Prayers Needed ~ Life Has Hit a Brick Wall
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
United States
June 5, 2009 10:00am CST
Just when you think things can't get any worse...it does. Three of my four children have been arrested and the charges are pretty bad. My youngest daughter tried to overdose but failed (Thank God!). They are all facing serious charges.
As all of this happened my thoughts went back to when they were little. With fond memories I took myself to a time when there was much joy in our lives. This was a time when I could kiss the boo boo and make it all better. The sweet little cherub faces that glowed with healthy smiles came to me. Then I remember the commercials of a dancer spinning round and round "you never wished that you would be a junkie when you were little" played in my mind. I remember that commercial and thought at the time that I didn't have to worry about such things. I was wrong.
I was able to speak with my sons last night for what was called an emergency visit. I only got to see them for a half hour. I told them that this wasn't the worst call I could ever receive. The worst call I would have ever received would have been one telling me that they were gone. That didn't happen.
This is their rock bottom. I told them that they need to focus on their faith and pray to God. God will see them through.
Don't ever think that this cannot happen to your family. I thought so and was wrong. Although I am saddened by the fact that my children are incarcerated, I am thankful that they are alive.
My son said he may not see the light of day for many years. My reply was "You will see the light of day, just in another place."
Tears are flowing like a river. I am a strong person though and I will get through this. Being from a small town I know that the fingers will be pointed and the tongues wagging. But, I will hold my head up high.
The Devil took hold of my children and shook them hard. The realize that now. With faith and prayer the grip he had on them will be gone.
Big huggers to you. Elusive Butterfly
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
5 Jun 09
I will be in earnest prayer for you and your family, Elusive. Your post has reminded me of a quote my (play) brother was fond of saying: If God brings you to it he will bring you through it. We often look within whenever our children go astray, but the answer usually lies with only them. We do what we can to bring them up right, but outside influences will often lead them astray. Just remind your children that God forgives us if we truly repent. Best wishes.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
18 Jun 09
Thanks WW. I hope that my children will open their eyes and take a good look. Only then will they realize that God is the only way.
@toaste (139)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I am very sorry to hear of your sadness. Keep your faith and don't give the gossipy rumours a second thought. They are not main characters in your play of life. If God brought you to it, God will bring you through it. My prayers are for you and your children. God Bless you.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
19 Jun 09
Simple words and prayers are more than enough to bring comfort to my aching heart.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
5 Jun 09
I am so very sorry for your troubles. Your children can break your heart, i know. Many times i have thought of the ols saying, WHEN THEY ARE YOUNG THEY STEP ON YOUR TOES, WHEN THEY OLDER THEY STEP ON YOUR HEART. My oldest son got in trouble nearly 20 years ago but i have never forgotten the hurt is caused. Thank GOD he turned it around. I sure hope your children do to. I know u are devastated but don't worry about what other people will say. THEY MAY HAVE TO WALK A MILE IN YOUR SHOES SOMEDAY. you never know. AGAIN I AM SO SORRY , A PRAYER FOR YOU & YOUR CHILDREN HAS BEEN SAID.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
22 Jun 09
That saying is so very true. I keep praying that my children will turn themselves around and head in the right direction.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Some days are better than others. But, as each day passes, I get a little stronger.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
22 Jun 09
I certainly hope they will to. I hope things are getting better for u. GOD BLESS.
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@crazydaisy (3896)
• Canada
5 Jun 09
I am very sorry for what happen but you are right about the tongues wagging and fingers pointed.I bet if it was there children they wouldn't like it.So Pray for them and be Strong and Faith.
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@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
5 Jun 09
I will storm heaven with prayers for you and your family. This must be the hardest thing you have ever gone through and as a mother I only have an idea of what it is like for you.
I have seen this happened to so many families and when mine were small never said that this could not happen to us for I had seen it happen in older friends' children.
Right at this moment I am so concerned about your daughter as she is crying for help.
I lack words to comfort you but do not take on any guilt that ti was your fault in any way. May opur Saviour Bless and keep you and your family safe in the palm of His hand. Heavenly Father send your HOly Spirit now to comfort this lady and give her the strength to go on. Bless her Lord in every way. Let her and her family feel Your healing touch.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
19 Jun 09
Your words have comforted me more than you will ever know. Thank you.
@AngryKittyMSV (4317)
• United States
5 Jun 09
Oh, Butterfly, I am so sorry that this has happened to your family and I know your heart must be breaking. Keep your head up, you know you did the best you could to raise them right, unfortunately, when they are grown you cannot make their decisions for them and even the best raised children will make horrible choices as adults. THIS IS NOT A REFLECTION ON YOU.
They are at rock bottom, but they are alive, and where there is life, there is hope. At the bottom, you have nowhere to go but up. This terrible time may be exactly what they need to learn some hard lessons and change their lives for the better in the future. All you can really do is love them, and pray for them, the rest is up to them.
Hugs to you.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
5 Jun 09
I have spoken those words time and again. But, even so I think of what I could have done better. I try not to beat myself up over it, but as a parent I can't help myself. I do love them and always will. I always told them I may not like what they choose to do with their lives, but I will always love them.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
5 Jun 09
Big huggers to you to Elusive Butterfly. I am so very sorry, I have already said a prayer for you and your kids. Like you said Thank God they are all alive. My son has had a few instances of trouble, I thank God that none of it was serious. As a Mother my heart just breaks for you. I have had some family members that have been in prison and have had some serious charges. I hope and pray that somehow someway it all works out for the best. I wish I had the words to make you feel better.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Your words do make me feel better. I knew that my friends would come out to lift my spirits. The kids need prayer and guidance to get them through this. I keep praying that they will.
