Does gender matter to become ones best friend?

It really doens't matter and it's completly fine to have a male bestfriend. You love both of them differently, and I see how that might be a problem between your partners. My best friend is a guy and it really doens't come between us and our partners because they understand how close we are and that we have known each other for a long time.

In the eyes of some individuals they do matter specially if they don't know the both of you. Yes they are just jealous but I think you a little distance between the both of you is needed when you are around your significant other.

Gender is no problem in making friends or having friends. The two of you just need to realized that you enter into a situation that you need to take care of some others feeling. Talk to your partners, assure them that there is nothing to be afraid of and just do what is right.

Hii check23~~~ Just like you,i have had the best of my friends from the opposite gender. My very first friend is a guy, who is my best friend. Though we live in different cities from more than a decade,we keep in touch through our cell phones. Its therefore not so easy to keep in touch on a regular basis to share each and every thing. But the best part is having a best friend in a guy. It doesn't happen to many people. To whom it happens, its a gift. Not everyone hence, can understand that a platonic relation can exist between a boy and a girl. Since this kind of friendship started way back when we were kids it has been more of that brother-sister kinds. I can understand that you boyfriend may be feeling this air of insecurity when he sees the two of you together. The best way to make him understand your relation is have group meetings. You should meet together and talk about yourself. He will soon realize that you are indeed best friends. Get him in the loop. Let him glide freely between your discussions. Don't leave him out. Once he can connect to your best friend,all his inhibitions will die. Best of luck!!!

I don't really care if I am best friends with the opposite gender. As long as he or she is a good, loyal, and honest best friend, I would not care about other people's opinions. I suggest you still keep and maintain your friendship because that friendship of yours is true and deep. You should not give up your friendship just because both your special someones are jealous. If he/she really loves you, they would be understanding and trust you that you would not cheat on them.

HIIIIIIII, I just wanna tell you that the friendship is more important than the partner, A good friend can be a good life partner but a good life partner is very hard to be a good friend. you guys should tell them that you both are just friends , just good friends, and if your partners understand then its very good otherwise you can have a better partner than that, sacrifice everything for a good friend but never sacrifice a friend for anything. And if your partner loves u truly than he should not have any type of jelous. because he if he loves you than he should think about your happiness. now the decision is in yours hand. you wanna keep your friend with you or your partner with you ..............thanx

No, it really doesn't matter at all at least to me. Maybe people are just uneasy because they're thinking that your closeness will lead to something. Just don't mind them. Like you said, they're just jealous and you know more than any of them about the status of your relationship with that guy. It's just friendship and nothing more right? Unless you got some romantic feelings for him.

friendship and love are different and there may be different person to hold it. a female person can be abest friend to a male. the matter of enviness of bf/gf means they have a causeless panic of losing their love. they may not know the differences between love and friendship. but a try to prolong both equally and able to do so is a big asset for a human. thanks.

when it is like that the best thing to do is just let go of the friendship for a while... dont talk to each other that much anymore... it would help with you relationship with your bf/gf. if they cant understand that you're just friends that is the best thing to do. if your best friend is really your best friend, then he will understand and you will understand. or you can try letting your bf get to know your best friend... just them, so when he does learn that there is nothing to be jealous he will trust you again with your best friend. go on a group date with your bestfriend's gf. get to know the gf also... it helps when the situation is like yours. the respect should always be there. my closest friend is a guy, fortunately he is my husband's close friend too...

I dont think there is anything wrong with this, you guys are really good friends, you both know nothing is going on between you. does your partner ever hang out with him, maybe it would make him more comfortable. My best friend is a boy too... Most of my good friends are, my boyfriend doesnt mind ( ithnk ^.^) But i know imnot going to be doing anything wrong so it doesnt bother me :) dont stop being really great friends for this reason!

Long term friendships are more valueable than haveing a patner, if they feel uncomfortable about it tell them that you have known the guy for a long time and that you are both "JUST FRIENDS" and if they say that they still feel uncomfortable about it tell them that they either welcome the fact that you and him (your best friends) are just friends or tell them to get lost!