to spank or not to spank?

well I believe every child is different.. at different times at that. I dont like to spank... but... I sometimes have to spank my daughter because she is very strong minded... and sometimes I have to. we call it a disopline... she lays over my knees and gets three swats.. (not hard).. and then she has to get up and tell me what she did wrong.. to get in trouble for.. and what she learned from the inccident.

In my opinion parent should consider it first before doing so. If you think child will realize the mistake or wrong and don't do it again if you spank, it will be okay, but if not, don't try because the physical hurt may not be good in child experience and when become a parent in the future it will be a practice again to the child. I do not want to spank children if i become a parent and much as possible talk and talk will be good to make the child realaize the mistake or wrong doings.

This is a really good discussion,especially since a lot of people either have children or want children one day,and I am sure that there are different people who have different opinions when it comes to spanking a child vs. not spanking a child,and I am sure there are people who think it is okay to spank a child as long as you do not go too far,while others think it is wrong to spank a child and it is something that should never be done,and I think this will probably always be a good issue when it comes to parenting,I personally think spanking is wrong because it is another form of abuse,and nowadays if you spank your child you could lose them and no one wants to lose their child,me and my fiance do not have children yet,but we are planning on having at least one in the future,and we have both said we will never spank our child or children,instead we will ground them,or take away toys or things that they are allowed to do as punishment when they are bad or act up in a way that they are not supposed to,and I hope that more parents do things like this instead of spanking their children,have a great day,good luck with your life,and all of your mylotting goals,and Happy Posting.

A smack should be the last resort. Here in England though there are a lot of debates going on as to wether a smack is abuse. If a Mum is at the end of her tether and she smacks a child it could be harder than she thinks. I think a tap is more acceptable as long as the child knows what it is for of course. A lot of time though another method such as naughty chair, put to bed for a couple minutes or just plain old fashioned talking to helps.