My son likes a gal but he's too afraid to speak up. Any suggestions?

just tell him to speak his mind, we often hold things in like that and by the time we let it out, its too late. we only live once, so go for it, then if she feels the same way then great, but if not then it wouldn't have worked out, so go for it!

Hi there, It seems your son has got infatuated towards the girl but as he shy he can not let his mind open before her. Now as she already has had a boy friend it would be better for your son to remain away from this pharmacy girl.

Let him go pick up the meds for you, this way he HAS to talk to her. Maybe once they get started, everything will move along. I tried setting my son with someone...but he freaked out when he found out she was 4 years older then him.

is she that shy? maybe sometime you go by yourself and suggest that she speak to him, and see if she can even suggest they get together.

Invite them both to lunch and don't let them know? All kidding aside, you will have to start a conversation with the three of you, ask some leading questions and have a conversation that makes them both laugh and have a little fun. Laughter really relaxes people. It's up to you to break the ice if they are both so shy but beyond that you can't do much. Luck with that!

Why don't you play matchmaker and invite her over for dinner? That should start the ball rolling. And keep finding excuses to inviter her over until he is able to screw up the courage to ask her out privately. Until then, they will have a middle ground to 'get to know each other'.

Well with them both being so Shy, you need to find a way to get your Son to get up the nerve to talk to this girl, or find a way to get them in a situation to where she is not working to where they might be able to talk some. If they really do like each other in time things will happen. Just need to remember to not force them together and scare one away as well.

he has to start speaking to her obvious or not, he has to start, it can start easy just asking her how is day going, then he has to muster up the strength to ask for a coffee after work or something like that and then it can build from there.

Maybe if he brought a friend (male, not female) along it would help with his shyness and he'd be able to talk to her? When I was eyeing my husband (a long time ago LOL) I was terribly shy and didn't speak up even though I really wanted to meet him. And I almost didn't. However, a friend of mine who had been staying over at my mom's place helped me to speak up when I saw him. If it hadn't been for my friend my husband and I most likely would have never have met. Because he moved away shortly after. A separate instance that I can think of is a male cousin of mine. This guy was so shy it literally took him years to get the nerve to speak up to a girl he liked. But in the end he got his girl and they are now married. Hopefully, it won't take your son that long! Because by then it might be too late! Hmm, maybe you could always stick your nose in where it doesn't belong and get the ball rolling by speaking to this girl for your son? Just a thought!

Marti, My Son didn't have any trouble with girls. That was the only subject he excelled in. I think the main thing for you should just let him know you are there for him, as I'm sure that you always do. Ask him if he wants any help from you. Maybe he can start by asking her what kind of movies she likes. Is there one out right now she might like to see with him? Everyone likes going to the movies. Let me know how things work out. I wish him lots of luck. leenie

Have him go and pick up your meds... even if you don't need them make sure he's gose and ask her for them,That best way he'll be willy most likey start to talk more then ask her out. cd

Have faith in yourself and do not get afraid. Things will definately turn out to be positive !! Have faith in yourself and God.

Since he is your son. Why don't you set them up in a date, the two of them alone. Maybe this will jolt them to start a friendship and later on a relationship. There's nothing wrong with being shy but in terms of dating the guy should do the first move.

That's about all you can do. A shy person has to build up to saying something. I would just make sure he took you for your meds all the time..lol..you might even need some advice on something during the in between times. Maybe after a few more times you could invite her over for dinner with you and your son..LOL..

Well.......I have a 16 year old son, myself ( single mom, here..). I know there is a girl at school that he talks about constantly. I told him if he wants to talk to me about any 'problems' with her, that I will ALWAYS will be 'here' for him. I would just let 'nature takle it's course' and remeind him that you will be 'there' for him, too. Don't 'butt in' unless you're asked to. Especially with a teenager..they really need their 'space' to kind of decide for themselves what they wanna do about' issues' like this.

One of the most difficult things for shy people to do is to speak our mind when there is a lot at stake. He may find her very attractive and want very much to speak to her but I can tell you it is a very difficult thing for him to do. The very last thing he wants is to look a fool. Even if he doesn't he will think he did and, at least for him, there is no difference. If he tries to talk with her and then can't think of one thing to say he will not likely do it again. And it is even worse when she is shy because while she is sending all kind of signals that you can see he will not be looking for them. If she were bold and let him know absolutely that she was interested he would loosen up and more than likely be fine. So my advice to him is to plan out a visit. Think it through as to what he would say and what answers she may give. He must know that by concentrating on her and not himself he will be much more likely to be open. All he really need do is ask questions about her and she will take care of the rest. When even he can see that she enjoys talking with him he will be able to ask her out. And what you can tell him about your perception of her will help also. He may not say much but he will be listening. Being shy he will not be able to see the things you do. The reason of course is he will be concentrating too much on himself and not enough on her. Just keep giving him pointers and he will come around. But he has to have a plan. That will reduce his anxiety and let him be more open.

I think shy guys are usually sensitive and are attractive to some women. I think if your son really loves the girl, he will have to overcome his shyness. Guys do have to sacrifice their shyness for love and if they cant overcome this for the sake of the girl than maybe his love is not strong enough yet. I think he can force himself to do it if he wants to.

I used to be very shy myself so I can appreciate how difficult this is for him. The best way for him to speak to her is to have an excuse such as sending him to pick up your meds and for him to casually mention he has a couple of tickets to somewhere and would she like to come along or would she like to have a coffee during her break. Of course he may find that a tad difficult so, the idea that some have suggested of you inviting her over for a meal would be an excellent one. I hope this works out; please keep us posted on the progress of this lovely friendship!

I think you should discuss with your son.Maybe he will tell his problem to you.Thank you and have a nice day.