Did your friend always ask you a favor?
By clorissa123
@clorissa123 (4926)
United States
May 29, 2009 10:27pm CST
So, if you have a friend who always ask you a favor. Because he/she needs help at the moment, and due to this friendship, you were glad to extend your hand to help. When you were in need of favor from him/her, he/she simply find an excuse to reject your request. What kind of friend is that? What would you do if you have a friend like that? I would simply never answer his/her calls ever again.
10 responses
@MANSHAA (324)
• India
1 Jun 09
if friend needs any favor i will be ready to do it.. always when even he or she needs it....
and that doesn't mean that i aspect same from them to do it... its there wish to do me a favor or not its completely there decision...
but i don't want my friends to be spoon feeder...as if i do them favor they will be lacking in there work too... so just think and do it...
@puneetchhokra (214)
• India
30 May 09
I will never help him again If He did it with me..Simply I will become professional with him as he dont know my need then Why I understand his need..Very simple..Ya firstly I will help him but if he refuse me to help me in future I will never helped him.I have lots of this kind of example in my life..One of my friend was totally depend on me when we were doing graduation..He always take my bike car and money I never refused him..But this time he is earning more the me but he refused how mean he is
@siddharthjeevan (645)
• India
30 May 09
Not really.. my friends have always been there for my in my time of need. In fact a couple of friends have done more for me than i've for them. I greatly indebted to them and will always help them whenever they need me just like they did for me
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
30 May 09
Well, I can't really demand from my friend to make sacrifices just to help me, but I would really appreciate it if she does. I don't make friends only because they will be of use to me someday. I make friends because I like their company and we share common interests. I would probably be disappointed if she doesn't help me but I will not take it against her or make it a reason to end our friendship. Maybe her reason is really valid.
@lvjunjie (80)
• China
30 May 09
Well,to be honest ,I don't like people who is always ask somebody to help him .you know ,I don't mean I am a mean person .TO my mind ,he or she should learn how to live independent .DO your own business .If he or she get some big or very difficult things ,I am very appreciate to help him or her .A friend in need is a friend indeed .
@John4Christ (1597)
• India
30 May 09
Sometimes they are genuine and sometimes they are not......well when someone is faking you can easily make out.......he will never be assertive and confident about what he is saying.....it is always followed by little stumbling and stammering......so you can make out that your friend really does not want to help you.......well i would talk to that person, but would never have that trust in him again as i used to have before.....
Also i might turn down offers to help him if i have to go out of my way to do it......if it is within my limits with no harm, then i will still help him out.....
Have a nice day !!!!
@brisk123 (2823)
• India
30 May 09
Hello Clorissa, I know exactly what you are talking about.I have many friends, some are nice, good and honest but few are go getters type.They will call me, visit me only in times of crisis(when they need my favour)I had learnt my lessons a lot from such bitter experiences.When they need me, I always helped them no matter what.But when I need them even it is just for emotional support, they avoid me.But few are there, who are always there when I need them.I really appreciate such friends.They are the real friends.Rest who avoid you in times of need and distress, they are worst then enemies.Have a lovely weekend and God bless!
@narvzgarrison (233)
• Philippines
30 May 09
As i could remember, most of my friends didn't always ask me favor and in fact, it was equal situation for me and for them. I believe some of my friends now and before aren't taking advantage of me by just using me for their own benefit. And i am not that kind of person also who always ask favor to my friends if it's not so necessary and needed because i don't want them to think that i'm over passing the line of our friendship. At times when my friends asked me favor, sometimes i failed to do it because i can't do or give them what they wanted. It is not at all time that we can answer all the favor that our friends asked from us because we have to consider also the other things and circumstances that we might have on the other aspect.
@20062010 (34)
• China
30 May 09
I am sorry to hear that you have such kind of friend. If I were you, I would rather keep away from her or him. I don't think it is a kind of friendship that you need to cherish any more.
I have many friends but maybe not so many as you, but they are very kind to me and allway ready to extend their hands to me if I meet any difficulties. Of cause, I also willing to help them if they turn to me for help. Actually, most of time my friends would just like me to be their listener when they feel bad or upset. They seldom asked me for money or other thing else.
I have a good friend and she is also my former classmate. We now keep a good relationship with each other. We have a lot in commom. We would go shopping together and sometimes study together.I am very glad to have her as my friend.
@qiyunhai (254)
• China
30 May 09
seldom. only when my friend meet big difficult will ask me help, soemtimes it's money need,but most time ,my friend jsut want t o fidn a person to speak what he meet and what teh difficul is, or want to hav e a drunk togetehre.
true friend only help in necessary matter