She left twice, and came back twice. Will you take her back?
By trindio
@trindio (61)
Singapore
June 4, 2009 11:58am CST
That's exactly my question.
My girlfriend left me twice, and came back to me twice.
She says after all this, she still finds that I'm the best. But frankly, after all this times of feeling like being played out, the feeling I have for her is starting to waver. But she's been very nice lately, for the past month.
Giving in to all I want, and not doing what I used to dislike her doing.
I wonder how long it will last. This nice-ness of hers, and whether we can even work it out together in future...
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2 responses
@Caylaxx (96)
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4 Jun 09
I feel bad for you, its a tough decision to make. You clearly love her and want her but its not fair on you because you the one getting hurt every time she leaves. Personally i don't think you should take her back becuase shes taking advantage of you and its not fair. Tell her exactly how you feel and make it clear. If you decide to take her back, set boundries that includes you having control not just her. Hope everything works out for you.
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@cbeee3 (2061)
• India
4 Jun 09
I agree with Caylaxx. You are the one who ends up getting hurt every single time.
What I am wondering is, she has done this twice, what if she does it again? Also, has she left her BF to come back to you? If that is the case then I think she has some serious relationship issues.
On a personal note, I would just let her know I am honoured but it wont work out.
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@trindio (61)
• Singapore
8 Jun 09
thanks both caylaxx and cbee3 for your advices! =)
Like what caylaxx rightly pointed out, I still love her, and that's where all the problems arise. Well, she has indeed left me twice and come back again, but I guess it's also slightly different, now that I have changed.
One issue was that in the past, she was in uni while I was in army. To me, she has many other alternatives and other temptations, but for her, I had nothing but guys to look at and stuff. I guess that's why she could easily take me for granted and all. But still, yes, she could have stayed.
Right now, she's a very nice girlfriend to me. I'm just taking it easy, 'cos to me, I realise that I can live w/o her. I don't feel the hurt anymore, should she leave me again. I know my qualities, and I'm not at all worried at finding another better girl when she leaves me!
Thanks again alot still guys! =)
*cheers*
@mermaidivy (15394)
• United States
4 Jun 09
NO. If she had a strong relationship and faith in you, why would she leave the first place? When she came back the first time, it was a problem already, she might just want you take her back... and she left again so what doe sthat mean? She found something good out there again and left you? I think it is easy to know what's going on, I hope you good luck!
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@trindio (61)
• Singapore
8 Jun 09
Hey mermaidivy,
thanks loads for your advice. I have been getting many of these 'NO's, but I guess only you are clear in what you mean, and can give me such sound advice =)
Like my friend had told me before as well, it doesn't work that whenever she wants love, or something with her and the other guy goes wrong, she comes running to me for love. I guess I had loved her too much, that this is happening today.
Probably, it's loving the wrong person.
Hope all goes well.
Cheers, mate =)