My grand twins are Three on Wednesday and I have a BIG problem

It depends on what issues the children have as to what would be appropiate. I am going to be honest with you, I applaud you, so many children with disabilities get left out of parties etc as the parents do not want to deal with the issues. Just plan a fun party, do not think that these children can not do things, you will be amazed at what they can do.. Also as I have multiples I will tell you some things I do to make their birthday special. I get each of them their own birthday cake, I order the smallest cake I can so that each has their own. I also let them invite their own friends, and do not do a theme party. As they all three like different things. I do have theme cakes, for example this year Douglas had a worker cake,(bulldozer he called it a worker cake) Kalie of course had princess and JM had a music cake. I also sing happy birthday three times in birth order. They have to share so much and this is their special day, each of them should feel special on their day..

I think the best thing for you to do is to think of a way to ask the sitter or parents without being rude, "what does your child prefer to play with?" etc, so that the children won't be bored or frustrated at toys they don't yet understand.

it is hard to say because I would have to know how they are challenged to know what is a good activity and even then since my training was not with these types of people I would not really know. I think you should discuss with the parents what activities would be appropriate for them.

That depends on how challenged the children are....a simple project....take a round coffee filter..let them color it with markers......then drop little droplets of water on it until the colors run together.....gather it up in the middle and secure it with a snap clothes pin.....take a pipe cleaner or something like that...and make some antenna.....put two eyes on the clothes pin and you have a butterfly!!!!!

That is difficult to say. I would suggest that you ask the parents of the children what type of things their children enjoy and kind of go from there. You could just do the playing thing as well since the twins are only 3.

i wish your grand kids a happy birthday and most kids will let you know what they like to do if they like to color or play in the yard or they might like to play games. my daughter's birthday is tomorrow but she will be 40 and i will be going to her home.enjoy your party.

I'm not really sure. I think they will just have alot of fun being around the other kids. I would suggest to their parent to bring something that is safe for them to play with ir do or suggest something to you.

Hi Cynthiann, I had this predicament at my sons fourth birthday party and all I done was pass the parcel, put music on and let them get on with it and a great time was had by all. Children are children whether pyschically or developmentally challenge and will enjoy and have fun anyway. Just relax and enjoy and they will too. Huggles. Ellie :D

I think just letting them play in the yard will be enough. Maybe have some balloons or bubbles to blow available for them to do something of that nature. If it's warm and you have a little kiddie pool for them to splash in. Honestly it doesn't take much for kids to occupy themselves, and even when you plan out a bunch of games and activities, they don't go according to plan. Just be prepared with toys and stuff to occupy them if they do end up getting bored.

I THINK IF ALL CHILDREN ARE JUST LET LOOSE TO PLAY AS THEY WISH THEY ARE HAPPIER. So many times if u try to plan things for them it doesn't work out well. Children can always entertain each other. Hope y'all have a good time. happy birthday to the twins.

Hi cynthiann Boy you don't make life easyfor yourself do you LOL . I am sure a good old game of pass the parcel would be just fine and musical bumps would be nice for them to play too, I try to avoid musical chairs was involved in several accidents myself as a child playing that!! LOL I am sure that if they have carers with them they will cope with these games ok and then I would leave them to run around together and play chase! When I did my latest party for one of my boys instead of giving a prize to the winner of the games I bought some really cheap (and I mean cheap) medals, the kids were made up! Hope this helps. Let me know how you get on!

You are good in your thought, even i feel that it is important for them to give the importance so that they feel happy.