do you and your family still eats together?
By ckyera
@ckyera (17331)
Philippines
June 3, 2009 5:14am CST
there are some families who can't afford to do this anymore because of their busy schedules, but i think this should not happen because i think during meal time is one of the best time to gather all family members and have a talk on what's happening with each other. i think it would be much better if a family still eats together at least once a day, maybe during dinner...
what do you think? in our house, since its just me and my husband, we always eat together and we talk about anything during this time. but when i still with my parents we do eat together and its really useful and its one of our bonding moments!
how about you? do you still eat together with your family?
thanks and have a nice day! :-)
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@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
11 Jul 09
Nope, not as frequent now.. Even when i was a kid, my family dun really eat together as much due to my father holding two jobs.. My family was quite poor at that time, and we should be glad when we can afford 2 meals a day ^_^
BUt as our situations improved, we still dun get to eat together as my father is working beyond dinner hours.. BY time he changed jobs, i'm already in my teens abd started working and studying at the same time, thus have no time for dinner at home..
AFter which, it's my army enlistment as well as my brother, that makes it even more difficult.. TIl now, both my father and me are working, while my brother is in university, so, eating together is still not possible.. lol =D
The only time we get to eat together as family, is during chinese new year's eve.. hehe ^_^
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
13 Jul 09
YEah, my mom is still in the family.. I must say she's a good cook though, just that we hardly sit down together to have a proper meal ^_^ I think both my parents are looking forward to have such a dinner because it only happens once in a while.. PLus both me and my brother are grown ups now, it will be even harder to sit down as a family and eat together in the future ^_^
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
ah okay...i hope you can have more time to eat together...even for some weekends...that will be nice i think...hehehe and your mom will be much happier!
know what, me i am not used to eating alone...i can't eat well when i am alone...hehehe
but i think that will be nice for me if i want to lose some weight! hahaha
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@mybeatrice (203)
• China
9 Oct 09
hello ckyera, good discussion, it has been really a long time since the last time the six of us sitting and having dinner together. We have six person in our family, and when we grow up and access to high education in other cities, we seperated with each other. now my parents live in my hometown, my older sister work in a city which is quite far away from my hometown, my yonger brother study in the unverisity, and since the unviersity is also very far away from home, he can go home once per year, my younger sister and I live in a the same city, but seldom meet, we both far aways from home, seldom go home.
So it is really hard for us six to come together and to talk together, when children grow up, they will leave parents, and seldm go home. My parents must feel quite lonely when they have meals.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
hi mybeatrice!
well, that's really true and really happening to some families...when children grow up & have their own family, usually parents are left behind...
but i think we can still find some time to be ith our family even once every year...so don't you have any occasion that all family members can be together? like new year...or hat?
like me, i am also living away from my parents and so i was not able to sit with them during meal time, but once a year, i make sure that i pay them a visit...and during those days that i am home, we still eat together...
i hope that your family can also have even a day to sit again in one meal...and i know that your parents will be happy for that...
thanks for sharing...
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
10 Oct 09
hi, ckyera, thanks for reply again. yes the last time we six person get together was my younger sister's marriage. that is the last year's new year. before the last year, my older sister haven't went home for 3 years, I haven't went home for 2 years, so the new year always missing some one.
I think the next time we get together, must be in my marriage or in my older sister's marriage.
@autumndreamer (3185)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
No, our family doesn't eat together anymore. We used to when we were young, but now each of us are too busy now. Yes, family should be eating together because it's family time. Unfortunately, we can't do that anymore, maybe on the Christmas Eve, that's the only time we get to eat together.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
hello there,
hmmm, are you still single or already married? are leaving far from your parents already? coz that's the reason why i was not able to eat with my brother & my parents anymore, because my husband & i are living far from them...and its sad coz i really miss those moments of eating with them...
and now, i was just able to eat with them when i am having a vacation in our house which is just one week per year...
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
hello khaezi,
yeah i guess that's common to most of us here, we still manage to have meals together with our family but there are times that even if we want to, time don't really permit us due to differences in schedules...but anyway, its still better that we were able to eat together even just once a day instead of none at all..
thanks!
@dolphinlady128 (72)
• Australia
24 Feb 10
yes we do eat together as a family. it is time to bond, to relax after a day at the office, to catch up and communicate with each other.
Unless it is a really really good reasons we do usually eat together.
