Do you agree if your husband wants to adopt a kid?

Personally, I think that they should seriously talk about this issue, listen to what they are feeling, and try find a middle ground, find a way where they can both be happy and get what they want. They should at least talk about it and try to work together. Hopefully, as a married couple, they should work as a team and find a way out of their dilemma.

It seems to me he has not quite grasped the fact that most women if they can would like to have their own child if possible.You say he is an activist so does he want to adopt this{ person} child,as a point or to love it,is it just another project to prove a point,don't get me wrong he has a real interest in issues that affect us all and good luck to him .I think this is taking his environmental issues a bit to far,this child will cost the same as any other.surely he wants to have a proper bloodline most men would like that.Not that all can I really feel for people who cannot have kids ,me I only had to look at my husband and got pregnant.Of course it is a wonderful thing to give a child a real family and admire him for thinking that way.She wants to tell him why should she be denied the normal child birth because someone else's mucked it up.He is trying to solve the worlds problems on his own and you cannot save the world on your own.Your friend will not qualify to adopt anyway if she is fertile herself anyway,and certainly not if he gives a political reason for wanting to adopt,it has to be love,he probably won't be suitable if those are his views.I have never heard anything like this before.

I think that it is wonderful when someone decides to adopt a child. If she wants a baby of her own, then they are in a bad situation. I would have not married him without bringing these issues up in the first hand. To be honest, if I were Jane, I would stop using birth control and try to get pregnant without him knowing. Then once they have their own child, there is still time that they can adopt.

Maybe she could talk him into doing what my fiance and I are considering. WE want our own kids of course but we also want to share love with those who dont have a family. So we plan to have at least three of our own and then maybe later adopt a couple of kids. That way you have your own and also save a child or two in the process. I think it is a natural instinct in a woman to want to have her own child so your friend is only being a woman. Which is not a bad thing. As for her husband he is only wanting to give a child a home which is also not a bad thing. So if they work it out they can have both which in return is a real blessing.

According to me adopting a child is good, but in this situation i dont think it is right. He can have a child of his own,and also he can adopt one.

all i can say is think many times not only once because adopting a child is a big responsibility . he should consult a consultant specialized in adopting children and attend seminar to be ready to become a children in his home.

I think that they should talk things over. It is normal for a woman to want to have her own children and her husband should never force her to adopt a child if she does not want to. She has the right to refuse to go along with her husband's plan no matter how noble that plan may sound. Yes, adopting a child is a good thing but if your friend wants to have her own children, then she should have her own children.

I think adopting is a great act for society. There are so many children out there that are suffering and just want the love of a family that there is no need to make a new child while that one suffers. I'm not saying that they can't have children, that itself is awesome too. I think they should adopt a child first from a country that is struggling with overpopulation like China and then they can have their own child.

Well think adoption is wonderful, but it has to be a completely mutual decision, between a couple, and if one person isent fully on board then it may not be a good Idea, becuse even though one might be ok with adopting the other person may still be doubtful and prefers having a biological child, and these doubtful feelings might continue through out the adoption, if a couple decides to go through with adoption, and so I think when it comes to such an important decision both husband and wife has to fully agree and its not just a one sided decision, but if a couple both agrees then its a beautiful thing.

Peter has all the rights to adopt a child and he may have more valid points to reason out the same.But he should consider Janie to do that.Otherwise the child will feel hurt with Janie's attitude,if brought in against her concern.That is not good.So,Peter should convince her first.I think,having a baby by themselves first and go for an adopted child for a second one will be a good thought to convince Janie.Cheers!

What a crazy reason his husband give.It is not a sin to have new baby at this world!God give us baby as reward of our marriage not a sin.It is good to adopt a kid but it is not a sin to have a baby.Of course i will not fight if my husband want to adopt a baby but i will also want my own children and will take care the adopt child like my own child.I willbe fair to both of my children.I think your friend's husband is have bad intuitution to have an adopt child because he dont want to have his own child.It is a most weird case i have heard!In my country,no man dont want his own children and want to adopt baby/kids.Thank you.

yes i will agree if my husband wants to adopt kid.because if we are a couple that has no kid or baby our family will not have a happiness.so for me im very okey that my husband want to adopt kid especially both of us didnt give a kid.i love kid very much.

I would if we could afford it. There are so many children out there that need good parents.

Hey dalia, a good discussion to respond to. I personally wanted to adopt a child but it is a big taboo in our country. You are looked down as though you are infertile to have a baby on your own. I have com accross many childless couples here and they would immediately refuse the idea of adoption. I think your friend and her hubby should have a talk about it. Now that the hubby is too frank you friend should also tell him why she is not so comfortable about the matter. There of course will be no fight because Peter is not compelling Janie about it. She should first think of all the pros and cons of adoption and if she is not convinced that she can mother sombody elses child then she should convince the hubby. :)

Adoption is a wonerful thing to do. however, if the woman wants a biological child that should acknowledged and fulfilled since it's a natural for women to be mothers. men don't seem to understand the need that women have.

As an adoptee, I feel very strongly on this issue. There are many children out there that need a great loving home. My boyfriend and I have had this discussion. We both want a large family... four kids to be exact.... We want 1 biological child and I would not have any problem adopting the other 3 and neither would he. maybe they could reach a similar agreement. Adoption is a wonderful thing..... my adopted parents could not have children, so they were on a waiting list for 8 years before they got me. Adoptees also have a who lot of emotional baggage that comes with them too though.... there is always a void. They need to know their heritage and at the very least family medical history. I have had a wonderful life full of nothing but love and support and yet I am still seeking these answers. But I think adoption is a great option.

I understand completely where he's coming from. Good on the guy for feeling that way. It would be such a nice thing for them to do. If his wife isnt on board though then it just wont work. Adoption isnt for everyone and it takes a special kind of person. Myself and my partner would love to adopt, but it is so expensive, and there are no guarantees that there will be a positive outcome.

I will sugget there is no harmin adopting a baby in fact this is a very good deed but before adopting baby you should acces your own position i mean financial and emotional level of ready ness for ababy, one more thing can be there that is if you think you should have your own baby then discuss it with your husband and tell him taht you will adopt one baby afterward first you want to give birth to achild,and then after 2-3 yeras you can adopt one baby