Sending children to school with a fever should be a no-no...

@mommaj (23112)
United States
June 6, 2009 9:20am CST
I went to volunteer at my daughter's school yesterday. One of the children came to school with a fever because her mother didn't want her to miss water day. This is the same child that was shivering in-between events and sitting with a towel on her in the sun to stay warm, instead of playing. How much fun was water day to that poor child. Was her mother nuts? First, the child didn't feel like playing and second if you have a fever chances are good you are contagious. What the heck was the parent thinking? Did the parent just need a babysitter?
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
6 Jun 09
A fever is the least of what parents send kids to school with! I will arrive late in the afternoon and discover chldren with ringworm and all sorts of other things that should have stayed at home! Field trips and things like water day are big factors, especially if money has been spent but some parents send them because they have to work and have nowhere else to send them. Other parents just don't pay that much attention.
@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Ringworm is just a simple fungal infection. I've known several people who've gotten it, as long as you keep it covered it won't be contagious. Apparently, I'm immune to it because I have been in close contact with ringworm in animals and children frequently through volunteering. And once a child gave one of my pets ringworm, which was annoying. But if it had been covered properly it would not have been spread. Our schools won't allow you to send a child to school with ringworm, but that is somewhat ridiculous considering that it usually takes at least 1 week to treat it. Keeping a kid out of school for a week when they aren't even sick is kind of bad since they'd fall so far behind. But a fever could actually be dangerous depending what the cause is.
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@mommaj (23112)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I don't know what reason that parent sent her child. The child said her mom sent her to school so she wouldn't miss out on the fun. The child didn't have much fun though and she put everyone else in danger. With so many reports of swine flu in the US there should be concern. I think it was last week, someone in Miami had a case of the swine flu. We don't live that far from Miami when you look at it as being in Florida compared to being in Texas or even GA.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Ring worm doesn't have to be exposed to be spread. I got it without even knowing I had been in contact with someone who had it. Long story short when I found out after the fact I went off! I guess how long it takes to go away depends on how bad it is. Children have fevers all the time. A persistent fever accompanied by other symptoms would concern me, but not a mild one. Kids are often dehydratd.
@faisai (1138)
• Hong Kong
6 Jun 09
I think it is a bad idea to bring a child with fever to the water day as she may just get worse. But then, if we think it another way, wouldn't the little child feel so sad that all her good friends are having fun in the school where she has to stay at home? And even worse, when the day passed, her friends will be talking about how fun it was during the water day where she missed them all. I am no expert in child mind so we may have to turn to some experts for advice on dealing with this kind of situation.
@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I can actually remember missing water day in 4th grade, last day before summer started. I remember I was really sick with the flu and the teacher actually called my parents and suggested I come anyway because it would be horrible to miss it. I think they did stuff besides just play around in sprinklers or whatever, but that's what I figured they were doing. My parents told her I was too sick and I can say that with my head in the barf bucket going to play in the water was the last thing I wanted to do. I don't think it hurts the kid to stay home. There are plenty of other fun opportunities in the future. That was actually the only year our school ever did water day, so I still don't have an exact idea of what they do for that. But I'm pretty sure I didn't miss out on much. I probably wouldn't even remember it if I did go.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I think maybe it means more to the parents than it does to the child, because as you said the child wouldn't have known what water day was. They have an idea, water is involved. I think parents are more, oh, it's something you'll want to remember.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
6 Jun 09
The child might have been sad to stay at home but trust me when I say she didn't have any fun and she brought everyone else down as well. She was cold. She wrapped up in her towel and she sat in the sun shivering. I asked her if she was all right not knowing she was sick and she said yeah. When we got back to the classroom she asked to call home because she didn't feel good and she had a fever all day. I just shook my head. I have to laugh because she didn't have any fun and that was supposedly why she came to water day. Now when all the other kids are starting summer vacation they could possibly be sick. What a great way to spend your summer. Guess someone needs to learn to think about someone other than themselves. Of course, it was the parents that made her come. She told the teacher she had the fever all day but her mom had said she didn't want her to miss the fun.
@mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
7 Jun 09
i often times think they just want to get rid of the child for the day so they can do their thing. the school nurse should have called the mother and made her come to pick her up and should have enforced the school rules of not sending a child to school with a fever. it is a rule in our school and i would bet dollars to donuts it is a rule in yours too. it sounds like negligence to me on the parents part. shame on them.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Jun 09
It's a rule in our school too. With out taking every child's temperature when they get to school, there is no way of knowing if anyone is sick. This kid hid it for three hours because she was outside and wet. She was shivering but so were the other kids. Who knows how sick she was. The nurse did keep her in the office and called the parents. Of course by that time it was too late. All the kindergartners could have been infected.
@mimiang (3760)
• Philippines
7 Jun 09
The children are always excused from going to school if they are ill.I wonder why the child is admitted by the teacher if she is sick after all.More so, why didn't the mother realized that it is difficult to go out if you are sick?
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Jun 09
The parent knew the child was sick and sent the child to school with a fever. The child hid the fact that she was sick. The teacher had no way of knowing the child was sick because the child was acting like all the other kids until everyone changed their clothes after getting wet. She said she was sick and had a fever but her mom sent her to school so she wouldn't miss water day. Then she said she wanted to go to the nurses station. This child was even in a pool with the other kids so whatever she had could still be floating in the water. (Not really. It was kid pools that you just pour out and dump the water.) The point is she wouldn't have just infected 20 kids in her classroom but over 80 kids in the kindergarten class.
@zackn87 (345)
• United States
6 Jun 09
a kid should always stay home if he is ill with the flu or fever
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I feel that way too. I couldn't believe a parent would subject their child to others. They need to go to a doctor and stay home. If kids are sick they usually don't want to play anyway.
• United States
7 Jun 09
Yes if a kid is sick they should stay home because they should not get all the other students sick.
@bearound (132)
• China
7 Jun 09
Yes,I don't know what the heck the parent was thinking.Health is number one! Sometime,a fever can turn to be a big problem.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I agree fevers can cause a problem and I think it was wrong for the parent to make a child come to school with a fever. It's bad enough to take the child out when he or she is sick but it's even worse to send them to school.
@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Kids definitely need to stay home when sick. I think some people just don't want to take the day off work to stay home with their sick kid. When I used to volunteer at a summer school program kids were always getting sent to school sick. They'd throw up in class and then I'd take them outside while the teacher watched the class. Then the parents would come pick them up and say stupid things like, "Yeah, he threw up this morning too and all last night. But I figured that was the end of it." Uh, well you figured wrong. Here's your barf covered kid back! Then the other kids would end up sick. I couldn't believe how many kindergartners just had to touch the vomit or something gross like that. Personally I wanted to take them all outside while it got cleaned up, but usually the teacher just reacted by putting in a video to keep them entertained and not looking at the cleanup.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Jun 09
Sometimes, if it's a viral infection kids just have to be in the room because it's airborn virus. I hate these viruses because kids will get in other kids faces. As far as puking kids, this hasn't happened yet. I know it's standard procedure just to move the kids to another part of the room and give the clean up crew space. I'm lucky not to have seen that this year. knock on wood. LOL
@kellys3ps (3723)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I could not agree with you more. As a substitute teacher there is nothing that I hate more than seeing a sick child suffering at school because their parent insisted on sending them to school.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I hate seeing sick kids too. They seem so miserable once they admit to being sick. They don't learn and they don't want to do anything.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
7 Jun 09
There is no excuse for sending a child out with a fever. She is putting the other children at risk of catching whatever her child has and also putting her child at risk of getting sicker. I raised my kids on my own and trust me...I always had a backup plan for if one of them were sick....you need a back up sitter or you have to just bite it and take the day off. My daughter has actually not let on that she is not feeling well and gone to school....I get a call right off and go and pick her up.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I think part of the problem is parents don't have a back-up plan and they don't want to call in sick either. I think it's stupid parenting to send a child to school with a fever because you are right - you're not only putting other children at risk but you are also putting your child at risk to get worse or catch something worse. Once your body is sick you can catch anything easier than you can if you are healthy.
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
7 Jun 09
I have seen too many parents do this and all the while claiming that they cant afford to have the child miss school. PLEEEAAAASSSSEEEE**** If the child is sick, the child is sick and sending them to school is just cruel. How much can a sick child learn or even manage to participate in class? I think all schools shoud make it mandatory for chidren who are sick to stay out of school.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I think all the schools make the child go home if they find the child has a fever. I know if my child has a fever and I don't know what is causing it I will take him or her to the doctor. The fever has to be around 100 before I take them but I want them to feel better.
