Do u like to gossip others' private things? What are u doing when others gossip?
By hiddenwing
@hiddenwing (3719)
China
May 30, 2009 7:45am CST
We had a party last night! At the dinner party, others were gossiping others' private things and skeleton in the closet all the time. They got happier to laugh at others' awkward things. I thought it was so boring. I was supposed to be a talktive person sometimes. But at the party, I just kept silence. Is it funny to talk about others' dirty laundry?
For example, they talked about someone's feeblemindedness child. They talked about someone would never do a good job. They laughed at someone's ugly girlfriend. Anyway, they talked about others' things they wouldn't like to mention or things that would make others having a flush!
I hate to laugh at others' drawback!
So, every time, when people told me to look at some weird people with a laugh, I just avoided the guy!
Do you like to gossip?
I think it is no big deal to gossip others' good things or some superstar's life. But once comes to others' wound, does it make sense to talk about it or laugh at it?
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18 responses
@shikaymaru (700)
• Malaysia
30 May 09
I don't like gossips as well. There are no point to it and I won't get anything if I do. These kind of person I would avoid.
My sister is a gossiper. When we had a chat and she starts to gossip. I ask her to change the subject straight away.
Sometimes the media get a bit irritated. They're good at twisting story, and it kind of pretty obvious.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
1 Jun 09
Yeah, I don't like to talk about things with gossipy people. There are lots of other interesting topics. Why not they choose them?
@shikaymaru (700)
• Malaysia
1 Jun 09
One of the reason is they like to compare themselves, and it makes them like they are better. Hmmmm...
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
30 May 09
I have never liked this and try to avoid people who gossip about other people's private business. Making fun of anyone is wrong and potentially hurtful to innocent people so that's terribly wrong. Because I live in a very small town where most folks know each other, with a large extended family on my husband's side living here as well, there have been times when someone I know has been gossiping about someone else I know and I find those situations to be as awkward as you did. No one is perfect...everyone makes mistakes, everyone has problems from time to time...their misfortunes shouldn't be used as a form of entertainment by others.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
31 May 09
"Their misfortunes shouldn't be used as a form of entertainment by others." I admire that you say it.
So, people should not be so curious of other people's awkward things. They should know that these people feel shame to mention it. Why we have to hurt these poor guys?
Take care!
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
31 May 09
"their misfortunes shouldn't be used as a form of entertainment by others". I admire it you say that. It sounds so great
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
31 May 09
I royally hate gossippers. They get on my last nerve. they need to mind their own business and do what they need to do for themselves and stay out of other people's business. I stay away from gossippers.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
7 Jun 09
I get it. Next time, when people gossip, I'd better stay aways from them. Then, it is much better to do that.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
7 Jun 09
Yeah, their happiness was just based on the scence of others' joke? How pathetic of others. Oh my!
Good luck!
@imajerseygirl (433)
• United States
30 May 09
That is bothersom. I mean I am not perfect, and I know I am not, so I believe that alone does not give me the right to talk about anybody. If you think someones girlfriend is not pretty, who cares she is not with you she is with the man that she is with who does think she is pretty. People are so ignorant sometimes it is annoying. No one is perfect, and we were all created differently cause otherwise the world would be a very boring place, but I don't think it gives anyone the right to talk like that about anyone. (Can you tell I hate gossip?) :)
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
31 May 09
Yeah, I hate to gossip! I think if the people who were gossiped happened to know it, they would get hurt. When we talked with someone, someone gossiped others' private things that others didn't wanna mention. In the absence of us, someone will gossip ourselves too. This is annoying!
@imajerseygirl (433)
• United States
31 May 09
I truly believe what I tell my son, if someone gossips or talks about you they are jealous of you.
@dianamunoz1 (125)
• United States
31 May 09
Im not a very big gossiper but it runs in my fiances family and I got into it one time where I mentioned something to the girlfriend of my brother in law and she told her boyfriend and he told my mother in law it was a big deal and everyone came to my house and ganged up on me when it came down to it my brother in laws girlfriend did not stand up and say everything that she tells me about how they talk about me it made me so mad but i did tell my mother in law and sister inlaw that i know everything that they say about me and that I didn't go to their house because I feel like all they do is watch me to see what they can say I do wrong I learned my lesson I will keep my mouth shut from now on no matter what people tell me so know gossip just leads to a lot of drama
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
6 Jun 09
Yeah, I totally agree with you! Sometimes, people get us wrong and they pass it. As a reasult, something dramatic happens.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
30 May 09
I don't like gossip. It doesn't interest me. Any gossip that I hear never sticks in my mind so I am a lousy gossip. I never remember any juicy stuff. I could talk about computers and the internet and it would make a lively conversation for me but gossip, I am never going to be good at. Cheers!!
