I'm Gay, So WHAT!
By Payout
@payout (3794)
United States
May 28, 2009 3:12pm CST
I'm just getting tired of my family they make me sick well some of them do. Yes there are those family members that just mean a lot and care about you and stuff. It's hard to forget the ones that say they love you then talk crap behind your back.
Listen.. I'm Gay... yes it may be hard for my family to aspect me but in the end it's my choice in life.
It's hard to love your grandmother if she keeps on calling you a f*gg*t (sorry about the word) behind your back.
I invited my cousin to my Boyfriends Nephews Birthday so they can bring my niece and my little cousin. Well my Grandmother makes a big sense going oh your going to that f*gg*ts house huh huh...? to my Cousin.
Then when my Grandmother see my brother and Im not there she goes how is your f*gg*t brother??This stuff makes me VERY VERY MAD.. I just want to slap when I see her.. Just It gets tired in when your own relative talks stuff behind your back.
When I see her I show her my respect but where is mines..?? It takes respect to get respect But I don't get mines.. I remember my grandmother use to yell at me saying oh respect your elders. Well it's still wrong when your elders disrespect you.
My family goes down to dover every year I usually go with them but not this time not this 4th of July. nope.. I have better things to do but hear not only my grandmother talk crap about me but my other family members.
Only if you knew half of the Problem..:(
[b]What would you do.. if your family member keeps calling you a f*gg*t behind your back?
What would you do if you feel like everyone dislikes you because of what you like?
what would you do if you was in my situation.?[/b]
3 people like this
9 responses
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
29 May 09
being gay makes you happy.as long as you're not harming anyone,then you should just go about it.if someone harasses you about being gay,talk to him/her.tell him.her that you're happy about it,you're not harming anyone, and you are not going to back down form being gay.if still that person makes fun of you,I suggest stay away from him/her.don't surround yourself with negative people who might bring down your self-esteem.
2 people like this
@beachstarz (1092)
• United States
29 May 09
My husband had a bad mother that treated him crappy . He finally figured out how to deal with it . He lets her know that he loves her because she is the mother but
he does not agree with the things she says and does . He put distance between himself, her and even his sister , and leaves it go .
You can't change people , making them think or act a certain way .
They can't change you , and you can't change them . I think the best thing
for you is to put distance between you and them , so it will be harder for them
to bother you so . They are the ones with the problem , its not you .
Be happy with who you are , and be true to yourself , don't worry about their
problems .. Life is too short and too precious for such drama .
1 person likes this
@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
29 May 09
it's your choice and you have to stand the consequences. the acceptance won't happen overnight.just don't do things that will degrade the name of your family.as long you're doing right things and do better then i guess it wouldn't hard for them to accept the new you.
@grammasnook (1871)
• United States
29 May 09
With your grandmother using the f##gg##t term it shows her age, thus there is this saying it is hard to teach an old dog new tricks. This is not an excuse for her but it is definately the reason.
People talk crap today it is about you and tomorrow it may be about your brother who is having an affair with someone ) example) The way I think about things is hey if they are talking about me at least they are leaving someone else alone.
Be proud of who you are and do not let anyone stand in your way of happiness.
1 person likes this
@hanah87 (1835)
• Malaysia
29 May 09
I am sympathy with you.My friend also a lesbian and had get the same experience like you.Her family also say bad thing to her and always insult her.I know how hard you must live and hear it everyday.Now you can free and make your own life.Dont look behind anymore.Have a nice day.
@Slashable (117)
• Netherlands
28 May 09
I really don't get it if people make such a fuss about gaypeople... I mean it's love.. so what's wrong about that? I really think people should show more respect to eachother. I think you'd better don't listen to what they say and be proud of yourself, and you should be happy about the fact you have a relation. maybe you can talk with your grandmother and ask her why she calls you these things?
1 person likes this
@simonjaymes (111)
•
29 May 09
I'm sorry that you're going through such a difficult time with your family, luckily i havn't had this experience and everybody in my family have accepted me for whom i am. All i ask is that you never give up, let them know that you're not bothered, even though you are.. and tell them that it's who you are and them being nasty about it isn't going to make you change.. They're you're family, blood.. so should stick by you for what you are and who you are, Gay people don't get it good in the outside world so what are you going to feel like if you're family are giving you crap? Not good, sit down and talk to them about it or talk to somebody that you're comfortable talking to and get them to talk to your grandmother..
2 people like this
@3cardmonte (5098)
•
5 Jun 09
I really do feel for you, my sister called me a freak when I came out as a lesbian and her friends have told me she still says it now.
My advice to you would be to ignore your grandmother, literally, do not talk to her, do not listen to her not even one word that she says.
F**k respect, it's a 2 way street, she is not deserving of your respect grandmother or not.
Never let anyone make you feel ashamed of who you are.
@jazzsue58 (2666)
•
29 May 09
I've got no problem at all with gays - some of the best times in my life have been with gay friends. They say you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family, and it's true.
Spend more time with your friends I guess, and keep your distance from those who hurt you. They'll learn. One day.
