When Dirty Dark Secrets Are Revealed

Hello wolfie. I think that it depends. When it is related to secrets in relationships, it is better to be careful not to reveal it if there is any possibility of destroying the relationship. As to others, it all depends if it is just a small matter without causing a big deal.

Yes I was able to tell it to my bestfriend. My bestfriend and I experience something that after that I felt she is the right person to talk to and tell my secret. All my life I thought I would never have the guts to tell it to someone but I did and it was so liberating. I was so glad my bestfriend was so understanding and I know she will keep my secret no matter what.

I don't have any dirty dark secrets so I have no idea what that would be like to hold it inside. I would think it depends on the secret and what holding it in is doing to the person who is holding it in, if it is making them sick and or miserable then that is not good at all. I don't think telling a dirty dark secret you know that is about someone else and they hurt you and you are telling it out of anger to get back at them is not good at all. This is a tough one my friend.

hi wolfie34.. i've been questioning the same thing..actually, i wished i can share my deepest secret with someone i am closed with. the will pushes me lately, like i dont wanna live with it anymore. i can't tell my man about it, it will be too sad and destroy my relationship with him..i really love him and he's the first guy for me who can make me feel like this..he's the only one.. i just dont wanna break his heart but i really need to share it with someone..i have 3 bestmates, but i dont know if they can handle it or not. they really knew me well and accept me for who i am, n they convinced me that eventhough i would tell them my deepest secret, it wont change anything or the way the look at me..it wont change a thing.. still..once again, i really wish i could revealed this deepest secret in me..

I think it depends on what the secret is. If it is something serious like "I gambled away our life savings dear, and now we have no money" then that should definatly be told. If it is something like "I slept with your best friend" then i guess that is slightly more optional. Personally i think, yeah it probably will destroy the relationship but its not down to the person who cheated it is up to the other person to decide what happens to the relationship. The other person deserves to know the truth, and you should tell them it even if it means you might lose them because at the end of the day atleast you can say you where honest! Just my oppinion, but yeah, definatly depends on the situation but it is probably best to just get it out in the open.

everyone has their own dirty dark secret and this is their right to tell it or just keep it with no one should know,but in my side i just feel sometime i feel like want to tell it to someone else so thn i ca free from mya guilty feeling,,but sometime there is onething that someone else don't need to know.

Once a dark secret always a dark secret for me.And I just cannot live with the heaviness of any secret.So I have the habit of not harboring any secrets of any color to live the way I like.Happy and carefree.

If it's something from someone's past then it's that person's business and that of anyone else involved. If it's a situation that's dealt with and over and done with, then that's it...a secret is buried. Many people have done things they are ashamed of that they know were wrong. Some will "get away with it" and not get caught...I think we've all done things when we were kids or even young adults and I have to say, it's best to right the wrong you did to someone. There are many different scenarios that can go with your question so I will tell you a story, nearly everyone will have their own story to tell. Obviously, I don't have all the facts...being human I've filled in the gaps myself with guesses and this is where things can go horribly wrong when things are repeated without the actual facts..... A friend of a friend was in trouble with his marriage. His wife eventually took off with another guy and left friend to look after two young daughters. Friends and family were supportive, his workplace adjusted his work hours and he took in a mate to help pay the rent. The mate also was separated, also had a daughter (same age as friends 2)but he would have her for the weekend, not all the time. Friend did everything for his girls...even tuckshop duty. Being a guy, he slept naked and thought nothing of it. If the girls got up in the night and climbed into bed with Dad, no-one thought anything about it. They had been climbing into bed with 2 naked parents since they were little. Now any bloke with any brains would have thought about this but like a bloke he didn't think. When his elder daughter first got her period, something happened. I don't know what happened...he started to tell me, said "I didn't know what to do" and "I didn't do anything wrong" of course, this is where my imagination took over. Around this time the mother returned with the guy and set up a home of there own and would have the girls to visit. Of course, being a woman, she questioned her girls who openly, and unashamedly told her everything she asked. She took custody of the girls and the eldest one no longer wanted to see her father. After several months the younger daughter no longer wanted to see her Dad. There were attacks and accusations and he was humiliated and shamed in front of his family. The reason behind this is because she wanted her kids back and she thought she had to make the father look bad to override her own behaviour in leaving her kids. This was so not necessary because friend believed the girls should be with their Mum anyway. It would be nearly 10 years before he would be able to be in touch with his girls again. The whole situation destroyed him. He was not able to bring himself to talk about it to his new partner. She understood and she reassured him by saying it was nothing to do with her, he need not feel any shame but he didn't have to tell her if it made him uncomfortable....even thinking about it all hurt him dreadfully so she would never bring the subject up even though she believed that talking about it would help him. By this time he did not trust women and had come to realise that some could be terribly destructive when they chose to be. He will take the secrets to the grave because the damage was done. it seems he is reconciled with his girls but there will always be questions and secrets and truths hidden away between them. It's not healthy spiritually or emotionally or mentally.

As far as I am concerned, the past is over. The past has no control over me, unless I choose to bring it up and make a big issue of it. I have buried my past. So, if a new guy comes in my life (I hope he won't coz I am already very happy), I will not tell him even a single word about my past. He has a choice either to accept me as I am or find someone else. I don't really care; for me, the past is over. I think it depends on the individual. Some people feel guilty if they don't pour out every detail of their life to their significant other. I think these people might feel it necessary to reveal dark secrets. I have plenty of deep, dark secrets; and I am going to carry them with me to the grave. ;) Cheers and happy Mylotting

A dark secret I do not have, I am always open with reguards to some secrets. Im not perfect but I do keep some little white lies. It is better to keep them dough if those secrets will cause you problems. Open them to some one who is always there for us no matter what. Pray