Dear Friend Collector Who Just Wants Friends For Referrals--I'M NOT INTERESTED
By pyewacket
@pyewacket (43903)
United States
June 1, 2009 12:08am CST
This really is trying my patience.
There are a few dense dweebs here who are obviously friend collectors with one thing in mind--to collect as many friends as possible for money making schemes and to spam us with referral links. If you deny their friend request since you realize all they are after are people to spam they don't get the hint and ask again....and again....and again...ARE THESE PEOPLE DENSE?? If I denied you once or more why are you asking me again?
There's one dweeb, wuss, putz in particular who has asked me SIX times---he's NEVER responded to any of my discussions and most of his topics of interest is, right you guess it--money making on-line
Well guess what? This putz has just asked me AGAIN..seven times now
Okay...just wondering...if a person is being obnoxious about repeated friend requests for possible spamming, can we report the person? There used to be a person here with only four points and had over 20,000 friends...Like duh? He's no longer here and was banned--can't help wonder if this is the same person that came back
There are a few dense dweebs here who are obviously friend collectors with one thing in mind--to collect as many friends as possible for money making schemes and to spam us with referral links. If you deny their friend request since you realize all they are after are people to spam they don't get the hint and ask again....and again....and again...ARE THESE PEOPLE DENSE?? If I denied you once or more why are you asking me again?
There's one dweeb, wuss, putz in particular who has asked me SIX times---he's NEVER responded to any of my discussions and most of his topics of interest is, right you guess it--money making on-line
Well guess what? This putz has just asked me AGAIN..seven times now
Okay...just wondering...if a person is being obnoxious about repeated friend requests for possible spamming, can we report the person? There used to be a person here with only four points and had over 20,000 friends...Like duh? He's no longer here and was banned--can't help wonder if this is the same person that came back18 people like this
39 responses
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I guess I have been blessed to not have been contacted by this person. I know it happens but I have not had to deal with the one you are describing. I do hope the person will leave you alone. There should be a way to block some users. We should be able to protect ourselves from such users.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I just peaked at your friends list and sure enough the person is there--you must have accepted him right away which is why he isn't plaguing you a zillion times
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@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I hear ya, there was one person who had 8 posts, was like the first person to request me, than PM me with money making stuff. I deleted and reported him - he's now one of those banned by mylot.
Makes me sick since there was a good, reliable member hit in that mass banning that we all know and love. He had over 17,000 posts.
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@KrazyKlingon (5005)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I don't think it was the same person that had four points & all those friends. The story I got from someone else who mentioned about him (I cannot recall hi name but I remember it starting with R) was that he got suspended for reasons unknown. After this lady spoke with him, she thought he was a pretty nice 'kid' ... He had updated his MyLot profile apologizing for not posting or responding, saying that (my own words - not his) his 'buttons' got disabled. He had also put some kind of software he wrote himself onto his profile that seemed to have sent out all the friends requests, & he deleted it. The thing is, he never repeatedly tried to add someone.
I'm thinking that this guy that's doing that with the friends request is someone entirely new. It seems to have been a plague on MyLot - people signing up & trying to get friends to spam the heck out of.
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@happythoughts (4109)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Hmm, I wonder why they are not contacting me. Im not asking them to I was just wondering why they would pick the same person over and over again. Unless I already have them as a friend. I did add a few but I have not recieved any messages. Weird.
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Mmm--just checked your profile and your friends list--sure enough he's there--the last one on your list
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@ellie333 (21016)
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1 Jun 09
Hi Pyewacket, I have had a lot of people recently with just one point request me and I usually leave it a week or so to see if they are going to be genuinely active before accepting and if after a week they are showing friends but no more points I will decline as I have had a lot of this too but not repeated ones like you have. 200000 friends and only 4 points 
no wonder they were banned. Huggles. Ellie :D
no wonder they were banned. Huggles. Ellie :D3 people like this
@tamarafireheart (15384)
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1 Jun 09
Hi pye,
Yes I do remember this person as well, his name begins with R. This person now here has just pm me and I can understand how you feel as I kept telling this person I am not intereed,, I just have to turn his norfication off.
Bright Blessings.
Tamara
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
2 Jun 09
Begins with 'R'? I hope people will not mistake me as him. I too had one member making a friend request. He invited me to be his referral after a few hours I accepted his request. His invitation was declined but he persisted,
Based on a hint given by Pyewacket it seems I have him in my list. I thought he was a nice guy and he was fairly active at the beginning.
all the best,
rosdimy
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@tamarafireheart (15384)
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2 Jun 09
Hi rosdimy,
No, I was not talking about, most members know who I am talking about, he collected friends and was here a long time with only 4 post to his name, he has long gone now so don't worry and yes this other person we are talking about is a pain in the a$$, the only thing we can do is ignore him. Good luck.
Tamara
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@James72 (26790)
• Australia
2 Jun 09
I neither deny or accept them and just leave 'em hanging for an eternity! 
I don't seem to get that many requests anymore anyway, so thankfully this hasn't become a major issue for me. Personally I don't accept anyone as a friend unless I've seen their activity behaviours and if that activity has been directly with me in any way. If there's never been any interaction between us, then they're left hanging. I've come across people with 10,000+ "friends" and it annoys the crap out of me because of their actual post counts like you've shared. What annoys me even more is that some of them are considered to be mylot guru's according to comments on other sites. What a bad example to be setting!
