Is she really a friend??
By kiss_me2070
@kiss_me2070 (277)
May 31, 2009 11:54am CST
I have a friend who I find really annoying and really rude sometimes. For example on her birthday Im the only one who went out with her for it and I paid for loads of drinks and she asked me to pay for her entry and she would give me some money back for it before she left home. Anyway, we were in the club and I ran out of money which she knew and I tried to fidn her in the club and found out she had gone and left me stranded in town with no money to get home at 3:20am. The walk home would be at least 50mins!
The next example is my birthday this weekend, we were all travelling to the town and she sat on a seat by herself and when I tried to include her in the coversation she didn't want to know. When we were in the bar she was standing on her own and I asked her to come over and stand with us but she said she didn't want to. She knows all my friends and we always all go out together. She never bought me 1 drink and about 2hrs later she left to go the club to meet other friends and said she would meet me in there. I went to the club and never saw her all night.
Im getting sick and tired of the way she is, she's rude and never makes any effort to join in with conversations. Instead she always stands there texting on her phone! Is she a friend or not??
11 responses
@MANSHAA (324)
• India
1 Jun 09
i guess she is just using u a lot...i think you should dump her to make her feel your presence and that you to are her friend....
if you keep on going at the back of her she will always neglect you... and you will lose your importance among your friends
@angelbelle578 (1635)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
For me she is not a friend. She didnt even care about you and she didnt give you importance. I dont want to accuse her but I think she's only there because you buy her drinks. You spend your own money for her. Maybe she's just taking advantage of it. A real friend will not leave you alone in a place and the fact that she knew that you dont have money because of her she still leave you behind. She doesnt deserve you as a friend.
@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Might be that is her originality, I mean her behaviour
and hobbies. Sometimes she does with her important issues
in life that is why she gonna do that. She is confident in
herself that you and her is very close to each other.
She has the trust in you of what she did thats why she tries
you like it.Yes but you are the only one can handle and
adjust with her.
@felelis (96)
• Thailand
1 Jun 09
If I am you, I'll surly broke the relationship with her.
Are there any reason that you don't left her? If there aren't any, I suggest you to stop hanging out with her. What she do to you is really bad. And if you feel bad, annoy, then you two should just stop be friends, since she will not do any good to you.
@ayanqing (6)
• China
1 Jun 09
I do not think she is or is not your friend's problem,The problem is or is not a good friend? Obviously,you think she is not your good friend,In that case,you can not put her feelings on such an important status,ohly when her friends in general,Met on the chat,No not contact.It's as simple as just.
@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Honestly, she doesn't sound like she's your friend. I'm sorry. On her birthday she sounded like she completely used you. Especially leaving you with no money trying to find a way home. You really don't need anyone like this in your life. You sound like you have many friends and honestly it probably wouldn't be that big of a loss if she acts like this towards you.
@savetheunlikely9 (390)
• United States
31 May 09
I would have to say no to your question.
It sounds like she doesn't really care about you, I don't know, that's my impression at least.
I know for fact that I wouldn't want friends that are that rude to me - I wouldn't put up with it.
Friends should be grateful, and make hanging out fun - especially on your birthday of all days? I think you should try talking to her, tell her how you've been feeling lately about that things that she does. Give her a chance to fix things, and start treating you better. If she doesn't, I'd end the "friendship"
@Hurray (64)
• Canada
1 Jun 09
Honey: You are answering your own question...
You better do something about it because you have become critical of this person and that's a sign that is not putting you in a good light.
I know when we try to help someone and it didn't work, that's what happens. We feel critical. And that's not good. Because it doesn't make us feel good.
To have good relationship, we need to feel good with ourselves. If someone bring us down, we need to inspect that and take some decisions.
I suggest you look: Is she like this with other people?
Why do you stick with someone who aggravates you? That's another inspection you need to do.
Start there and see what happens.
Hurray
@abigailsavan1976 (79)
• United States
1 Jun 09
No she is not. You should just let this girl go. A real friend would never abandon you at 3 in the morning without a care in the world. Something really bad could have happened to you. She does not care about you what so ever. I could not sleep knowing you were out there alone like that. It seems to me that she is more worried about herself than about anyone else in this world. Let her go. You deserve to be treated better than that.
@brokenwings24 (90)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
No i dont think you can consider as a friend of yours because a definition of a true friends come in different meaning depending on how you see it , a friend is there through thick and thin ,in good times and bad times if you treat her as your friend maybe you are in a wrong choice i must you can consider as a person you can hang with buT not as a friends,since on your description she doesnt want to be involve in your conversation you can eliminate her already as one of your friends.She is like a leech who remember you when she needs s0mething on you which is n0t a go0d sign to accompany with.Hope i can give you a go0d advice..
