Can we still be friends in such a situation?I need some help!!!
By xyzxgt
@xyzxgt (89)
China
June 2, 2009 11:14pm CST
The other day,I liked a girl,who was younger than me and I wanted her to be my girlfriend.So I confessed my love to her,but she refused me and told be we had better be friends instead of lovers.I am upset nou and confused.Can we still be friends?
6 responses
@Sherry8888 (38)
• China
3 Jun 09
Of course you can.You can help her when she's in trouble.You can share sth with her.But you can't disturb her life.When she has a bf,you just give her some wishes.
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@mocha_momo (212)
• United States
3 Jun 09
You can, if you can honestly respect her wishes. If you are only ever going to want more, you will eventually pursue it, and it won't work out. It's all up to you really.
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@mocha_momo (212)
• United States
3 Jun 09
She's keeping a distance because you've expressed how you feel. She is setting distance to make you aware of her feelings. That she doesn't want more. She is thinking, "Maybe I've been spending too much time with him." She feels like she's lead you on some how, and she's got to set that distance, to make it clear you're just friends. She's only embarrassed if she's not attracted to you, if she is attracted to you, but just not into you like that, she'd be flattered that you asked her, there's the difference.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
3 Jun 09
The beauty is that the choice is yours. If it feels too awkward or painful, then you are better off without the friendship. If it is comfortable and rewarding to you, then go for the friendship. Give it a shot, and see how it all feels to you.
Karen
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@Maryzilla1337 (47)
• Canada
3 Jun 09
It may feel a bit awkward and stuff, but i say Yes ofcourse still be freidns, you cant let something like that ruin your friendship :) If you feel weird talking to her face to face for now, just talk on the interent or something ... Dont stop being friends though
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@x_Jo_x (1040)
•
9 Jun 09
Hmmm, i think it should be possible. It depends a bit on both of you i guess. You should respect her desicion, but dont give up all hope. Just show her that you will still love, and be kind friendly and there for her. She could always change her mind! It may feel a little bit tense between you, but i think you definatly did the right thing by telling her how you felt. Good luck with everything! I really hope things work out for you =)
