there will be problems.

I think that housework should depend on what works for the couple, not what is traditional. My husband is better at a lot of household things than I am, hense he does a lot of the housework. He also cooks, because he loves to cook. Hubby's retired, and we both work at home (self employed) so we both bring in an income. I don't think there should be gender roles. Both should share in the hosehold chores.

I completely agree with you. I've been both a stay at home mom and a working mom at different times. Well, the one thing that doesn't change is my husband's attitude about helping out. I raise the kids, clean the house, cook the food, make sure he has clothes to wear. I'm not claiming to be the best at any of these things, but the only way I've found to get help is to force it. Then, if they do one little task they expect a cookie and a pat on the back for it. In my opinion, both people should contribute equally. Otherwise, you're just being taken advantage of and underappreciated. Men seem to have been raised with no responsibility. I think that's the cause for so many unfunctional men out there. A lot of them wouldn't even cook their own meals if there wasn't a woman around to do it.