If for one reason or others my husband has to stay back at work or whatever and may take too long for me to wait for him to eat dinner, then I will eat first. But when he got home and eat, I will usually accompany him and we talk as well :) So yeah I think family meals are very important :)
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
24 Feb 10
oh that was nice, sometimes i am also like that, when hubby is not yet home, i don't eat as well, but if i am really hungry and he told me not to wait for him, i will eat, but whenever he reach home & eat, i also accompany & serve him..and of course talk!
thanks for sharing!
@cassandraneria (19)
• Philippines
22 Mar 10
Definitely yes. We always eat together regardless of what meal is it for the day--whether it be breakfast, lunch, afternoon snack or dinner. My parents are family-oriented persons and I love the way they do that. My dad will definitely get mad if he saw me or my brother not in front of the dining table during meal time. It's because (according to him) meal times are the only times you get to bond with your family--laugh, tell stories, etc. I learn a lot of cool stuffs from my dad during meal times. He tells way too many funny but true stories about his childhood.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
29 Mar 10
hello there,
that's so nice to hear that your family was still able to sit together for a meal during the day. very few was able to do that specially when members of te family becomes busy with their works & studies...
i agree with your dad that meal time is one good chance for tightening the family bond and its nice talking with each other while having our meal... i guess foods are even more delicious when we have them with our family...
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
9 Oct 09
Hi ckyera,
You are right, eating together will helps to the family members well connected. All family members are together in a place, that is really nice and if the family is large it adds the joy too by sharing jokes. When I read your discussion I remember about the visit of our native place and the eating time is really enjoyable. We are staying away from native and if you ask the question we are eating together only at dinner time.
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@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
9 Oct 09
hi sreekala!
yes true, eating with our loved ones is really ba great experience and perfect time for bonding! sharing jokes while eating, sharing the good times, our experiences for the day...great, specially if we are complete in the table...even the food is not that plenty, when we eat with our loved ones, its more than enough...
me too, i always remember those days that i am in my hometown, living with my parents...
well, atleast, you still have time to eat together even if its just during dinner...its better than never and its understandable coz all of us are busy now with our respective works...
thanks for sharing...
@ChrysanTflower (1607)
• Indonesia
5 Aug 09
I thanked God, because since I was child until now we almost always eat together at home, except when one of us must go to other city or go abroad, like when I went for school trip. You're right, that's nice to eat together and talk about everything! That's what make us close each other. We usually eat dinner together, because in the morning or afternoon we have different schedules. Oh, and I like it when all the big family gathering.. we eat, play, share and pray together
I'm sure it's nice, eat together with your hubby.. Maybe if you have children they can eat togther too^^,,
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
21 Aug 09
hmmm...chrysan i think you have a nice happy family...that's nice to hear...
its okay if you were not able to eat together for lunch or breakfast coz i know that all of us are busy and with our own schedules...but what is more important is that you still have the time to eat together at dinner...its really nice to end our day that way...talking to our family members and having fun with them...
yes, for sure, if im going to have a baby, for sure we will eat together...:-)
thanks friend and sorry for this very late comment...
@ChrysanTflower (1607)
• Indonesia
21 Aug 09
No problem ckyera, I feel happy if my response get comment,,at least you read it Anyway, hope you will get child soon so you can eat together and gathering as happy family! GBU and your family
@ced_cap (207)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
we still eat together during dinner time coz' all my kids are on school whole day so that's the only time we get to eat together. But during weekends we get to spend time together not only in eating but also some other things. I also ask my kids to help me do some chores.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
1 Oct 09
hello ced_cap! welcome to my place! hehe
well that's good for you and your family! i can see how happy & close all of you in the family...maybe that's the result of always having those bonding moments with each other...keep it up!
thanks and have a nice day!
@kaylachan (69688)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Feb 10
Growing up due to health reasons our family never had a sit-down meal. If it happened was during someone's birthday, but mom would make a meal and we'd all go off and eat it. If we needed to talk, that was usually done when the kids came home from school. But I don't remember that kind of time.
When I make dinners, George and I eat togeather on our coffee table. Since its the two of us, there is no reason to do it any other way. We don't need a table and chairs for the two of us. We don't talk much eaither because we get plenty of time to talk throughout the day. And really if he's working there isn't much to say. I mean 'how was your day' is about all the more needs to be said, and that's preaty much where it stays.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
9 Feb 10
hello kaylachan...
well i think that's fine since its just the two of you, same with me & my husband...sometimes when we eat we also don't talk that much coz the hole time we are together, we are already talking anything & everything under the sun!
but i still prefer the two of us eating together all the time...its sad to eat alone...
