Do you still love your mother even your mother hate you?
By hanah87
@hanah87 (1835)
Malaysia
May 31, 2009 10:38pm CST
Mother is a person who born us.Mother has sacrify her life and her own soul to born and grow us.Mother always love her children.But not all mother love their children.Maybe they have their own excusen to do that.Do you still love your mother even they dont like you or hate you?What is your opinion about this?
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14 responses
@daliaj (5674)
• India
1 Jun 09
I think I will do. But, I am sure that there a situation like that will never happen in my life. My mother is very nice and she always prays for me. I don't think any mother can hate their children. Similarly, it is difficult for the kids to hate their mother, even if the mother is mean to the kid.
@yaztocal (19)
• United States
1 Jun 09
You're right even though it seems aweful there are mothers who hate their children. I do not undetrstand it nor will I ever understand it. We like to think that it's an impossibility because no matter what, moms do make huge sacrifices when raising you. The first being the lack of sleep she gets every time she responds to your every cry. But the question is, if she hates you now, what makes us think she actually responded when we cried at night? she could have ignored us, let us get diaper rash and marinate in our own poop but perhaps she still cared when she gave a change of clothes, fed me, etc.
There are so many different types of mothers out there. Some are able to show their effection and some aren't. If you really think that your mother hates you, you don't have to show that hatred back. Just go with your instincts and how you feel.
Dad's on the other hand are different... I've hated my dad growing up and no matter what good he did, I resented him deep down but never showed him.
wishing you the best!
@madhu257 (1)
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17 Jun 11
I hope all those who posted comments do see my comments.
My wife hates our only son who is now 12 yrs old.
She has always done her duty of taking care of his needs but without love.
She is now(for about a year now) romantically involved with a young guy less than half her age and goes about it openly and my poor boy is has to witness it.
I became aware of all this recently(when I and when I confronted my wife that she has lost her own son by her behaviour she replied that she never had a son to lose.
She hated the child from the day he was born and from the first time she had to feed him. She said she used to throw things on the infant. I posted this comment when i read what you wrote "what makes us think she actually responded when we cried at night?". I realized it was I who woke up and picked up my son every time he cried while his mother slept.
I read all the other posts - they don't know and can never ever realize what it means to be hated(or even just not loved) by your own mother. I grew up with abundance of love and still am flooded with love from my mother and my sister and all my family. It is surprising I was able to even see what was happening to my son. Please be brave and do not feel guilt in hating your mother who had no love for you. She did nno sacrifice in giving birth to you. She just satisfied her biological animal instinct in giving birth to you. Do justice to yourself and hate your mother as she deserves to be. NO GUILT.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
10 Aug 09
I will still love her regardless of whatever she does to me. She is my mother and I can't stop loving her for any reasons. I don't think my mothe will do something which I don't like or which is against me. She is very supportive and gives me a lot of confidence whenever I am in a difficult situation. I love my mother forever.
@master101 (223)
• Indonesia
29 Aug 09
I donno why, but i could never really get along with my mother. I know about all the mambo jambo stuff, i grew up thinking that I was wrong, my mom (parents) always right. But then I realized, It "killing" my identity. Me and mom just so different, and I do have right to stood up for what I believe, even, in front of my own mom.
@a_motherstouch (176)
• United States
30 Aug 09
FIRST, You should always love your mother no matter what !
I can not see ANY Mother not loving her child.
Of course there are those who hurt or abuse their children and
are in my opinion very sick.
I had a strange relationship with my mother
we could not agree or get along very well,
during my entire life, I wonder did I ever say
I Love you Mom ? oh ,I think I did in a card or something..
We argued alot, would not speak for a year at a time,
then made up again.
TODAY, I wish I could go back and tell her I LOVE YOU
AND I AM SORRY for all the fights we had.
But she is gone, and the day she passed away she said:
I really need to see you please come and visit me,
I said maybe at the end of the week.
She insisted for me to come as soon as possible.
She passed away from a massive Heart attack That very afternoon!
ALWAYS LOVE YOUR MOTHER NO MATTER WHAT!
Blessings
@jacksonmo (15)
• China
2 Jun 09
Still now, I do not see that mother hate their children. But I do see young men discard their parents when they married.
@oyenkai (4394)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
I do not quite understand the question. I think it's because I do not know how it feels to be not liked or not loved by my mother. My mother is the most wonderful person in my life and the main reason that she is so wonderful is primarily because she loves me.
I believe that if there is no love from another person - in fact there is hate from her, even if she were someone's mother, it would be very difficult for a person to lover her back.
Maybe she regretted having a kid because it made her feel like she lost different opportunities in life for being a mother. Whatever the reason, I would never understand it and I hope to never encounter it in my life.
Thank you for your response on my discussion!
@jeiay41 (674)
• United States
5 Jun 09
I feel bad for you that your mother hate you. But fear not as my mother hate me every single day because of miss understanding. Hating your mom is just part of our life. If you dont experience every aspects of life you dont know how to react for it. I like it when my mom hate me, because i believe the more you hate the more you love.
@Youreyes4Today (2356)
• United States
4 Jun 09
Yes even though my mother didn't want to ever see me again, I loved her, She also knew this. How she knew this is I sent her flowers or small gifts at different times of the year. My mother God rest her soul, was an abusive person and she didn't hold anything back when she wanted to make a point of making you feel like you were no good to anyone. Still I loved my Mother, because she is the person who gave birth to me, if it wasn't for her and my father, I would not be here.
@rsanders26 (329)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
I agree! Our mother really sacrifices a lot inorder for us to see the beauty of the world. I love my mother so much as well as she did to me. I think there is no instance for a mother to hate her child. Our parents wants the best for us. We are from our mother's womb for nine months. But if she hates me, I would still love her unconditionally. For me, she owns my life. She feeds me from her womb up to now for me to live.
@thehelpplace (21)
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3 Jun 09
The mother love is like God's love; she loves us not because we are lovable, but because it is her nature to love, and because we are her children.
I think you need to read my post on "Before she was a mother… (now she's a mother). dedicated to all mothers". If your mother does not like find out the cause of the so called "hatred".
If she does not want to respond to you, find someone to speak with her in order to find out the reason(s) for her actions. What is called MOTHER is more than anyone of us can ever explain. They see things better because they know us better; most of them get grievances because we feel that now that we are adult, their effort over us is meaningless. We feel their opinion is out-dated and irrelevant to our age. Such things hurt them more than we can ever tell.
So, if your mother hates you, you just do your duty to her: Which is to care for her. The same way she did her duty to you while you were growing up.
Can you repay her for her sleepless night, her moment of pain, hunger and deprivation owing to her inability to bear to see you cry when you were sick as a child?
YOU CANNOT HATE YOUR MOTHER; JUST DO YOUR DUTY IN RETURN
@postlover (191)
• China
1 Jun 09
I don't know. my mom loves me very much.
love or hate? love can make someone feel happy, but hate can kill a person, because he/she will lose more chance to cherish everything around him/her.
so please choose love, even mom doesn't like you or hate you.
@Jayrent (127)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
My mother left us when i was six years old and i feel bitterness in that because her reason for leaving us was because of another man.
I do not knew what's happening that time but because i am father's boy i am not asking why she left us. I am not looking for her, but i am looking for my father, who did not left us after our mother went away with another man.
As of now, i can't say i love her because i am feeling bad of her.