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
1 Jun 09
You are quite right. The can either talk about the news or study the good aspects of others. Why the only choice of theirs is to gossip?
@ellie333 (21016)
•
30 May 09
Hi Hiddenwing, I am like you, I cannot stand gossip at all and if I feel I cannot say anything nice about a person I just don't say anything. It is a shame that some people thrive on this. I won't get ivolved in conversations like it, I will try to change the subject to something positive or walk away from the conversation somehow. Huggles. Ellie :D
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
31 May 09
Haha, last week, someone just showed off a picture that he took. "See, this is someone's new girlfriend. "He said,"How ugly she is."
"Is she really that ugly?" Another one said, "That's so funny!"
Then, all the folks on the scene went to the one who held the pic. Only me just sit there. I was not interested. Why bother laughing at others' businesss! If that was really a funny thing, it would be in poor taste. lol.
Have a great day!
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
2 Jun 09
Bible is great! I will tell others bible warns us about that! So, don't they dare to gossip again? :D
@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
30 May 09
Yes. "Sarah Anderson farts in her sleep. Pass it on." Gossip is fun and you get to laugh at people. "Betty Wilson kissed a mule on the lips. Pass it on." It's fun until you're on the other end of it. "Nancy Clay wore a tanktop backwards at the wedding. OMG!! She wore a tanktop to a wedding? Yeah, I know right. What a lowlife scum!!" Some people say it's cruel to gossip but its a human social behavior. "Cindy has a hairy upper lip and her husband is a fat turd. " Gossiping serves a number of purposes. I could go into detail but you would probably be better off with wikipedia. "The Henderson's actually used toilets for seats instead of couches. They said it was on an episode of 'Design on a Dime' on TLC. They are sooooo poor. teehee!"
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
1 Jun 09
Hehe, you are so talented. Anyway, they have the right to gossip! I just don't want to take part in.
@abanerji (1026)
• India
30 May 09
i don't like to listen to other peoples' gossip. actually, those who discuss people and their problems are average minds. i like to be in the company of people who either discuss events or discuss ideas. there is no point in discussing someone's problem or drawback if you cannot be of any help.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
30 May 09
I would like to discuss events, ideas, and other interesting things like movies, games, or just cats and dogs.
Lots of people like to gossip or bit*** about something.
I just don't like to go with the tide!
Have a great day!
@akifu622 (102)
• China
30 May 09
Gossip likes seasoning matter at a party, or in any other social gathering.People are universally interested in others' personal affairs.It's like human nature.
We are of he same mind about gossiping,and I do hate to stand with a handful of girls chewing the fat.It's shameful actually.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
1 Jun 09
Maybe that was called curiosity. However, they shouldn't make fun on the base of others' sadness. haha
@xoxcharityxox (567)
• United States
30 May 09
I can't stand it when people try to involve me in gossip. I feel like people who need to focus on other people's flaws are really just insecure with themselves. I know I'm not perfect and I have flaws, but it would bother me if people who I thought cared about me got a joy out of them. That's narcassistic and just indicates they are selfish.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
2 Jun 09
I totally agree with you! They think they will feel better to gossip others' faults. Actually, they are wrong.
@kaorulen (258)
• Philippines
30 May 09
of course not! because i abide the golden rule. when my friends starting to talk about that i will remind them the golden rule i tell them that if you gossip others private things they will be a great chance that will some one will do it also to them. so if they don't want to be hurt just stop doing that. and its unethical right? gossiping others just like that. the victim was so poor.. :(
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
1 Jun 09
I agree with you! Maybe the gossipers will become the victims themselves. They could imagine that others might gossip them as well. How would they feel then?
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
31 May 09
It sounds like the ppl talking about others must lead awfully boring lives to have to spend an entire evening gossiping. Why not talk about their own kids, their jobs, hobbies, world events, interests, books they've read? Talk about what they've been doing in their own life.
I've always thought that ppl that have to gossip about others are either extremely bored about with their lives or they are trying to make themselves look better by making someone else look worse. I have a brother that does that...he puts others down so that ppl are busy talking about them and not talking about his problems.
I think you did well not to join in.
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@blackmargaret (1)
• China
31 May 09
i am agree with the cockloft's opinion,but sometimes there is no way out of this,i don't what to do about this,but i am sick of it!!!
