Preparing Yourself For The Worst Horror Of All
By Brian
@wolfie34 (26771)
United Kingdom
June 3, 2009 6:45am CST
Do you start fretting, worrying about a date in the near future which something you know is going to a day from hell! It's going to be a day out of your worst nightmare, you can't avoid this particular day, but it's looming ahead and you know it's coming fast! The days are going quickly and the fatal day draws nearer and nearer
As the day gets closer do you wish you could just relax and try and forget about it or does it play on your mind morning, noon and night and even invade your sleep routine?
How do you prepare yourself for a day which you know is going to make you feel sick, make you feel scared, frightened, nervous. There is no way to avoid it, that day is coming
For me it's 31st July, I'm dreading it but I know I have to face my fear, I have even started to count down, it's on my mind all the time, I keep telling myself what will be will be, I am nervous now, what will I be like as the day gets closer and closer, I'll be a nervous wreck for sure.
I keep hoping things will change but I know deep down that unless a major disaster happens or I get struck down or don't live to see the day I have to face it head on and it's the not knowing that's the worst, I guess it's the fear of the unknown!
I want the day over and done with so I can relax easily...
Have you ever been in a situation where there is a date that you cannot avoid and you have to face the worst horror of all?
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10 responses
@balasri (26537)
• India
4 Jun 09
I don't know what awaits you on 31st July.But I am sure that it is going to come and go away whether you worry or not.Then why to worry.No use over worrying over unstoppable things Wolfie.Whatever things that are supposed to happen will happen and vanish.Nothing is permanent here.That damn day will come and go as if you have never encountered it.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
4 Jun 09
You could sit down and spend ten minutes of your life worrying about something after the ten minutes is up what has changed????? NOTHING! You've wasted ten minutes of your life on worrying and that hasn't changed. I just wished I could practice what I preached!
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@nannacroc (4049)
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3 Jun 09
There have been many I'm sure but I can't recall anything particular now. See we get past them and they are never as bad as we think they will be. When my mum was alive I used to talk to her and she would usually say, 'You won't die from it so don't worry'. I tend to lose sleep and write poems if I'm stressed about anything. If I can't think of a poem, I write down what could happen then try to immerse myself in a book until I fall asleep.
Don't worry, be happy, as my eldest says.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 09
I have started a little book which I have titled 'Self Esteem' and it's not a diary per se but it's events that have happened that I can learn from or seek solace from and yes that is so right what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I think perhaps I am making a mountain out of a molehill. Writing is very comforting as you can get it out of your mind and thus sleep better!
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I am very familiar with this feeling, wolfie, and the only advice I can offer you is that it usually turns out to be not nearly as bad as you have projected it to be in your mind. As a case in point: I started having this medical problem several weeks ago and nothing I did seemed to help. Of course, being a diabetic caused me to fear the worst outcome. I put off going to see my doctor for weeks, all the time agonizing about how my situation would eventually play out. Well, it finally reached a point where I had no choice but to go to the doctor. As it turned out my problem was not even close to what I had been dreading. The solution simply called for an antibiotic to make me all better again. I realize that things don't always turn out as bad as we fear, but we must not allow our fears to blow things out of proportion. I hope that your outcome will be nothing like you expect it will be. Good luck!
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 09
I think I am being a drama queen as usual on this one my friend and you are so right you always make things worst than they will actually be and my problem pales in significance compared to the responses I have received. Sometimes I make my problems a hundred times worst just by panicking. Mind you I do suffer terribly with anxiety which doesn't help so I make everything into a crisis when to others it's just a blimp to deal with and get over!
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@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
3 Jun 09
Oh, really? The day won't really exist! Well, the day before yesterday, it was Children's day! I sort of had an accident. I twisted one's wrist. However, it doesn't mean that I would have bad luck on next Children's day! The day after tomorrow, I am gonna go to some beautiful places with several folks. I've never tried water-skiing before, but I'd love to have a bash at it. hah
But my mom just called me and told me out of it! So, I just watched others doing the dangerous game on the side.
