What would you do?
By Margajoe
@Margajoe (4728)
Germany
June 1, 2009 6:00am CST
I have a new part time job in a Pub.
I know these women that go there for the last 2 and a half years.
They are all of a sudden complaining about my German.
I cannot speak it very well, and I have a Dutch accent.
Dutch and German are very much the same, that is why I cannot seem to get the pronunciation right. (I spoke Dutch for 20 years)
I can read it and understand it almost perfectly.
The people that know me always understand me. Now these women are making a fuss.
They are jealous, because I am getting all the attention.
I work there so know I am the one they want to complain about. The more they drink the worse they get.
It hurts. Why do they complain so much? The men don't make a problem out of it.
I guess I won't be working there much longer, I cannot take the stress. My back pains will get worse.
What would you do in a situation like this?
Thanks for your comments.
5 responses
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
3 Jun 09
Hi Dear
not a good situation
specially for a society called Broad minded and liberal, How they can be biased based on language???
Anyway, the best solution to the problem is that, ask other attendants to attend those ladies, specially if u have male attendants
Wish u all the Best
Take care of urself
byee
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@Margajoe (4728)
• Germany
3 Jun 09
Thank-you for your advice. But, that is not possible.
The Pub is very small, so I am the only one there to serve.
That is why I can hear everything they say. The more they drink the louder they speak. hahaha!
I will try to do what others have said in the above comments. Ignore, smile and just keep going. I have to learn to not worry about it.
Well, we will see.
Take care, have a nice day.
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@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
2 Jun 09
Ach, laat hun maar praaten. Okay, I've got to finish this in English. If it's a job you like and it pays you well, don't let their foolish talk affect you. Jealousy is an awful enemy, my friend. And they are only talking so they feel better about themselves. Just smile when they say something negative. The kids here always say "whatever." I bet you're pronunciations are just precious. Hang in there.
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@GardenGerty (160626)
• United States
2 Aug 09
I hope you do not give up because of them. Just outlast them. They will get tired of the complaining if it does not seem to affect you.
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@Margajoe (4728)
• Germany
4 Aug 09
Yes, I am still hanging in there.
The lady making the most trouble for me was away for 4 weeks.
She is back and of course has called my boyfriend because she was feeling lonely.
He called me after and told me she would probably phone me, because she was looking for company.
Did she???
No, of course not! 
Some men can be so naive when it comes to other women.
She is out to get us to split. He does not see it.
Some men can be so naive when it comes to other women.
She is out to get us to split. He does not see it.
@Theresaaiza (10487)
• Australia
3 Jun 09
I wish I knew other languages other than English and my own dialect. I do feel and understand your difficulty. I know they are just two people compared to the number of people who aren't giving you stress but we all do tend to be bothered by beings like that regardless of many they are.
But the thing is exactly THAT. There's just two of them. And there should be a law that protects you from these kind of people. Could you try complaining them to your boss or manager? If they can create trouble on you, they can create trouble to other people, to other customers. Doing something before it happens saves your customers and you in the process.
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@GardenGerty (160626)
• United States
2 Aug 09
I hope things are going better now. It is great to come to MyLot and find friends to support you. I wish there was some way you could let them know how dumb they act when they drink too much. If you thought they were perhaps your friends, you now know better, though. They are just gossipy old hags.
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@Margajoe (4728)
• Germany
4 Aug 09
Hi, thanks for your help.
Seems one of these ladies is out to get my partner away from me.
She is jealous. She knows I don't like my guy to drink so much and she makes sure he stays away longer because she is so lonely.
He says they are just friends , have been for over 6 years. I only know him for 3 years.
(almost)
But, she does not like the fact that (in her eyes) I have everything. He boyfriend lives far away. She needs company and takes my guy.
I must admit, I am jealous and getting fed up.
What can I do?
@Margajoe (4728)
• Germany
3 Jun 09
Thank-you for your advice.
Problem is, it is a Pub. When these ladies drink to much, they don't realize that I can hear them. The more they drink the louder they get.hahaha!
My boss and his wife, will only tell me to ignore them. He needs these kind of people there.They drink a lot and pay his bills.
It is also my own fault. I need to be stronger and not worry about it.
When I get stressed, my muscles get cramped and my back pains get worse.
But, I think I can manage better now.
You have all helped me here in this conversation.
I don't feel so alone anymore. I am happy that there are people who understand. That helps me a lot.
Take care, have a nice day.
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@alvingb (265)
• Singapore
1 Jun 09
hi there Margajoe, i am sure it must be a really painful experience to you in terms of the way people are treating you as well as physically you back pain. Well i guess the biggest thing here is they are probably jealous that you are getting all the attenttion. wel all i think should do is dont give a damn about these people and just do the job like you do best. Do no let anything come in your way and affect you like how things might affect you right now. Well all it matters is you enjoy you job and do what you like to and want to do. Basically people are just like that when they are jealous they keep complaing and try blaming everything that is around them well but the seem to fail to see that they themself is a big problem. well all i can say is do what you feel like doing dont let these people rule you out my friend. anyway have a nice day and happy mylotting
best regards,
alvingb
@Margajoe (4728)
• Germany
1 Jun 09
Hi Alvingb,
Thank-you very much for your advice.
Nice to see someone understands me.
I will try to focus on doing my job the best I know how.
Without worrying about what others say, problem is I think I
am not worrying, but my muscles say something different.
The stress brings me pain.
But, I am going to try harder, not to let them bother me.
It is already a big help, that someone (you) understands me.
Once again thank-you. Have a nice evening. Happy mylotting to you too.
Best regards, Margajoe
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