I don't seem to get that many requests anymore anyway, so thankfully this hasn't become a major issue for me. Personally I don't accept anyone as a friend unless I've seen their activity behaviours and if that activity has been directly with me in any way. If there's never been any interaction between us, then they're left hanging. I've come across people with 10,000+ "friends" and it annoys the crap out of me because of their actual post counts like you've shared. What annoys me even more is that some of them are considered to be mylot guru's according to comments on other sites. What a bad example to be setting! 1 person likes this
@jazzsue58 (2666)
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2 Jun 09
If MyLot made it so that you could only request friends from those you have directly interacted with via a discussion, it would help a lot. They'd actually have to DO something to earn your friendship. Sooo not them.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
1 Jun 09
again?
jeez pye,now that's persistance.
why mylot doesn't add a blocking feature with almost 200K people on here now is beyond me.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
2 Jun 09
that's a good idea.
didn't even think of that.that'd work too.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
2 Jun 09
that's true.sometimes people come back after a long time when you think they won't.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
2 Jun 09
yeah they're dense or more likely they don't care, figure the few referrals they might pick up are worth it. report report report
@lumenmom (1986)
• United States
1 Jun 09
Wow! 4 points and 20,000 friends?
What in tarnation was he doing to get that? I can't imagine having that many friends. Even if I wanted to spam them, I don't thik I have the energy or inclination to go after that amany people. It's a shame that people can't just enjoy mylot for what it is, a social site where you can make money from your activity. We are so fortunate to have such a thing since most of the other sites don't pay like this. People love to rein good things!
What in tarnation was he doing to get that? I can't imagine having that many friends. Even if I wanted to spam them, I don't thik I have the energy or inclination to go after that amany people. It's a shame that people can't just enjoy mylot for what it is, a social site where you can make money from your activity. We are so fortunate to have such a thing since most of the other sites don't pay like this. People love to rein good things!1 person likes this
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I think I had the same person who tried like 4 times for a friend request! I always look at the profiles before I decide on a person should be a friend are not! I will not be friends with people who are on just on Mylot for schemes and just get you for a referral! That God there are people like you pyewacket to report idiots in this discussions! I hope this banned person hasn't made their way back on Mylot by using another name! If they have I hope they are banned and can't try again! I also have been contacted for a friend request by someone who has not posted any discussions or responses! I denied that one also! I figure that other idiot was trying to scam me and others!
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@intari (190)
• Indonesia
3 Jun 09
i have same experience as u do. there're some friends in mylot invite me with their referral links and asks me to upload my photos in their links to get some money. that friend invite me over and over. but i always ignore them. i never answer or open their links. they are really disturbed me. they are like virus and i treat them like virus also. am i wrong cos treat them like that?
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@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Pye-
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting a different result each time. I think that sums up the friend collectors. I've only had a few in my short time on, but I'm sure with time I'll have my share. The ones that irritate me the most are those that have made posts to ones I've posted, so I put them on my friends list when requested only to be spammed. It bugs the stew out of me. I mean, if you are going to be on my list then write me as a friend, and don't spam me with links. Oh well.
Perhaps the one you are dealing with did make a new name. I've seen that occur on other forums when someone gets banned. It's down right obnoxious, yet like you say you usually can recognize them and easily avoid them.
Namaste-Anora
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
3 Jun 09
How could someone have so many friends without participating in discussions? That is amazing! I would think you could report any activity that was inappropriate but those people usually have their accounts deleted before long.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I agree it can be rather irritating but I just deny them and don't let them bother me.
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@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
2 Jun 09
This happens to me all the time. I've gotten into the habit of really screening all the people that request to be my friends. If their profiles are full of nothing but banners to money making sites, I deny the request. Thankfully, none of those people have tried to add me again.
However, not long after I joined here I encountered someone that kept trying to add me and would spam me with money making scams trying to make more money. They never did last long. I'm not sure if they were banned or if they left.
I think we should be able to report a member to mylot that isn't really playing nicely with other members. I'm not here to get spammed. I'm here to enjoy myself and make money in the process. Getting spammed isn't part of my vision.
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@spicysweetie21 (2573)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I hate this too, i added someone just because i dunno i always feel guilty if i deny a friend request (one of my faults is that im a "people pleaser" so i hate to be mean usually) but this person had 0 responses so i thought maybe its just a newbie who wants friends, right after I add them they just send me a message asking for referrals, i didn't respond and i hate that I fell for the biggest trick in "the mylot book" 
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@bagumbayan (2705)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
Ignore him. Of course mylot members should be aware and mylot administration should monitor cases like that. Just ignore.
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@K46620 (1986)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I have not gotten a request yet.
You have to remember these kind of people only have one thing on their mind: money. They don't care if you reject their request, they don't read your replies, they are just looking for any way to get money. I guess I would leave the request alone for a few weeks and then reject it. Perhaps they will have given up by then.
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@dismalgrin (2604)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I haven't been so unfortunate to run into that. The friends that I have are mostly respectful of the fact that I may sometimes follow a referral, but more than often now. I do have some friends that I just have because they were a referral. Or, through some discussions, I happen to know they do a good job making money online so I want to pick their brain! But, I don't for those types that send out an obvious scam referral all the time. I'd pm this person with a blatant message telling them you aren't interested at all end of story. If they still send stuff then delete them as a friend. If they try to re friend you, then report it, because that is just harassment right there.
