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@imajerseygirl (433)
United States
May 30, 2009 9:02am CST
Its funny I responded to a discussion almost about this yesterday, so I guess now it is venting. I have 3 kids. A 3 year old girl, going through the mine! stage. A 7 year old girl, the best way I can explain her in short is trying to find her place, and an 8 year old boy who thinks nobody believes him, cause he always trying to get things his way. All three of them think they are "sneeky". Yes, probably one of the worst traits that they got from me. My son is making me so mad right now! I allow them to play on my desk top on the weekends. An hour each kid and they rotate. My son is always trying to kick his sisters off before their time is up, and when he is on he sneaks in and says oh I am saving the game, (there is no saving the game, its just him trying to get more time). I am leaving for the store in a little bit and when I come back I am going to really make him mad at me, cause I am so sick of all this arguing, and I really don't want to have to punish all of them cause he wants to be greedy. I am buying a kitchen timer, and putting it in the room with the computer, and when they hear the bell your turn is over and that is it. If they are still on it after that bell, they lose privilege of using it for a week. (Summer vacation is in 1 week). The same thing for the tv. Do you think this is a good idea or am I just losing my mind cause I am angry right now? Any suggestions are more than welcome, I cannot deal with a whole summer of them arguing. Thanks
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@jziakhan (701)
• Pakistan
30 May 09
^_^, well those are some very cute children you have there, but they are just doing this because they want to have fun, mabye instead of allowing them to stand on top of your desk top, you could find some other way to keep them busy, if anyone of your child likes to read, buy him/her a book which is thick but also at their level of reading, that will keep atleast one of them busy for the whole summer, then there is the other two, okay, for the other 3 year old girl, buy her a toy or something like that, she might get bored of it in 3 weeks, but atleast it will keep her busy too, and for the last one, either the boy or the girl, try taking either one to the store with you, so that there curiosty builds when they see all those books and toys and candy inside the stores, and if you let them have it, they shall come to love you more, and listen to you more often, they already do that, but they will listen to you so much more you wouldn't belive it, so a book for one of them, a toy for the other, and company with the last one,
Good-luck, I hope you use these methods,
@imajerseygirl (433)
• United States
30 May 09
Thanks for the advice, but it is not the fact of a toy or a book. Its the fact that they are just trying to be greedy, at least my son. I allow them to play on the computer only on the weekends. The whole issue right now is the computer. Typical of a boy anything electronic, lol. They aren't terrible, its just cause they are allowed on the computer only saturday and sunday and they want to be on it. Always though they have to get off it from about 3-6 and play outside, and can go back on from 7-9. so I try to be fair, its just this whole sharing thing is an issue with them right now.
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
31 May 09
my 3 year old is an onlie but he is something in the computer. way back before my techie husband necessarily reformatted our computer there is a command called parental control where the computer screen blocks the picture showing an empty screen. this is commanded by the administrator (parent) account. this is clocked every hour. you can schedule when the children can use it (meaning time and day). they cannot change the schedule because they would need a password. 
@deebomb (15304)
• United States
30 May 09
Don't you know that is a kids job to drive parent to the brink. You are just at the beginning of the squabbling that your kids will do over the next few years. Stop and enjoy the ride. Learn to laugh at them. Then make them earn their time on the computer and have a set time as one of the other posters has said. Have the older two read and write for every hour they want to play on the computer. It will improve their reading and writing skills. Have them practice spelling and hand writing for the privilege being on the computer. They could also do some memory work to keep their mind busy. Memorizing poetry or just the page out of a book they like. From now on you need to start worrying about your own sanity.
@wildcat48 (779)
• United States
31 May 09
you are not losing your mind,i think you have a good ideal,in fact i might do the same thing,so good luck and thank you for the ideal.
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
30 May 09
my two kids are like that before we get the other one a computer (from my sis in-law, a used laptop) so now each of them has one. but before that when there was only one computer for both of them, i gave them both time limit... now the oldest would always get her way, and the 7 year old would go downstairs sulking, when i see that i say time is up let your brother play, and then she goes wait im saving the game... i only tell them twice, if she will not budge in save or not save i pull the plug of the computer... same thing with the 7 year old, if i say time, its time to stand up and stop playing.
im the mom they're suppose to obey me... they know what happens when i get really angry, here kids are allowed to get spanked... so when they did really something wrong, and grounding doesnt work, they will have to let their butt hit, its spanking time, im fair, i give them both the same amount of spanking... now they learn how to share... 
without the fighting...
without the fighting...
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
30 May 09
My step daughter goes through this with her two boys and the playstation game so she changed the timing of when they can play so that one wasn't waiting for his turn. For instance, the younger boy could play for an hour in the afternoon but the older boy's turn wasn't until that evening so this encouraged him to go find something else to do. It's hard for young kids to wait for their turn and, even though they do need to learn this, if it's causing problems in your house, try to be creative. The kitchen timer idea is a good one because that takes away the argument that they didn't get their entire time. Hang in there...they'll eventually grow out of this.
