how much wait for parants approval to marriage?
@truptidandekar (86)
India
June 5, 2009 1:24am CST
hi , i wan to discuss with all of you a problem which my friend is facing from long time ,she is in a relationship almost since 3 years, his partner is very good and very understanding . she is not having any trouble from his family for this relation they want her to be sattle with his boy friend through marriage, problem is my friends parants are not ready to go for intercast marriage and so the time is going,my friend is not ready to go against his family and says he will convience his family one day, but her girl friends parants are now started saying they dont want to wait as she getting older and if my friends parants will not get agree ever tahn what next.
they both really love each other
Please suggest some way for them.as they are in big trouble
3 responses
@noidaonline (152)
• India
6 Jun 09
In my view, we all should get our narriages approved by our parents. After all they are better judge of life and this should be left to the decision of my parents. Intercast is a big hurdele (even in today's time), especially in parts of world like India. Bangkok happens to be the best in this aspect.
@truptidandekar (86)
• India
8 Jun 09
but in taht case there parants will never allow tham and they will always in dark
@gogetitdear (55)
• Japan
5 Jun 09
Its very common in India.
My advice is, if they are confident of leading their life together, and if both are capable of earning their bread, just go ahead. The caste problems are barriers for people but not for love. Tell them to go ahead and marry. if caste is the only problem they have, they can convince their parents. Castes are created depending on the work people do and all people are same.
Good Luck to them.
@truptidandekar (86)
• India
8 Jun 09
yes but his parants are very much perticuler toward cast and dont allow him to get marry and he also love his parants too much and dont want to hurt them
@shalabhvaid (319)
• India
5 Jun 09
Hi Trupti
Somebody has to take the lead if they love each other so much. The boy has to conveicne his parents or he will loose the girl. If he really lvoes her he has to work towards it or forget the girl. Most parents dont want to keep a girl child without marriage for longer time. What if he never marries her keeps giving excuses of his parents will agree, the time for the girl will pass by to get married and then nobody iwll want to marry her. The boy will get a girl at any time. The boys are hardly questioned anytime. The girls are the one who are questioned.
I think if the boy really likes her he should get married to her and stay seperately with the girl so like this they both can be happy. He can also visit him parents and care for them. Like this both will be happy. This is just my view point.
@truptidandekar (86)
• India
8 Jun 09
THanks Shalabhvaid,actully we al so had discussed this option many time sbut boy dont want to hurt his parants actully he says that, he really love her and if his parants never say yes than he wont marry ever to any other girl but without there permission and blessing he dont want to go in relation