Young Mums

In my country the most mom is the young one, below 20 years of age, especially at rural areas and 2 or 3 dacades ago. It is nothing wrong for young mom even doctor told that it would better for woman having her birth before their 35 years of age and even it will be dangerous for woman above fourty to give birth her baby. But in more advanced society, at urban area woman who got better education and also peoples with highest level usually have a not good view to the youngest woman or about 18 years of age Moms and I think not only average woman but also the male has the same point of views. One reasons is that we have to develop and get more and educated peoples nowadyas and it is not cheap so that it should better for our average woman get job fisrt then get married and be a good mom, tha't my sharing, thank you young woman the most importan is that I can still post today to get my first $10 after my 3 years myLot membership heheheh, I didnt meant to argue or debate here, see you again and thank for your interesting topic.

I have always though young mothers should be highly praised. They give up a lot for these children. Even if it was an accident, they still give up a lot rather than taking the easy way out and having an abortion. Is that what people would prefer? I'm totally against abortion. Where I live there are quite a lot of young mothers and every one of them has their childs best interests at heart, whereas there are other mothers who have had children at the same time and they are a lot older and not as good of parents.

I know that many young ladies get pregnant and I look highly upon them if they have their baby and become a caring parent. I am pro-life and wouldn't ever have an abortion. Some young ladies have one and that can be their biggest mistake. Young mums have plenty of energy on the positive side. They might be in poverty so that would be the negative side. Most young mums do a very good job. If a lady has a baby when she is 18 years old she will still be fairly young when her child grows up. One of my cousins had her babies at around age 18 and 20. Her children are grown up now and she emigrated to Australia. She didn't like staying at home when her friends went clubbing. She did various jobs and began her own business. Then she got an excellent job and got placed in Australia where she met her current husband. My other cousins, two girls were aged 16 and 14 when their baby brother was born. People used to think the oldest one was the mum but she was the sister. When I was traveling I met a nanny and people often wondered how she could be so young and have five children. Some people can disapprove but what matters most is the happiness of the child or children.

It is hard being a young mom. I became a mom 2 months before turning 18. I still get weird looks now and I'm 23. I think people are too quick to judge young moms. I have seen women in their mid 30's who are treating their child like dirt. Not every mom is perfect and not every mom is the same. I didnt have too much to worry about when it came to hanging out with my friends after having my oldest daughter. 95% of my friends ditched me after having my oldest daughter. I moved on pretty quick but it was hard at first. I found out who my real friends were after that big day. It used to bother me when people would just sit and stare at me with my children but it didnt take long to get over it. I have never really cared about what people think of me. I would never recommend having a child so young in life because yes you do miss out on a lot of things. It is very hard and stressful. It is very challenging but never the less worth every breath!

I am 21 years old and a mother of a 30 month old boy. I had an unexpected pregnancy at eighteen and gave birth to my son at nineteen. I never once stop to think that I was ever being judged. I only though mothers under 18 were judged. Now that you mention it I dont feel like a mother around my age should be judged unless she appears to be doing something wrong. I know well though that any mother at my age should be well capable of being the best of a mother that she tries to be. I have worked hard to be a great mother and think I really am. I work part time just to support my son. I am awake all night with him knowing that i have to get up at five to go to work. I insure his health comes first. But even a mother as young as fifteen shouldn't be judged. I knew a girl in high school who had a baby at fifteen and she was a great mother to me. She attended school and took care of her baby. She also worked part time. I dont see how she did it but she did. So really no mother should be judged by age. Especially when you see mothers around 30 abusing there children or killing their kids and being sentenced to life in prison.

well, my mother was only 21 when she got me, and I grew up to be fine, so I don't really think that's a problem, in fact I think that, the younger you are when you get kids, it's easier to relate to them

If we're saying 18 or above, I think that is their decision. But personally I wouldn't have wanted to be a mom that young nor would I recommend it. It would be very difficult to go through school with a young child. I see people dropping out when they have kids at the office I work at. They swear before they have the kid that they want to continue, but once the kid arrives they don't want to spend the time away from their child to be in a classroom. Which means they'll probably be stuck for a very long time at low paying jobs. Some people can do it though. And some people also don't have any desire to go to anything beyond high school to begin with. Now if we were talking about getting pregnant in high school I would say that is bad for both the parent and the child. But past 18 you're really on your own on deciding.

I became a mom when i was 19 years old. Yes there were odd faces looking at me, some gossiping behind my back.. it was tough it was never easy. But i went through it without thinking about what other people would say. i would rather concentrate on the kids:)

I think ther is no problem being young mums as long as you're prepared for it. I've friends that are in their twenties or thirties but they expressed that they are not ready to get married or have children. It depends on what you want in life. Some people wanted to enjoy being a young mum so that when they age, they won't have much burden and may enjoy their time with their grandchildren. The danger of being young mum is 'how long could you hold the hands of your husband'? It is not easy to manage your relationship and 'hold hands till we enter the grave'.

If some girls just let their children come to this world without preparation and do not have the capacity to raise them, obviously their behaviors are wrong and irresponsible. However, if a young mom, who is above 18, is mature enough in mind and can earn her own living, there is nothing wrong for her to have child . I mean, she can take care of her child as well as any older mom, right? So, what's wrong with her?

My sister is 21 with 2 kids and she is an excellent mom. Some young mother's have trouble adapting to motherhood, but many do a good job.

I salute to young moms who face the consequences of their actions and take full responsibility of it instead of aborting the child. But a little help from the parents should be extended to the daughter in bringing up the child and also financially.

I d0nt think there is any problem being a y0ung m0m,becAuse being a m0ther is the greatest achievement for a women to give life is really an achievement which m0ney cant buy,!,i kn0w that being a y0ung m0m c0mes with great resp0nsibility buT it was your choice thats you cant d0 abouT it just to d0 your best and give all taking care your child..

I knew a girl when i was 13 who was pregnant - she was the same age as me...i noticeds that a lot of people would stare at her in the halls and talk bad about her behind her back - she had it rough...now she is 30 years old with a 17 year old.... some girls want to have kids for the wrong reasons....they want to find love that they r missiong at home...this is not fair to the child