does friendship really exist in a marriage?

United States
May 29, 2009 2:07am CST
I am still single, and in most relationships that I have had the friendship leaves the minute the "relationship" enters. Will it be different when I find "the one?" Is there a chance that a friendship can occur with the lovey stuff? Is the friendship really there and is masked, or disquised or transformed into something that I just can't understand at my age?
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@samar12 (991)
• India
29 May 09
Yes it does exist at least for me it does. I never thought I could get my husband as the best-friend.We have become best friends and I don't even get in touch with my older friends to hang out with or talk to sharing things to. We share about each and everything to each other. Even if some girl proposes him or anything in his professional life happens he just comes to me and I do the same.I think its quite possible to have your partner as you best friend.
@jjasmine (99)
• Philippines
29 May 09
I think it is quite scary to even contemplate that you cant have friendship with the person you choose to spend your life with. friendship, love, trust, communication, etc should all be present in both marriage and long term intimate relationships.
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@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
29 May 09
I guess there is always friendship in a relationship whether it is romantic or not. I think there is just a slight difference if you go further beyon the friendship but it can exist in a romantic relationship still.
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@tomcat23 (622)
• Old Forge, Pennsylvania
29 May 09
Friendship is the base of a relationship. You build on that friendship, because in the 49 years I've been around, I've found that without friendship, there really isn't much to go on. In my opinion, based on my own personal experience, its often the friendship that keeps the relationship from falling apart. You're still young and don't be surprised if you find "the one" in someone you least expect.