I'm Sad. :(
By Payout
@payout (3794)
United States
June 4, 2009 3:56pm CST
Today My Boyfriend decided to take a Break. Last Night he Text Message me and said I'm going to bed. I woke up and it sound like he was sad or whatever. Well he end up going with is gay friend. So I text him when I was at school and he never answer me back. He eventually text back when I use my friends phone.
I said why are you acting fun.. He said he just woke up then why did he just text when I use my friends phone..?
Well yeah I ask where are you he said at my gay friends house. He spend the night. He said his friend called him or pick him up. Because he need help on sending some mexican home. Because he spoke spanish and the friend didn't understand.
Well yeah eventually he got to his friends house then he fell asleep at 4 in the morning.
He thinks I'm controlling and jealous.
I ask him do you like your friend did you do anything.. ?
My Boyfriend is Gay. So yeah..
He said NO, NO, NO then he got mad.
Then listen to his friend and decided to go on a Break. I said no and I love u.
HE said don't call me Babe no more just call me by my name. Don't call me or text me.
I cried.. a lot..
I don't Know what to do.. he wants the apartment key back .. IDK..
Then I called his friend that he was hanging with. Then we start fight I said I'm going to kick his *** well yeah .. HE was like I'm a little boy I don't know anything. and my Boyfriend was there I bet* Didn't say anything.
I said if you love me then give up this friend for me. He said no I said why not I will do the same for you and plus you haven't knew this friend for less then a month.
I Guess I'm the Problem..? IDK..?
I think his friend is changing him...?
I NEED ANSWERS QUESTIONS, HELP, ADVICE SOMETHING?
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9 responses
@Aragon5000 (28)
• Netherlands
5 Jun 09
Sometimes we are the cause of our own problems. Why would you pick a gay guy for a boyfriend when you are straight? (Or are u gay yourself?) Why dont you pick a straight guy so you know what you are dealing with? Now you have to worry if he is off with a guy or a girl. If you are not gay yourself and you want to get married and settle down someday, my advice is let go and concentrate on finding a nice straight guy to build a relationship that would lead to marraige, if not you might end up always looking behind your back. Be well
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@Aragon5000 (28)
• Netherlands
5 Jun 09
Opps!!! Sorry, I just saw you are male. Then I suggest you sit down with him and have a good discussion. You are stil very young and I hope you can have a good discussion without yealing and fighthing, Be well
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@lululastrange (339)
• United States
5 Jun 09
I don't mean to sound mean or anything but gay men are the hardest men in the world to have as boyfriend. Even bi men have a pentient for drama.
If he wants a break, let him have it. When he comes around (and he will) it will be up to you whether you want to take him back.
Good luck honey.
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@Citychic (4067)
• United States
4 Jun 09
I"m sad:(
Hello friend, sorry to hear that you are so sad over you bf but you need to get over him. We should not be so dominating in a relationship that we ask our significant other to give up their friends. If you are sure that he is only friends with the gay guy then you have nothing to worry about. But if you suspect that there is something more and you've asked your bf to give up his friendship with the gay guy and he doesn't. Then he is making a decision to choose the gay guy over you. You must accept it and move on. It should be no offense to you but you must Belize that your bf is doing what he chooses to do. I think that loving a person is giving the freedom to make their own choices in life. If he love you, he will return if he don't, he never did........ So turn him loose and let him go free, then you will see if your relationship was meant to be.......... and don't go to the gay guy saying I"m going to kick your but, just leave him be. What goes around comes back around. If they are doing something wrong, it will catch up with both of them eventually. Hopefully you are getting out of the loop before serious problems occur. Good luck. PS: If you have been sexually active with your bf you should go and get tested. As you just never know if he's been sexually active with the gay guy or not.
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@cainam (493)
• Philippines
5 Jun 09
you are the one who can answer that. i may be wrong because i think he is gay. i don't know the whole story but i also have a friend who was in the same situation like you and it turned out that her boyfriend is a gay. just think of it but don't make conclusions yet. goodluck.
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@shangdinizaina (47)
• China
5 Jun 09
I don't know your age, but something like this is difficult to know the answer.everyone has his point ,then changing someone's point usually isn't easy.as possible as cool down ,talking with yourself to know what you want,then try to take sometime to talk with him.and then the rest is what are you going to do at the tomorrow. I hope you can get a happy ending, but not everything is you want.
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@smartie0317 (1610)
• United States
4 Jun 09
I can't tell you if he was cheating or whatever, he might have been. It sounds to me, he's taking his friend's side ovr your's. You don't want to be with someone like that. You feelings will just keep getting hurt. Just forget about him. I'm sure you'll find someone better.
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@xoxcharityxox (567)
• United States
4 Jun 09
I think I answered your last post. In this situation I'd have to just give him the key back and move on. I know it's hard when you still care about someone, but it may be for the best. Even if not, then things will eventually work out. It just sounds like he's not willing to give you anything and you don't want to be in a relationship like that. Both people should give to eachother. I honestly wonder if there is anything going on between him and his friend. I can't be sure or definate or anything, but it is strange that he always ends up with him late at night.
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@Mathiaes (91)
• Denmark
4 Jun 09
wow, I'm really sad to hear this..But I think that you may have to see the fact that either he don't love you or else he might be gay, and if he's gay, then that's who he are, you can't change that..but if not, then just give it a change, try not to call him or act desperate or anything like that, and then maybe he'll find out that he stills love you, or you're going to find out if you maybe don't need him
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