If a good friend invite you his wedding, and you are single....you will go?
By icesmile
@icesmile (7160)
Romania
June 3, 2009 4:02pm CST
You know how much is hard to go to a party alone, when you are single.
Sometimes you can don t feel good if all are there with somebody and you are alone. You will choice to go alone, if you are a mature, divorced person?
I don t talk about young person, 19,20 who can go no partner and stay in to a group.
For them is very easy, because they are toghether, and can enjoy....but if you are divorced, and there all your friends are married or with theirs lovers....how do you feel?
You can enjoy if see others when dance, or woman who don t look to you very friendly because are afraid because shes husband can look after you...or if you are man and you are alone...all man try to keep distance, because afraid that you can invite his wife to dance?
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21 responses
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
3 Jun 09
I would definately want to attend the wedding if I was invited. I would feel honoured to have received the invitation and would not want to let my friend down by not going.
I talk to everyone whether I know them or not so I would not be just alone all the time and I would probably not stay too late after the dancing started... unless she had invited some others who were also on their own too. You never know that when you are least expecting it and not looking forward to something it actually turns out to be one of the best times you had
Has this happened to you or was it just a thought you had?
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
3 Jun 09
I find that if you have a smile with you then you are never alone
I have never let the fact that I am single stop me from going somewhere or doing something I wanted to do if friends couldn't come on that particular occasion, whatever it happens to be. It's very unlikely that I would be the only person unaccompanied and there's always someone to talk to. Just have to find the right excuse
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
3 Jun 09
I like to have good time. I would probably go regardless. I may not stay all night long, but I would enjoy attending friends wedding. I can skip dancing if I can find good people to talk to...
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
4 Jun 09
Hi Icesmile,
I usually don't have a problem with that. There is usually someone that I know well enough to kind of hang out with. I definitely would not miss a good friend's party or get together for that reason. I have friends that are couples and I get along with both of them so it's not usually an issue. If I didn't know anyone, that might be a bit awkward.
@beachstarz (1092)
• United States
4 Jun 09
I would want to go , but would wanted to sit close to someone I know , or bring a friend with me . I'm sorta shy and I would want to know someone there .
@bestboy19 (5478)
• United States
6 Jun 09
If a good friend has sent me a personal invitation, I feel obligated to go to the wedding, but not to the reception.
@xingxingsky (176)
• China
5 Jun 09
Don't mind attending any party even if you're alone. It's your own way of your life. It's your present situation. It's not business of anyone else. We enjoy our own life. And we respect other's way of life.
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
30 Aug 09
Why do people think it's so hard to go to parties alone? Are we so SOCIAL that we can't go to social events on our own? Sometimes it's nice to go to a party alone, becaue your world is expanded to more than just your partner, or family. I love going to events either alone, or with my husband. If we both want to go we go, if not, only one of us goes, if only one wants to go. And before we got married, we went to stuff alone all the time!!
@ShirleyBillingsley (1544)
• United States
4 Jun 09
I think you should go to the wedding. My reasons is, this is your friends day. The big day for them. It's not your day, however, you are looking at things from your own personal perspective. This is your friends day, not yours. Your friend will be honored for you to be there, after all, you were invited.
@UK_Shree (3603)
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4 Jun 09
I can imagine that it really would be a very intimidating situation to be in, and very awkward for the single person. But at the end of the day, if it is a good genuine friend that it getting married, then it is important to go. And all of these sorts of situations are character building anyway aren't they?
@macel19 (202)
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
I would probably go, maybe it will feel awkward at first but I will choose to enjoy and meet other people. I'm sure that there will be other people who will go alone as well. It's a great time meeting with other singles and then start a good friendship. I guess it is an oppurtunity to be yourself without others and enjoy the rest of the day.
@med889 (5941)
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4 Jun 09
I would prefer to atten the wedding no matter what because I might also feel strange if I meet my friend later and he/she ask why I have not attended his/her wedding.
I might not dance because for that I need to fin a partner so I will just attend the wedding like all others, I will give my present to them and wish them then stay for a while and then I will prefer to return home.
@nimzia (388)
• India
4 Jun 09
hi friend,
we don't think about what others will think about us.because each and every person is differ.what we can do is what's our mind saying when we want to do something........then surely we will win.please don't feel irritate to go to a party alone....because when they invite us we r going there for make them happy and say wishes after that if you don't feel comfortable you can go back to home...
don't hurt themselves by comparing with others....
@loveykoh (72)
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
yes i will attend my good friend's wedding even if i'm on my own. it means that i'm important to my friend because she/he wants me to share this special occasion with her/his future partner. i will not entertain the thought of what others may think. i am there because i want to witness one of the happiest moment of my friend's life.
@feel4inside (4)
• Romania
4 Jun 09
Yes for sure i will go.Is a good moment to male a girlfriend and to have some good time.This is the best chance to entertain.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
4 Jun 09
It really depends on the temperament of the person. I have seen many divorced people enjoying life to the hilt. All their friends and families know that they are safe from that person and that person generally is outgoing type and not bothered about the divorced status.
But for myself, I am an introvert and my immediate family is my friend. I don’t seem to feel comfortable with anybody without them…so if I had to go alone to a party, maybe I would not go. And if I was divorced, then maybe I would feel bad about going and thinking about what people will talk about me…you know, the sympathies which make you more irritated.
@yugasini (12893)
• Secunderabad, India
4 Jun 09
hi Icesmile,
you words are quite correct, but now most of the husbands can do like this, but there is no chance to us because, we never dance in the parties and marriages.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
of course i'll go. its my good friend's special day so share this moment with them.
don't ruin your social life by that kind of thought...just go there, enjoy, have fun!
don't mind other people, and who knows...in that occasion you'll find Mr. Right! huh!(just kidding)
@anniefannie (1737)
• United States
4 Jun 09
i have being to several weddings by my self but i knew a lot of people there so i wasn't alone when i was there and enjoyed my self very much.they were not big fancy weedings so every one was nice.
@queennee (186)
• Philippines
4 Jun 09
hi icesmile,i think i can afford to go alone,besides its a good friend of mine who invited.who knows when i reach at the event or wedding whatever it is,i'll be able to meet old friends or new one.but,if i feel awkward of the situation,im not gonna stay long.im sure my good friend will understand :)..good day!
@stafei (98)
• China
4 Jun 09
yes.I will.the friend need my bless instead of my girlfriend or wife.Right?He is my good friend so I must give him my best bless for his wedding.whatever I am single or not.That have no any meaning for this wedding.If I still is single in my wedding,then I will feel lonely.haha~~just is a joke.Anyway,I suggest to your frined's wedding.Don't worry you are single.