will you tell your girlfriend/boyfriend your past experience?
By wxx0418
@wxx0418 (44)
China
May 30, 2009 9:32pm CST
After a period of romance and painful strugle, you will have some new friends and new sweethearts. The days you spend will be sweet and pleasurable. Maybe he or she is smart enough not to ask your past, though eager to know it: how deep you fell in love with someone and how you split up. will you tell him or her?
Will you hide it, keep silent or choose to delete that part of memory?
3 responses
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
31 May 09
i wold most likely tell them bits and pieces when the times right for some things. you can ask them and it can help both of you understand each other better. to know what may be something to avoid cause it does cause a lot of pain, or when not to push to much.
@amybrezik (2118)
• United States
31 May 09
I tell about who I am. You react to future relationships based on pased ones. And, your past makes you who you are. It's nothing to be ashamed of
@b0naf1de (111)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I believe this would depend alot on the current person you are seeing. For some cultures this is not applicable where they only date and marry one person for their entire lifetime. For the rest of us, in my personal opinion it would be wise to diligently take note of that person's movements and how they act. If they are a jealous person they most likely would be hurt if they knew (if you have) been more involved with someone else than them. So really, it's all about playing your cards right and in some cases, even if such a person eventually finds out, things might get bitter, so it is best to determine the kind of person a bit early on and then its your choice wether or not to discontinue such a relationship if it may not last as you intended or simply let it fade away. I think you shouldn't have to lie to keep a relationship. You should safely be able to share with your current mate the past situations because sooner or later one of your ex might pop up and start bragging right up in her face at the mall or something - then what are you going to do? You should be able to take things slowly and release little bit by little bit if thats what either one of you or both of you want. But there's going to be those relationships where the two of you just don't want to go back there - just looking forward, most likely because of a negative past. So more or less the best route is one where you could tell the past but where it can't affect the current in any negative way.