What kind of person is that?

I dont know if they were abused but I would bet that they definately had very controling parents there is a high potential for abuse but I wont say always they feel like because they never had control growing up they HAVE to have it always now even when it comes to stupid stuff that dont ammount to anything

I really don't understand this type of mentality.. I am not a vengeful person at all.. I usually only carry a grudge for 24 hours! lol! seriously! if that long. I have found that when I carry a grudge and it's to the point of being vengeful that I am the loser in the situation already.. because I am so miserable.. so I let it go.. so I can feel peace. However, I know people who are willing to carry a grudge till the bitter end.. and want nothing more than to inflict the same pain on someone that they feel they have suffered.. again, I don't understand this mentality.. I will be following this discussion.. hopefully we can find out WHY.. I've wondered this many times myself, just recently.

It can be an anger thing... But also A territorial thing A power thing A control thing Most people today are angry about something. And they usually take their anger on the people who are the closest to them... because they cannot get at the people who have made them angry. It is very wrong to do so... And those people have big issues in anger management. But the thing you are talking about... is more of a power and control thing. By paying you back x10 They are telling you... I am the boss... and don't you forget it They want to scare you into submission. They want control over you. And if you fight back... It is very likely that their next move will be to hit you. Those people are angry and frustrated with their life. So they want to upset everybody else life. Because the only thing which make them happy... is to see someone who is suffering more than they do. They need to justify their existence. They need someone to tell them "they are right". But because of their rotten behaviour... nobody will ever tell them that. So what we have here... is a bully wanting you to recognise him as more important than you... so that he can feel good about himself.

They definitely seem to have some anger management issues! Maybe they never learned to play nice with the other kids when they were in first grade

It won't matter to know, we will never understand. It's quite complicated to put our shoes into theirs coz they have serious issues. There are alot of maniacs in the world and even though laws are being enforced they're still their coz you won't understand what's in their minds. Let's say for example, in the mind of a serial killer or a murder, you can kill a person in one shot, why do they have to torture their victim, coz they love to hear anguish and pain... Its not tolerable on a normal person to see someone suffering while in fact they are enjoying it. Its their pleasure to see someone else crying for help... they're merciless... they are angry people as well. Most studies show that they have psychological defect and they can't seem to control it, so someone evil is really driving them to do something that's worse. Being angry is not a sin but beyond unreasonable anger where you'll hurt someone or kill someone, that person has serious issues and I don't wish to know why coz it will definitely make me sick.

I think that's someone you should avoid drawing the attention of.

I think that someone with that kind of mentality does need to talk to someone about it. Anger is never good and they need to resolve the anger and learn to not be so hostile, or abusive. Did this happen to you? I'm sorry if it did. Regardless of whether someone throws something up in the air and doesn't catch it, it's not littering until they don't pick it up!