would this bother you?

Why does this bother you so much? Is it the woman's behavior or that of your husband? Do you have any reason not to trust your husband? Have you ever cheated in a relationship? Unless this woman is his supervisor there is very little danger. He can speak to her about it, speak to a supervisor, speak to an HR director, even speak to a lawyer. In general men are not bothered by this kind of behavior. They don't take the other person seriously but they do enjoy the attention. Unless you have reason to distrust your husband you need to not make a major issue of it.

Your instincts are always correct. If you feel that there is cause for concern, there definitely is. Even if your husband is a preacher or some kind of saint, that won't prevent her from trying any moves on him. Personally I would inform your husband about her behavior, and that you are more than aware. This will put fear in him, and he will send her different signals that do not allow for disrespect of his marriage. And then I would respond to one of her flirtatious emails, inform her that you know what she is up to and that you will annihilate her...wait is that too harsh? Okay maybe not annihilate her but make her aware of your suspicions and that you will not tolerate her advances or her disrespectful behavior. Even if you are wrong and this woman turns out to be a lesbian or something, at least people will know that your husband is NOT up for grabs.

When it comes to business trip then it is a little hard to deal. If he has to go then you have to put a lot of trust on him. For me, of course I would not hold it... or may be as my hubby to say or state something that make me feel comfortable with. Some girls never think what is going on and she doesn't care who is who, as long as she has fun. I hate it and really want to go down to California with him, if possible. Hey, why dont you go with him just for a little vacation there... to see if he lets you go or not... But it is too much huh? he is going to feel bad or uncomfortable about this. oh my god, this is hard. Well, if he loves you then he should not do anything bad to destroy his own family, right? but if he is too flirty with her too then you have to be on top on this thing. Im not blaming you to feel bad or too much on it but if we are too easy then they will be fool. I hope everything is alright

I am not a jealous type but I do pay attention to my gut and it sounds like your gut is trying to tell you something here. Maybe it's nothing at all but it sounds as if you have been uncomfortable about this woman for a time now. Does your husband show you these e-mails or are you just spying? Do you have a reason not to trust him?

This would bother the SH** outta me, but see my other posts...I have trust issues. Look you may trust your husband 100% but can you trust her? Some women think of it as a challenge to get the married man...I wouldn't be fond of the idea at all. But, I'm not sure what you can do about it other than tell him it drives you crazy and you need him to reassure you that nothing is going to happen...it's not like you can ask him NOT to go...why are they always in HR????

Of course, it will bother me. After all, women are sweets-nectar, and if this co-worker has been known to flirt, then this husband has the propensity to probably take a dive for the sweet nectar. If the environment is right and this husband has no control over his instinctive desire for sweets, then the unexpected could occur. There is really nothing you can do, but to trust that your husband has the decency to stay married to your family, home, and you. On the other hand, think of how you were able to get him to stay with you for long during your courtship and engagement days. Go back to that memory lane and refresh your relationship with him in that or more fashion. If you do this and all the good-natured things a wife should do for the family, home, and your hubby, and still he dives for the sweet, then let this bee fly away from you. As a husband, he is not worth it!

I think you would be within your rights as a wife to tell of your misgivings to your hubby. If nothing is wrong, then he would be the best person to put you at ease. However, if something is wrong, then its better to nip it in the bud...your husband would understand that you are not liking this and keep his distance and may even tell his colleague to keep her distance.

The way I see it, if those two would really plan on ‘doing’ something, if this is really the beginning of an extramarital affair, you can rest assured that you wouldn’t know about it. Her mails would go to an email address to which you DON’T have access, they probably set one up just for the two of them. She wouldn’t be staring at you if something were really going on, because it might be a give away. It’s sad to say, but spouses get to know about affairs of their better half only after the fact. Maybe he (hubby) just wants to make you jealous, that’s why he allows you to see those flirtatious mails (kind of ‘see, I’m still attractive to other woman’). Or you’ve been flirting around online, he found out without telling you, and now it’s payback time LOL. I wouldn’t read too much into it, they just might be enjoying a little flirt, which I personally find perfectly ok.

I would talk to my husband about this and if he doesn't offer to tell you first then I would bring it up. I think that she is going out of her way to be too friendly with a married man and that would bother me. If you trust him, then I would not worry about it to much, but I would make sure that he knew that I was aware of her and that I had suspcions about her. I believe that it would make him a little more aware of what she is doing. Men don't always see things as we do.

Trust your husband otherwise you will suffer thinking all time about that.

This girl is interested to you thats why she act differently. Just ignore her and everything thing will be fine.

I think that trust is an important part of relationships, especially long term relationships like marriage. I think that if you can honestly go to your partner and explain to him civilly that you are uncomfortable with the idea, and that you love him and that you aren't accusing him of anything, that it should be fine. Yes, the office place is like number one of all time for cheaters, but not every man is a cheater. Some guys are just friendly. Good luck.