Why do some people fall in love with a fellow of opposite gender?

I cannot really understand this Deepak, falling in love with the opposite gender?! Are we supposed to fall in love with the same gender?

Hello Dpk.......Well!well!....This is really not fair Dpk........How can any one share their SECRET of falling in love to you and to other mylottians...For if they reveal their "secret" on this open forum it will cease to be a secret and will become public proclamation of their views on falling in love........ But I can tell you what plays in the minds of such people....Its music no doubt... And the two important qualities that prompt a person to fall in love is that 1.the person is of opposite gender........and its a universally accepted fact that opposited attract... 2.Falling in love makes a person starry eyed and lose control over power of reasoning.....

I am not qualified to answer this because you know mine is an arranged marriage Deepak! But one thing I can say is that'oppossite poles attract ' and it is the law of nature thta people fall in love with the opposite gender for a few reasons--1 1]natural attraction that makes a person make the first move based on physical attraction. 2]instantaneous like/chemistry for some unknown reason.

With me, it was the way he makes me feel about myself.When we talk I feel like the only woman on the planet.And I was so happy when he said I make him feel happy. I fell for him quickly.we connected through talking and spending yime together. The one thing that sticks out is he kept me company as my team lost The Stanley Cup, the championship of ice hockey.without him, I would have felt sick to my stomach. but he was there I felt fine.And then I knew I loved him when I wished for his happines more than my own.I love himdearly and he loves me.

Hi dpk, how can we define love in this virtual world. It may not be love but an attraction of a kind between two opposite gender like the way the south pole attract the north pole of a magnet which we learned in school and was fascinated by this strong magnetic force of the metal. Likewise, it applies exactly to humans. The opposite attract while the same species repel. I can only guess that words that come out from an individual might have that magnetic force that pulls someone closer to one another of the opposite gender. Beautifully written words evoke curiosity on the readers mind which makes the mind restless and spur him/her to get to know the writer at close range. By and by the attraction becomes intense which will seep in deeper and deeper in the heart and soul without realizing that it has grown into something that is beyond explanation. The hearts start to stir madly at the mere sight of the avatar or the very thought the virtual person concerned. That is the secret magical love portion which I think has been spinning around a lot in the virtual world and maybe a lot in mylot, if anyone care and dare to admit that there is indeed feelings being planted on someone amongst us.

Hello my friend dpk262006 ji, I think everyone and each individual story will be a different one. May God bless You and have a great time.

Relationships are about getting our own needs met, often on an unconscious basis. In other words, we try to find someone who is complementary to us and can help us learn, heal, and grow.It can be fun to list what attracted you to one another when you first met, and what you continue to appreciate in one another.i like his intelligience,spontaniety and ambitious nature.

My husband and I became friends first, before falling in love. Falling in love was not the first thing on our minds when we met. After we became best friends, love just happened naturally, and then we decided that we loved eachother so much, we wanted to get married. We have had a wonderful life ever since. The secret is to become friends first.

At some point Deepak this discussion is funny. The question suggest that you rather understand falling in love with the same gender..... Anyway, falling in love is not restricted (as we know) to the same gender. The anatomy and physiology of love is always the same. People subcutaneously pick up the best person to be mother or father for future babies, or the best companion for friendship...we pick up the same or similar vibrations of other person body....and suddenly our heart start running much faster and faster... Your question suggest that only few people fall in love and only few people marry person they fall in love with... I know that in India arranged marriages are a norm, when in Europe and America people usually marry the person they fall in love with... HUGS

Hahaha....can you tell me who came first?The chicken or the egg? I think why/ when/ how do people fall in love has been an incessant quest for humans. Do not try to understand the basics just enjoy being in love. However, lust and infatuation happen due to hormonal secretion but love is beyond that. Its beautiful. Falling for opposite gender is most cliched yet most intriguing. I have found people of extremely opposite behavioral pattern, culture, opposite mannerism, likings and did likings! My friend who used to fantacize about a handsome hunk, chivalrous and dark married the man who is absolutely opposite and that too he fell in love and then married him! Isn't it strange!Well Love is.

I think its very natural. it is said, people who are friends first, then lovers are very good in relationship. As friend the level of comfort is very high from initial stage. Becoming lover is something very natural when they feel there are more than something called friendships.

Hi. When you say 'some people fall in love with a fellow of opposite gender'. What do you actually mean? So you think that most people fall in love with a fellow of same gender?

Hello dpk262006, I am married to a man that I love so much. Guess, I am a lucky person. I had a terrible experience in relationship before that it took me almost 6 years to recover and be my usual self. When I met my husband for the first time, the love just sparked and after a few months, I knew that I can't live (happily) without this man. I took a year to get to know him and got married later. For me, he is the only man that I met (after I broke up with my first ex boy friend) that makes me forget about the sad pasts and he was able to make me smile again! He is a few year younger than me too but I am so much amazed at his maturity in life, and he is the only person (who is younger than me) who can really make me listen to his words!

I think that the thing that makes a person fall in love is the strong connection they feel to the other person. It is a matter of finding someone that you feel like is always on your side and is your better half. It is someone that cares for you so much that they would do anything for you and you for them. It's the feeling you have when your around them..like your heart beating fast for no reason and being so happy that you feel like you could bust..lol..chemistry plays a great part in it too.

I guess that they see a strong person that they can share experiences with, falling in love is the craziest thing that can happen to you. All reasoning goes out the window and the only person that matters to you in world is somebody else, its the most selfless act I've ever seen. I equate true love to the feeling of a warm towel out of the dryer and it being wrapped around you on a cold night.

What exactly is a meaning of fellow of opposite gender? I mean this is an unsaid rule that a girl would fall in love with a boy and a boy will fall in love with a girl, isn't it? For me, I have not been in love, so I can't tell why a guy gets an attraction from a girl!

You don't choose who to fall in love with. It just happens. I could have just as easily fallen in love with someone of the same gender as myself. But, I didn't... I fell in love with someone of the opposite gender. I think once you realize that you have fallen in love you can't just shake it off and go back to the way you were before.

It is indeed a mysterious thing. True love just happens...no need to question it. Just let it happen see where it goes from there. Sometimes people like someone but they try too hard to actually love them....then they fools themselves into thinking that they actually did fall in love with them, however this is not true love in my opinion. You can't force a good thing to happen.

I don't know why they fall in love with a fellow gender. I don't like it. Having a relatioship with the opposite gender is the ideal one. Sorry people out there. No offense.