My friend is having an affair with a married man

Hi Ingkingderders, I think i understand your feeling. You really think for your friend, you think a married man does not worth for her to love, right? But i don't thinking getting too much involved in this will do any good to you or your friend. Just like other's saying, you already done your part, and i have to say you've done your best. Let your friend decide what she want, once she made her decesion, just bless her and wish her all the best. That is all you can do dear.

YOU tried She don't want to listen pass it up let her laern the hard way when heecides i cant see you anymore !

It is none of your business. Stay out of it unless she asks for your opinion. You have already done what a friend should do by telling her how you feel now as a friend you should say no more and just wait and pick up the pieces when it ends and it will end. As for telling the wife I am sure in her heart she already knows and some wives really don't mind I think.

Hi,Ingkingderders!You have done your duty.If your gf fell in love with the married man deeply,you should give them well-wishing.I believe all shall be well,Jack shall have Jill

I think you should just let them be. It will only ruin your friendship with her if she found out that you sent the e-mail. She would never trust you again. She is going to need a friend when everything falls apart because eventually it will. If he has not left his wife yet he probably is not planning on leaving her. Your friend will wake up one day or it will all come out in the open. She is going to need a shoulder to cry on. Just be patient with her and try to support her as much as you can. Its been 3 years she probably has strong feelings for him. I feel sorry for her when it all comes crashing down. She will need you.

Nope none of your business. She is in a state of euforia you can only imagine. For a very short period of time she has a man who is paying all of his attention to her, probally giving her nice gifts and paying her more compliments than any husband will ever do. men are stupid and they are never satisfied so being the mistress is the best kept secret of women. Just be one once and you'll understand. I've been on both sides and believe me the mistress is better.

i honestly think that you should not meddle. i am sure the wife must have an inkling to what is going on and either she chooses to ignore it or not terribly bright. anyways, its their lives and i dont think you should do anything. perhaps you should distance yourself from this friend.

Be good friend is good, but be someone involve in friend's relationship then it is bad, even you are helping in a good way. Care for friend, who you love the most is not bad at all but I dont want he/she tells you to stop bother her or Non of your business... of course it is not your business. If you want to help out then just keep telling her... but if she is happy with this man then let it be. Nothing can change her until this man leaves. If you email and tell his wife about this then a big fire will start and you will never put it out. Trust me, be her friend is just support something that she is right but if she is happy with everything then just ignore. However, if you are a man and you loves her but she loves other guy then it is different. ... One day, this matter will open wild and she will turn to you for sure. For now, if you can just avoid this problem and be her best friend with her as much as you can.

I think as a friend what you have done, you have done right. It was your responsibility to make her aware of the fact that this relation can not continue for long time. But I also feel that contacting the wife would be very harsh and your friend might not take it lightly. Because at this moment she is blind with the relation so she will not understand. What will happen is that you might end up with breakup of your friendship. I think you have done your responsibility and your friend is also mature enough to take her responsibility. So just leave the hole think onto her and you just chill.

i first of all want to ask about the main thing that is attracting your friend to the married man, is it the looks, money or something else, if it is money then it will be quite hard to tell your friend to stop because women are naturally attracted to money and when the money keeps flowing it will be hard to turn back so you can simply tell her to stop or something bad will happen to her

An advice is good enough and little bit of prayer will do. Do not proceed more than that. To inform the wife, would be very devastating blow should the wife unable to take it. Thus it breaking up the family and you will end eith full of quilt. Let nature takes it course.

She is your bestfriend and you have the right to tell her what is wrong from right. but telling her husband about the affair would really be harsh. just always tell her about it that you just wanted her to be happy with her life.but if really she is happy with that guy then ask thay guy what would be the plan about them.

let them...You already did your part as a friend. The next step is on their own. And you cannot change her decision. If you have told 10 reasons to her to leave the guy, i think she has more reasons to not let go...

One of my friends was in a similar situation, she realized later that he would not leave his wife for her and finally put her foot down. I know that your very concerned for your friend but getting too invovled will eventually ruin your relationship with her. Just let her know that you do not like the situation she is in, but don't shut the entire topic out because she will need someone to talk to. Eventually she'll realize that the situation will not go the way she wants and will find the will power to leave him.

Hi Ingkingderders, what I can say you've done what is a friend for. But your girl friend has her own mind, and life to make. It's her own look out, and she knows the consequences of her actions. When you blinded in love, you can't see right. Even you open her eyes, she's still blinded with what she feels. A friend can just be concern,listen,give advices, and suggestions. But minding her own business and private personal life I think it's none of your business. It's enough you are there, being as a friend, spending time with her,and accepting her as a friend. It's all up to you how long would you be there and understand her more. The question is would you be a friend, or you want to loose the friendship if you minded her business? It is enough you can stand still with her, no matter who she is, and what she is your around her as a friend. Have a nice day to you!

hello, I think you should just leave your friend as she is. she obviously knows the consequences of her actions as you specifically said that they have been together for awhile now. and also, lets not forget that your friend's boyfriend is part of the equation too. she cant be blame for all this, even if he's the married one here, he is to be blamed too. you have done what you have as a friend. who knows how things will turn out in the future, if you stick around until then, maybe she could use your shoulder to lean on. stay well.

You have tried your best, I don't think you should blame yourself anymore. Your friend is too stubborn, guess she understood that she should not do that. Feels like she is trying to run from reality. She kept on giving herself excuses for not leaving him. That's too bad. I hope your friend will wake up asap.

As a friend, you have already done your part. Your responsibility is just to inform your friend about the future problems she will be. The married man knows that he is making a mistake too but they are both adults and they know what the consequences are for their actions. Just pray to God that both will come to their senses. You are a great friend!

I think you are doing the right thing somewhere,because this affair will certainly lead to a destruction atlast, this is very true that she wnt talk to you after this may be even break the relation with you but i think you are doing this for her good and she will realise this very soon or later in her life.I think you should send a mail to his wife asking not to be harsh just to take part in it and seprate them, because this aafair will destroy 3 lives plus if the man has childrens then their lives too, the man is betraying his wife so what are the conditions that he wont betray your friend later.he is not a true person to be with.Try to explain your friend this.

Hello there! I have a friend like her too in the office and she has been with the man for one year, the man has a little boy too. We have all talked to her several times but she always says that she will leave him very soon. But she has not left him yet because she says she loves him very much. One day I told her that she will need to get married with another guy soon then what will she do! She is concious that she will have to get married but she also fears that she will continue to love the man with his baby too. All these are part of life I suppose. You have been doing your work by talking to her just as I did but the decision rest solely on her because it is her life. We can be preoccupying for them a lot but they do not want us to interfer in their life so we cannot do more. If you send a mail to his wife the situation can turn very bitter for you as firstly your friend will hate you for this and secondly the man will think you are the sole person to break his relationship with his wife while we all know that you were only concious of the problem. So my friend, we have done our work by talking to them now we need not interfere in their relationship no matter how bad it is. Else we will be the sole guilty at the end.