Have you ever lost a friend by telling the truth?

I would have been elated that I was told the truth from someone who cared and I wouldn't have broken off the friendship..in my mind the friendship should have deepened. Did she stick with the person?

Sometimes, people just do not want to hear the truth. Sometimes they can't handle the truth. Sometimes asking people to step outside their delusions or the illusion that they are always right is too much for them. Such people are not often what you might normally call friends. Now, some people tell the truth in an rude and unpleasant way. However, just telling someone information they really need to hear but do not want to admit shouldn't end a relationship if they are really interested in being your friend to begin with.

I think it is still better to be honest and risk losing the friendship. You will also end up losing the friendship if you knew that the guy cheated and you kept silent, your friend will think that you betrayed her. At least, even if she did get mad at you, in the end,she will realize that you did only what you think was best because you cared about her.

This incident is not about "telling the truth," it is all about minding your own business. Lets face it- What these 2 people were doing was None of your business, and you had no business telling her. If you had kept quiet about it, you would not have lost a friend, and everything would have come out ok without your input. Just because its the truth for someone else, does not make it your business, unless you are directly involved.

Some people just don't want to be told the truth because reality hurts. I've been in a few situations like that and had both good and bad outcomes. Bottom line, I'd rather have friends who appreciate me for my honesty anyways. Honesty shows a lot about a person's charactor, and I'd definately want someone to be honest with me if I was in that situation.

Several years ago? Maybe you two should've tried to fix the problem back then so as not to lose your friendship. Maybe back then your friend was just too happy with his guy that she couldn't accept reality. And since you were the one closest to her when that reality came out, she plugged her outbursts to you. Anyway, I haven't experience such situation in my life. And I thank God for that because I really don't wanna lose any of my friends. I hope you and your friend could patch things back together. ;)

Yes. I suppose so. I do not think they were my actual friend to begin with though. Most people remain friends and they welcome the truth.

I have read your discusison on letting your friend know about his wife cheating on her and in turn he got divorced and married another woman. I think you did a right thing and if that friend is not understanding your value then let him live his life. You can't do anything with it. He will sooner or later realize your importance. For me, it hasn't happened with me yet.

Well yes, it has happened to me and no matter what i tell her she is not ready to accept it.......although the case is slightly different with me.......she is still my friend, but not the one which i had before.....she still has the bitter feelings of that time......but substantially i am trying to get back to her and eventually she has realized that i was upfront about something and was actually good thing.....lets see when i can get her 100% back !!!!

Surely are because they got angry with me having to tell the truth. But to me, they won't dare me of such truth if they are doing that truth to do a non considerable acts then saying I am wrong? They should think of themselves that being true is not meant to be a bad action rather its the movement to let them know they are wrong. Sorry guys, but you don't seem to be taking that truth with what you have to accept as your fault.

I haven't faced a situation as you faced but what you did, may be was the right thing. I personally feel that you could have acted differently. certainly go and tell your friend that somebody cheated on her but I am not sure the process you used to convey your message. You know something relationships are very delicate and to tell somebody about someone who is close to that person is a risky proposition. It may back fire as well. That is exactly what happened with you. Nevertheless, I am with you for what you did.

haven't experienced it yet. But if I were your friend I would have listen to you and retain our friendship. One should trust a friend and should be thankful that you have a friend that have guts to tell you the truth even if it hurts. then i'll ask my guy's side about what I've learn

People are crazy when it comes to accepting the truth. Their ego stops them from believing hard facts. You wanted to help her and see what she has done with her life! Hmmm! I personally don't advise people, especially the dogmatic ones who wouldnt listen to us no matter what. In such circumstances, I certainly would. Because it would be our duty to warn them. Don't care about the person now. She had a choice. She took hers. You should take yours by remaining indifferent to the person's existence! The sad truth is, people dont want to hear the truth. They can accept flattery very well! But not the acrid truth! Strange world!

I lost a milion of friend by telling the truth ... My best friend's boyfriend was cheating and I told her and showed her a prove since then we dont met anymore ... so I decided some peoples are born to be losers and cheated ... so leave 'em alone