Do you think it's okay to crush on someone else while you're in a relationship?

@mira91 (985)
Singapore
May 30, 2009 8:45pm CST
As the title says, is crushing on someone considered as cheating? Sure you're not doing anything physical with that person but you like him/her and that's just cheating emotiotially in my opinion. But i guess it's okay so long as it doesn't go beyond crushing on him/her. Is that true? Share your opinion assuming the relationship is a long one.:D
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6 responses
7 Jun 09
I have a crush on someone right now! But I know it's ok because I am never going to do anything with him, I just want him as a friend and I know that but you can't help but go YUMM when you see someone you think is attractive can you?! And it's not like I am leading him on or anything, he probably has no idea at all and it will stay that way! I wouldn't tell my boyfriend either although he knows what famous people I think are good looking and vice versa. I think theres a point where you have been with someone for so long your eyes are going to begin to look elsewhere and it's only natural as long as you know you can trust yourself!
@glesil_00 (1142)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
It is not cheating, because you are only admiring the person who you have crush. Crush for me is a strong admiration to the person because you found something good or nice and beauty within the person but if you exclude that nice and wonderful thing you will not feel crush. It is not cheating for me. You are not into a relationship aside from your present if you have crush to someone else.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
31 May 09
In my opinion, if you take anything away from the primary relationship, you're wrong. Everyone is going to find someone else attractive at one time or another but allowing yourself to become emotionally attached to another person, whether in reality or fantasy, takes attention and thought away from your partner. You always have to ask yourself how you would feel if you were on the other side of the situation.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
31 May 09
I don't consider it wrong.There is no room for cheating.We are loyal to our relation and that crush is just a kick in the life and nothing more.We are not trying to take steps to make the crush into a relationship.So,it is part of life and nobody will deny this.In fact,everybody will have a crush apart from the relationship,I swear.Cheers!
@elghrasya (501)
• Philippines
31 May 09
I think there's nothing wrong if you have crush on someone else while you're in a relationship as long as you will not make a commitment with this someone else. For me it's not cheating just like what you've said just don't go beyond.
• Philippines
31 May 09
Nope. It's not cheating, for me crush only means attraction w/o love. In a relationship there's love. That's it.period..