@junrapmian (2169)
• Philippines
9 Apr 10
Yes, we still eat together at dinner time and on weekends. Every night, I waited for my husband and all of my children so we can eat together. Everybody is looking forward to dinner time because it's the only time during weekdays that everybody is present and it is the time where we can talk about what has happened during the day.
@dilipmiester (932)
• India
22 Feb 10
when i was a small boy upto the age of about twelve to thirteen we all would eat together but now we dont have the chance to eat together . i will eat at a different time and my parents will eat in a different time . mostly in sundays we all will eat together . but other times its very rare that we will at together . i will eat when i come from college and will finish my dinner at most at 7 itself . but my parents will eat only at 9 in the night . in the afternoons we all eat in our work place .
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
23 Feb 10
oh i see, well that's the common reason why family members stop eating together...when the children are already grown up, schedules & lifestyles changes...
just like me before when i am living with my parents, when its working days, we don't usually eat together coz i go home late & sometimes i just eat out. my brother & my parents eat earlier at night and sometimes due to my father's working hours he was not able to eat with us as well, but when its week end & no work and we are all home, for sure we will eat together...
i think its just fine as long as you still or we still find time to communicate to our family members...
thanks for sharing...
@setsuna26 (2751)
• Philippines
30 Mar 10
Yes up to now me and the rest of my family still eat together.I only have a small family with me my mom, my niece and my brother, my dad passed away since i was 11, my brother is in hawaii as im writing this comment so technically i have my mom and my niece with me every meal . Well there are times that i dont get to eat with them too but thats just when im pretty much busy with my job and personal stuff too . ;)
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
1 Apr 10
hello setsuna,
well that's nice to hear that your family was still able to sit together for a meal...i always find it healthy for a family to be able to do such things...
yeah sometimes, we tend to be really busy with our works that sometimes we are not able to eat with them...but i think its just fine if it happens on rare occasions, what is important is that you still have more quality time to spend with them...
keep it up. thanks!
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
As much as possible, we always eat together. Usually during dinner, me, my wife and my child eat together unless I am out of the city traveling. I do not eat breakfast since I only take coffee. Usually in the morning we are quite in a hurry since my child goes to school and my wife and I go to work. So it during dinner that we eat together. I do think its healthy for the whole family when we eat together. Its one way of bonding...
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
27 Nov 09
hello jpso!
well i guess most of us are like that! hehe breakfast is quite impossible to eat together for most of the time we are in rush and really busy in the morning... but its a good point that you are having dinner with your family and really do your best to have it with them...yes you are right, its a great way of family bonding!
thanks for sharing!
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
21 Nov 09
Yes we still eat together as a family every night. Even on nights when my husband has to work late I try and hold dinner off until he gets home. Only if he is going to be really late do we go ahead and eat with out him because I can't make the kids wait that long. Even when the kids had sports stuff I tried to make sure we at least had a quick meal together. I think it is very important for families to eat together and talk about their days. We always know what is going on with our kids and they are not shy about talking to us about anything.
@sonusd (1547)
• India
28 Dec 09
In India generally we stay together in Joint family so from child hood we have a habit to eat together all father, mother,brother,sister,uncle,aunt and cousins but who ever have busy schedule and come late to home some time they may not join us or else we do not have any other problem to do not eat together
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
28 Dec 09
i think in your place, you also have good family bonding...isn't it?
well, its good for your family to have such relations and i think in these busy days, there's really sometime that some of our family member was not able to join us in our dinner...
thanks for sharing...
@Jhaycee1987 (94)
• Philippines
19 Jan 10
Halloo..so you are also a Filipina...hmz...yah I and my family still eat together but only during weekends because my siblings go to school during weekdays,especially my 4 siblings whose school is an hour far from home..It is only my mother and I who eat together..at times, my grandmother join us. Yes its a bonding time of the family...Its nice to maintain the unity of every fam..
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
20 Jan 10
hello jhaycee!
yup, Filipina here...hehe
well at least your family still manage to have this time even just once in a week to sit together and eat together... its healthy i think coz during those time, you can actually talk about what happen for the past week... and yeah a great time for bonding...
now i miss to eat with my brother & my parents..its been months since the last time i ate with them...