Completely accidental death - how would you live with the guilt?

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How would you feel if you had a big row with someone, and later learnt that they'd had a heart attack that same afternoon? What about if you went to visit an elderly relative when you had a cold, then they caught the cold and died? Or if you went to visit a friend in intensive care, alerted the nurse that their catheter was full, but as a result of the nurse changing it your friend went into shock and died? These are all very terrible and morbid situations, and ones that we all pray we will never be in. But they're all real-life situations that have been described to me by people I know or that I've read about. These stories really made me think, and I'm sure that incidents like this must happen quite a lot. There must be an enormous amount of guilt involved if something like this happens to you; if you're directly (or indirectly) responsible for somebody's death. And how would you feel around the person's relatives and friends, who may well blame you. How would you deal with the guilt of being responsible for somebody's death, (albeit accidentally)? Would you be philosophical and say that if they were that ill then they would have died anyway? Or would you take it to heart? (I don't mean to offend anyone who's been in a situation like this. Personally I think that these situations are very unfortunate accidents and should not involve any blame, but I know that things aren't always so clear-cut in such sensitive and raw situations). I'd be interested in what people think...