• Philippines
7 Jun 09
I'm a teacher myself, and I personally call the parents of my students when they're not feeling well. First of all, they won't be able to participate well and second I don't want my other students to get the virus. Parents should be the one responsible for their kids health.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I totally agree. It should have to be up to the teachers to police the children's health. You are supposed to be concentrating on teaching and yet you can't especially if a child is sick. The parents can screw up the whole education system, just because they don't THINK.
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
6 Jun 09
Thats what I think she probably had to work and couldn't stay home so she sent the child to school anyway. That is totally unacceptable though. How does anyone send a child to school with a fever? Also what was the mother thinking fever and then having her participate in water day. Getting wet and then shivering making her worse. That is a mother without a bit of sense to me.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I think you're right. It's a mother without any sense. I'm not real sure the mother even works. She just didn't want the child to miss a fun filled day and the child really wasn't up to participating. She was cold and she didn't feel well. I know it must have been really horrible for her to try to make it through the activities. They were exerting in themselves.
@awcase (74)
• United States
7 Jun 09
you have to make sure your children stay healthy. i have to always remind my son to wash his hands all the time so he don't get sick from school and to keep his distance for those kids that are sent there sick. parents should keep their children home if they are sick stops the spread of diseases and other germs.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I wish parents would keep their children at home when they are sick. I think they don't because they work. It usually backfires though and they have to pick their child up in the middle of the day. I guess that couple hours of work is more important than keeping their child. They may not have anyone to keep their child. It's too easy to send a child to school sick and who knows what the child has.
@ema1983 (51)
7 Jun 09
that sounds like a very selfish parent who didnt want to stay at home nursing a sick child. she didnt need a babysitter to do her job for her. she should have dropped everything and stayed home with her child
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I don't know what the heck the parent was thinking but it certainly wasn't about her child's well being. She evidently wanted the child in school. She told the child she wanted her to go to school so she would have fun. The child didn't have any fun so I don't know what she was thinking.
@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Most schools will make the parent pick up the child if they have a fever. My girlfriend brings her son to daycare and if he has a fever she can't leave him...or if he develops one during the day she has to go and pick him up. That child should've never been allowed to stay there. I feel so bad for that girl.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
6 Jun 09
She wasn't allowed to stay once she said she didn't feel well. They sent her to the nurses station. The nurse found she had a temperature and made her stay in the clinic until her parents came to pick her up. It must have been horrible for her. I know she felt bad. I had asked her earlier in the day if she was okay.
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
This is awful. Can you call her a mother? Anyways, the school should send the student home to rest. When you are sick specially children, they should be medicated and well rested inside the house.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I'm sure she will get plenty of rest over summer break. Hopefully no one else catches what ever she had.
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
6 Jun 09
Things like this really irritate me. I never send my children to school sick, would not even consider it, and I expect other parents to have the same respect for other kids. I know there are families in which both parents work, and that sometimes it is hard to take that day off, but you have to put your child and their health first. Why would you risk them getting worse, getting someone else sick and well causing this same problem over again. Take the freakin day off.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I agree. This is one of my biggest pet peeves. If a child is sick they need to stay home and go to the doctor. They don't need to be "playing" and getting everyone else sick. If I even think my kids are getting sick I keep them at home. I don't want them to catch something worse and I don't want to get the other kids sick either. Kids usually don't enjoy themselves when they are sick. This poor child was cold most of the day and she didn't want to participate in all the games. I can't believe her parents made her come to school so she wouldn't miss out on the fun.
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
6 Jun 09
what kind of mother that was... if my kids dont feel well even without fever, if they say they are dizzy, i will no send them to school.. gosh, i feel sorry for the little girl. where's the fun in that? i've known some parents who are like that too, they get upset when their kids gets sick because they dont want their kids to absent school... why dont they go to school themselves... that was a stupid thing to do.
@mommaj (23112)
• United States
6 Jun 09
I don't know what the parents were thinking. The little girl almost acted like she thought her parents didn't want her to call them even though she was still sick. I felt bad for her because she didn't have any fun and she was cold most of the time. I'm sure being wet didn't help her feel any better.