u know your parents are wrong. do u obey their advises or orders then?

I can only speak for myself and based on my personal experience with regards to my parents. As we all know, each of us is unique and God gave us wonderful parents. So as for me, i do obey my parents and their wisdom with regards to advices. They have taught me the way things in life has to be handled based on the Word of God and my fear of God. I will never see my parents have wronged me for any decisions i had make because they have guided me also. I can also say that i respect them dearly and i owe it all to them. This experience I am talking about is for my own, and i cannot in any way apply this for anybody because i don't know their situation, i don't know even what the thread starters problem with regards to his parents and as what i do believe that we know our parents a lot, right? So when you think that they might have wronged you, speak to them about it, never shout back and settle the matter in a mature, civilized way.

That's a very good way to do it. It is really best to set down and talk with parents in case of disagreements and it involves major life decisions. Somehow, our elders know better because of their experiences while the younger generations have to do things by foresight. For me, I always listen and may do compromise sometimes but I always do what I really think and feel is right for me. It is hard to disobey ones parents but they should understand that making major decisions is one way of growing and becoming independent.

When I was younger, I always obey what ever my parents will tell me to do so especially my mother as she is the one always in our house while my father is busy working. There was once in my life that I regret for obeying my mother's command. My mom told me to shift into another course as I was taking up Computer Science 12 years ago, she claimed (from her Christian fellowship) that computers all over the world will explode in year 2000 because of the Y2K Bug which may cause the end of the world. She even stated that the computer is the work of the devil. Since I was an obedient and good child, I shifted into another course. The year 2000 came, no computers has exploded and the Y2K Bug was being solved. Nowadays, there are a lot of need for IT professionals and Gaming Programmers, I have lost one part of my life for such a stupid thing. Now that I am older and wiser, I don't listen to my mother anymore. I make my own decisions as its more practical and wiser. I make my own life so I need to manage my own life.

I would try my best to convince them if I know their words are wrong. However, this does not always work,especially on my mother. She was very adamant and it seems impossible to talk her out of her way. In those cases, I just ignore her advise and do it in my own way, which definitely annoys her.

no.i won't obey them.who ever it is who are making mistakes continously i won't obey them

hello i have always respect of may parents even though sometimes i don't obey them but i think every time they scold me they show their love with me. they want me to grow and have the attitude that i must obey them. Some time i don't agree with them but at the end i realize that what they want is right for may future.

I think it depends on the elder. I listen to everything that she has to say and more often than not, I do follow her advice. However she has a friend that has more than her fair share of problems and always wants to give people advice. The bad part is, she is giving the same advice that got her into her problem. So watch whose advice you follow

Not at all! Whoever it may be. If I find their ideas to be wrong, I will never go according to them!

Either we will like it or not we can choose who will be our parents. They are God's gift to us.Some parents are good and some are bad, and I am blessed because although they are not perfect they are good parents. There are times that they are biased but I highly respect them even though I know that they have misjudged my actions.They commit mistakes because they are also human but that's not lessen their value as parents. I have to follow them rather than what it mind and heart disctates.Because I believed that the way you treat your parents, that's the way your children will treat you. But sometimes I admit that I talked back I know it is wrong. I believd that they just want the best for my life and I know that I can only understand them fully when I will be a parent as well. Since I am married right now and pregnant I come to realized that what my mom did is not easy as well as my dad's sacrfice for us. It is hard to be a daughter but it is harder to become a mom. I really understand your situation shibham I know that you habe already talk to them. Just try your best to look at the big picture, rather than concentrating for your own satisfaction. I knwo your parents tried their best to be a good parents to you, and if you think that you dont get the right treatment just always remind yourself that it still does not give you the power to rule and disrespect them. They've been sacrificing to raised you. Just try your best to be kind to them. You will just understand them when you will be a parent someday. Have a great day to you!

This is a very hard question. I would like to answer that we should do or follow what we think is right, but this idea might mislead others, especially minors, to do just whatever they please. I think this all depends on the maturity of a person.

When I was a kid I used to follow them blindly but as years pass by, I kind of notice that I also need to live my own life. I get a course in college that I don't like coz that's what they want, but after I graduated I started following my own dreams. Its one thing to make them proud but it doesn't mean I have to sacrifice my own happiness for them, coz its only the rest of my life that I'm dealing with. If I become successful in my chosen career I'm sure they'll go around. I'm satisfied with every decision I make but I constantly ask for guidance from them whenever I'm dealing with an issue that I'm unfamiliar with like parenthood or married life. I know that they did their best to give me good upbringing and there's no reason for them to get disappointed. Atleast I'm living a healthy life. I used to try to please them, but I also started to pursue my own dreams and happiness and I'm sure their pleasure will follow once they see that I can stand on my own feet without having to depend much from them. I believe it should be a pride of a parent to see their children grow up with a good life. When I know they're wrong, I try to tell them and I'm glad that they are listening now. There's not much you can do if you're a child coz you ought to listen to your parents and children cannot speak for themselves yet for having insufficient experience about a certain matter. I guess all it needs is a good way of communicating things so misunderstandings can be prevented.

I know what you are trying to say. This situation happens with me most often when my father is at home, like right now... I'm glad that you could sit with your elders and really have a good chat with them. Unlike with my family, we are not very intimate with each other and, most often than not, have bad feelings everyday before the day ends especially towards my father. It is a bit complicated to explain but we have no other choice but to obey him or else we'll suffer from his anger.

Hi, I experienced that in my life.. They didn't like my boyfriend because he already has a kid and they want me to break up with him. I didn't do it, and instead proved to them that having a kid is not a bad thing.. And we are still together until now... I think parents live in their own protective world and they try to think what is really the best for you,.. though sometimes it has an opposite effect. An I admit talking about everything really does help..

Hey, i havent really got the hang of posting yet but im going to give it a go. in my experiance wth my parents, most of the time they are right, and do not misjudge. But when they do its a real pain. Its usually best to obey them but you got to take account what is going to be taken away if you do, and what will happen if you dont.. in short, you gotta wheigh it out.

I always have high regard for my parents because I do respect them. So what ever they say I need to listen to their words faithfully even though we don't have the same wavelength. It might be the generation gap that makes us don't agree on certain issues but we can always explain our stance so they don't feel offended. Respect for the elders is important.

Hi, There are many older who are adamant as they do not wish to change so easily. Even knowing that their views need some modification they ignore it and go their way. This is not good for the greater interest of the society. Yes there is no question that we should respect our elders and olders but not that we go on following them blindly. Every day we getting things updated and accordingly we too try to adept ourselves to this or else the door would be shut on your face and you would be ousted neck and crop.