Don't worry! Trust me, on next ....blur blur, (I can't remember the day that you have mentioned.", you will have good lucks.
I forgot to wish you happy children's day!
Anyway, happy children's day now.
Oh, I didn't know whether June,1st was Children's day.
Hmmm, don't get angry! haha
@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
4 Jun 09
Holy Moly, Wolfie ... what sort of horrible appointment do you have to keep on 31 July? I really hope that day turns out to be a damp squib. Facing it head on is definitely the way to go - you can then render it impotent and unable to hurt you. Like you, I'm a worrier. We have four adult children, and every morning when I wake up I do the 'Morning Stocktake'. I go through all the kids in my mind and any worries I have about them at the time. It's very rare I have a morning where all four of them get a tick and I'm not worried about anything. It doesn't have to mean they've done anything bad - for instance, one of my daughters is driving across America at the moment (on the wrong side of the road in a car with the controls on the wrong side) - so I'm very worried about that, and will be glad when she's back home safely in Australia.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
4 Jun 09
Wasn't it true what someone said Nothing to fear but fear itself and when you face fear you feel so much more confident and sense of achievement, well in reality, theorys good but practice is a whole different ball game, I wish your daughter a safe journey my dear friend.
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@GardenGerty (160611)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Guybrush, perhaps you can connect her with some MyLot friends of yours. I bet that would be fun. (She might resist though, if it was her parent's friends) We wish your daughter well.
@mikmck7 (18)
• United States
3 Jun 09
Yes! At the beginning of May we took a family vacation so my husband could visit with his family and I was dreading it. I had never been close with his family, always feeling like the outsider who was intruding, and I never got along with his sister.
In the end the visit turned out to be really nice. I guess we do grow up with age.
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 09
Welcome to Mylot! Yes I agree family situations are difficult, you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family, glad it turned out better than you expected. Yes someone said to me that often we dramatize or build it up so much into a negative that we are sometimes pleasantly surprised by how easy it was after so much worrying!
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@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
3 Jun 09
Sometimes I wished I could practice what I preach in that I was once told to sit down on a chair for ten minutes and worry constantly about something that I was particularly worried about. When ten minutes was up I was told ok, what has changed? I was puzzled, nothing, apart from wasting ten minutes of my life worrying about something. Worrying changes nothing, do something about it, if not forget it. Trouble is, easier said than done! I reckon I am a natural born worrier.
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@mikmck7 (18)
• United States
3 Jun 09
So true. I remember reading a comment once that said 'We worry about the things that have not happened yet' and thinking 'that is so true'. I watch those shows on TV about bad things happen to kids and as I am watching it I ask myself 'Why do I punish myself like this' because all it does is make me become more paranoid about the safety of my own children and even though nothing has every happened we still worry about it.
Just as I worried the worse about my trip and you are fretting over July 31st.
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@angelface23 (2494)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I fret over bills so any bill due date I am freaking out worrying if we will have enough money especially when we are low on funds which seems to be a lot lately since we moved. We are behind on some credit card bills which we all know what happens when you miss a payment!! I always tell myself I am going to get a second job so we'll have more money but hubby doesn't want me to. I think it's just a habit I have I guess. Kind off your topic sorry.
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@GardenGerty (160611)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I do tend to borrow trouble, Wolfie. I tell people that I make an elephant out of things. That is worse than a mountain out of a molehill. You never did say in this discussion what is so horrible about July 31.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
4 Jun 09
Hi wolfie, There have been a few such times in my life but it hasn't been for me personally. I remember when my mother had surgery for Cancer and my youngest son has had open heart surgery twice. While I dreaded those days, at the same time I knew it had to happen before things could get better. For myself there have been a few such times but not of the magnitude that you speak of. Blessings.
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
3 Jun 09
Um..
welll...
I do have a colonoscopy coming up....