@Celanith (2327)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Being a mother I can sure relate and understand. We can only do our best and try and raise them up right. We make mistakes but I understand how it is. Our adult children do not seem to understand what heartbreak and hurt, disappointment, shock, and pain the put us through when they choose as adults to walk astray after living lives that were upright. We can only pray and love them, sometimes from afar. God does hear us and he does love them and us. Hang in there and never give up on them or give up praying because sometimes it does take rock bottom before children turn around and realize how cruel and wicked this world is and they have to pay for their crimes and sins. God does not give up and neither should we. Ignore the tongue waggers, usually pointing fingers are leveled because they don't want anyone looking to closely at their own lives and problems and thier mistakes, sins and things that they do. Hold on and take your strength from God and your close friends whom you know won't turn their back or judge but will stand with you and with them. Know God is not done with them and when we can no longer parent our adult children except through prayer. God takes over but he does want us to pray and wants to know how much and how important it is to us as well. In the end it will come out okay for all of you.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Thank you ever so much for your kind words. As I go through the comments that everyone has left I feel a bit stronger. Big huggers to you.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
5 Jun 09
Oh, I am so sorry to hear that you are going through this. I will definitely keep you and your children in my thoughts. I know that you will help them through this as well as you can.
Best wishes to you!
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Thank you. I will always be there for my children...through thick and thin.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
12 Jun 09
Oh dear...I'm so sad to hear this. I'm several days behind reading my alerts. I'm sorry you are going through this...it must be awful for you and them. You have my prayers and I will light candles for your young ones. You must be devastated. Hugs to you, stay strong...as you say...it's not the worst thing.
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
5 Jun 09
Well you're right, it could be worse. They're alive and where there's life, there's hope, they say. Still it has got to be very hard for you to see them incarcerated. Sometimes you have to hit rock bottom before you can start to straighten your life out again and I hope that this has opened their eyes and made them want to get straight. But how heartbreaking for you. Hugs.
@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
22 Jun 09
It is still breaking my heart to know that this has happened to them. The path they chose was of their own decision. I can only be there to offer support in their time of need and pray that they come out of this better people.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
5 Jun 09
I hope it all works out for the best. Hopefully this will be the wake up call they need!
I remember a saying... It's always darkest before the dawn.
I think that's the case here.
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I am so sorry to hear what is going on in your world at this time. You seem to be a level headed woman, that is what your children really need right now. It is unfortunate that they realize now what you have been trying to make them see. Like my mother says, when children are small they pull at your coat tails, and when they are grown they pull at your heart. I will be praying for you and your family. I think I have it bad with the things that are going on in my life, but there are always those who are going through worse.
Stay strong, and ignore the tongue wagglers.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
22 Jun 09
Even with what my children have done, I know that there were far worse things that could have happened. Thankfully, they didn't.
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
9 Jun 09
My thoughts and Prayers are with you and your family at this time. Sometimes we may not always understand what is going on, and why things are happening the way that they do, but always remember God is in control. Remember the Promises in ISAIAH 40:31 and one day you will wake up knowing it will be worth it all. We all know a God who can answer any Prayer need if we only continue to Trust and believe. Here's a BIG HUG back, and please keep us updated as you can.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
30 Jun 09
Thank you for the scripture and kind words. I have received many prayers, hugs and smiles in these past few weeks.
@GardenGerty (160952)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Honey, I am sorry. I know how it is to have a child go really astray. We still have something hanging over our son's head. I know you are thankful for the one child that is not up on charges. We never know what is going to sneak into their lives and ours, with just a little opening in the door. I will pray Sarina. Hugs to you, and keep reminding them of what they need to be doing. Hold your head up high, girl.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
22 Jun 09
I remind them every time I see them or write to them. The boys are turning a deaf ear. But, I hope and pray that in time they will see things more clearly.
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
22 Jun 09
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your son. Times like these are so tough. I cannot afford to bail my children out of jail. They will need to sit there. But, I will not leave them. My thoughts and prayers are always with them. Big huggers to you.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
9 Jun 09
Hello dear Elusive Butterfly. I am so sorry to hear the news, but please cheer up and let's hope that everything will be better soon. I wish your kids to come back home to go on with their normal life as ever. Bless them.
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@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I hate to hear about this. I do understand your pain. As a parent you try your best to teach them right from wrong but when they reach the age of independance..it's live and learn for them. They have their own minds and no matter what..you have to remember it is not your fault. You have done the best you could. I think we all want to blame ourselves when our children do wrong. It is the way we protect them..instinct maybe..we take the blame from them and put it on ourself. We can't do that. Don't let those fingers and tongues hurt you anymore than you are already hurting. It is easy for people to point and talk when they are not the ones dealing with it. I will tell you this though...what come around goes around..and you won't have anything to do with that either. Things have a way of working themselves out and there will come a day when they remember pointing and talking and will think..wow..i know where she was coming from now. Heads up friend...this may be the calling for your children to stand up and do well.
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@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
Im sorry to hear this from you ElusiveButterfly . What kind of case they
face to that they are arrested ? Did they do bad things that you did
not know? If what is that problem I got hard to find out whats the reason
why they arrested. Is it fair that they arrested your 3 sons. I know
you have the right to file against the men who arrested them if it is not
true. If that is true I know there is a way to find answer to your problems.
But its not easy to handle the 3 of it , you will misssed them in your
life. Just believe to Devine Guidance and He will show you the
right way for it.Dont lose hope thios is only trials in our life.
@doggyhouz (548)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Sometimes dwelling is phase of understanding. But when dwelling becomes an obsession then you must review your own actions before you give up on self-action. Trueness may come from belief; but when you stop putting faith into ones decision, trueness no longer exist as well.
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