what will you select : friendship or love?

@amitnaik (471)
India
June 4, 2009 2:31am CST
if you are given a choice of selecting between love and friendship,what will you choose and why? Remember you can't select both. let me put it this in a situation : if you are in a boat with two people out of which one is your best friend and other one is your true love. only you know how to swim.And suddenly something goes wrong with your boat,so you all three jump out of the boat.now you can save only one of them cause the seashore is very far. if you even try to save both you will die.so you can't save both in any circumstances.neither there is anyone else to help you. Whom will you save : best friend or true love? please give me proper reasons also. Thanx in advance!!
3 responses
@mrbluey (36)
• Singapore
4 Jun 09
It probably varies personally. Assuming there are no ways to bypass the restrictions of the question (haha), people probably would be inclined to choose the greater love. According to C.S. Lewis' book, there are Four Loves. Here they are, in order of ranked importance (I'm not too sure about the general accuracy of this). 1. agape - divine, unconditional, self-sacrificing, active, volitional and thoughtful love. (God's love for humanity, for instance) 2. storge - natural affection, applying to family love (love of a parent toward a child). In social psychology, storge is the form of love between friends. The desire for exceptional friends to care compassionately for one another. 3. philia - mutual affection in relationships formed. Divided into three types by Aristotle: friendships of utility (shallow; between a buyer and seller, for instance); friendships of pleasure (based on pure delight in the company of other people); and the highest form of philia, friendships of the good (ones where both friends enjoy each other's characters). 4. eros - passionate love, with sensual desire and longing. Therefore, as shown above, it depends on the depth of the relationships between you (the persona in the scenario) and the friend, and you and the true love. Personally, I would be stuck because both my best friend and love would share about the same level of affection with me - I would characterize it as a cross between storge and philia. I might, being slightly biased, choose my true love, though. I don't know about this. I'm glad I'm not in such a situation! :)
@amitnaik (471)
• India
4 Jun 09
Great response!! just as descriptive as i thought. Thanx for the response.
• Singapore
4 Jun 09
Thanks for your high compliment :) I'm very glad to offer my opinion to questions such as these. They make me think, and go out and look for information, and search the depths of my memory and experiences.
@chapstek (85)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
Hi there amitnaik! Good day to you! I think if I will choose between friendship and love, regardless of what I choose, both principles of friendship and love is affected. I mean, if you want to have a good friendship with someone, you should and have love for that person right? And I think if you love a person, you care for him or her with the principle of friendship right? So I think choosing one is not enough. But if I really have to choose one amitnaik, I will choose friendship. Because in friendship, we can always love that friend and always care for them. So there amitnaik. Happy myLotting to you! :)
@amitnaik (471)
• India
6 Jun 09
A different way to think for...! Thanx for responding!
@abanerji (1026)
• India
4 Jun 09
in such a situation i would jump into the water and will not try to swim out but drown myself and die. both these people are special in my life. both have their importance and it would be very hard to sacrifice one for the other. in that case i owuld be better if i die before the special people in my life die. life would mean nothing without anyone of these two.
@amitnaik (471)
• India
4 Jun 09
Thanx for your response!