Gay Friends

I am glad you all feel the same way....its just disturbing. Im going to have to say something to him.....its really botherin me! I dont want to lose a friend, but in a way you would think he would understand that I live a completely different love life, plus I dont tell him what I do in that matter!!! Thanks again for helping me out!!

I agree. Do be nice, though, or you might cause some speculation over him bothering you because of the fact that he is gay. (I know this isn't true) That would really turn your relationship into a sensitive mess. You two will really have to be understanding with each other. Try to release some tension in your telling him that he overdoes his descriptions (or if you're going to try to tell him not to describe such experiences at all, that too), perhaps by injecting mild humor into the talk. It does appear he's getting too bold in his conversation with you. While you two are close, let him know, gently, how discomforting his words may get you. Also, it appears, rather unfortunately, that he might just be overflowing with his lust. (Right now as I say it, I regret it - this is a tough topic to cover) You might sound the alarm with his private capers to him as well - but don't feel responsible for your friend. Remind him that you care, though! You could set a standard for him with what's good to talk about (who he loves, etc.) and what's not too correct for standard conversation (what he does in private, etc.) Reassure him it is nothing to do with him being gay, that it is simply a common matter of the appropriate and morally right. (And what you feel better with). Tell him it's all simple and that your limits are not outstanding (ie. due to him being what he is), but just for the common good, for keeping to right and usual standards. Hope I haven't rambled on too much. All the best!