How long are your visits to your friends?
By bamakelly
@bamakelly (5191)
United States
June 1, 2009 4:41pm CST
I was wondering if you usually have a set amount time put aside to visiting certain friends that you have.
Do you feel that there is a certain time frame that should be allowed for a friendly visit? In other words do you ever get to a point where you feel that you have worn out your welcome?
I personally just spend a couple of hours or less because a friend might have something that they need to do and I don't want to be in the way.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
2 Jun 09
When I was around friends-I don't have any close ones where I live now, just casual acquaintances-we'd call each other and set up visits or meetings. One set of friends in particular, a couple that were my best friends, I would spend a lot of time with every visit because nobody wanted to go home! Otherwise, it would be about an hour or until conversation began to flag.
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
2 Jun 09
I think that is a good idea to be able to contact friends and set up visits and the like. That way you can have an idea of the amount of time you are spending and enjoy each others company without intruding too much one somebody's time.
I just like to let someone know most of the time that I am headed that way and if they would mind company.
It seems that I would like the same respect.
Don't get me wrong though. I don't mind a good friend stopping in from time to time it is just that I would hope that I have my house in good order before entertaining guests! It means a lot to me that my surroundings are looking presentable.
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@anin_0208 (43)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Actually I dont have a certain timeframe in visiting my friends. Since I dont visit them often, when I do, I make sure to stay long with them, to catch up. Its nice to have a long talk with them, laugh and eat and drink.
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@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
1 Jun 09
I can see that in some cases it can depend on which friend you are visiting and also the amount of time since your last visit. I don't have a lot of friends right now but when I do visit someone I don't like to stay for real long.
It is a good idea to play catch up especially with those you might not have seen in a while and I can realize that time can really fly by.
Next thing you know you might end up visiting for over five hours or more!
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@GardenGerty (161010)
• United States
1 Aug 09
My friends and I do not get to visit often, so about two hours is usually what it takes. I need to make a point to visit more. I have one friend that we will visit while we walk somewhere, like from our church (right out my back door) to her house. I will then also walk back. I get a little exercise too , if I can do that.
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
3 Jun 09
No, I usually just play it by ear. For friends I see often, short visits are ok. But for friends I haven't seen longer visits are called for. I think it just depends on the situation.
@Anora_Eldorath (6028)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Kelly-
It would depend upon the friend and the nature of my visit or their visit. If I am doing tarot readings for them then our visit may be lengthy. If it is just a social call "how are you doing", it's generally the extent of a cup of tea or such.
Namaste-Anora
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
i think visiting a friend should be considered, in time frame sense, as having a leisurely day at the mall. you know, you're passing the time since there still are a lot of things to be done and you're not really spending your whole time. visiting a friend shouldn't be a threat to a wife or a mother's daily routine for your friend also have, probably, these same roles to play 
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