child support, custody, slander,and a beautiful little girl caught in the middle
By kryssyj
@kryssyj (31)
United States
June 7, 2009 2:51pm CST
As a parent i see that if your charging your daughters mother for you to watch her is sort of ridiculous. And when the child's mother puts you on child support the day you receive the letter that says you have to pay, you refuse to return your daughter to her mother. in return you call DCF and tell them that her mother burned her when there isn't any burns on her, tell DCF that the mothers living arrangements are dirty, disgusting, and almost unlivable. When the DCF worker goes to meet with the mothers side can clearly see the house is more then clean and more then inhabitable and safe for a child. Now DCF is dragging both your daughter and her cousin whom she also lives with under investigation with no probable cause. Tells the mother that if she makes a recording saying she doesn't want her daughter that he'll return the baby to her. then harasses the mother at work, at home,his own family making threats.Slandering her name over the internet and harassing her family. As the mother fights to keep her child.. mind you its not the first time the father of this child has harassed the mothers family, while he was locked up had his family harass her. the mother has credible character witnesses when the father has a criminal record and is on both probation and house arrest. the mother works hard to support her daughter.
2 responses
@ribbon1226 (192)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I know it can be pure hell when one parent has to deal with another who causes so much grief..continue to do your best and as a Mom who has had to fight two huge custody battles, the best advice I can give is avoid as much drama as you can, don't let the child see or hear any of the adult battles and never belittle the other parent in front of child.
No matter how rotten the father is to you, it is still her dad. And when they get older as mine have, they will love both parents. They will though learn to resent the one that puts down the other parent.
If you feel your being abused by him then maybe you need to reach out for help. Sometimes counselors can help..they don't take sides but get to the core issues and try to work with parents to be civil for the child's sake.
I would never push for court because in the end, your out a lot of money and a lot of times lose your rights in making parental decisions if the courts get too involved.
Anything you can do to low key the fighting, even if you are in the right, will be what is best for child.
I wish you all the best with this situation. I know it is not easy. While he is causing all the stress and grief you just keep enjoying every minute of your child's life and you and your baby will come out of it as the winners.
@kryssyj (31)
• United States
10 Jun 09
i use to be a child support case. my mother took my bio father to court for oweing more then 10000 in child support and i was only in the 4th grade. he signed over all right to my step dad who graciously adopted me, its a matter a princple in my opinion. if he doesnt want to help support the child. then he needs to let someone who can do it
@irishidid (8687)
• United States
7 Jun 09
I realized when I got divorced that having the father (or mother in some situations) around is not always good for the kids. I have more respect for the deadbeat that just leaves and has no contact with the kids instead of those who hang around and messes with the kid's head.
