Should a second marriage be big or small

It depends on you actually, I guess you've answered your question already. It may also depend on your partner too. How does he perceive your wedding to be so I guess you have to consult him for that one.

I think you should go with whatever type of ceremony you want to have. I am engaged and getting married in September (by the way, I'm 49, it will be my 4th (and last LOL) marriage and it will be his 2nd). We have decided that we will have a small ceremony with family and a few close friends. I will be wearing an off white sundress, and fancy flipflops, it will also be an outdoor ceremony. However, we are both firefighters and have a lot of friends and fellow firefighters that would want to be there, so instead of letting it get totally out of hand as far as size of the wedding, we will be having a large reception afterwards for all the friends and family to attend. It will be done in a firefighter theme. The most important part to me is, this will be my last wedding, since I'm lucky enough to be given a second chance with a wonderful man (another discussion lol) and I want my dad to give me away. That is the most important part for both of us, that our parents be there. So, go for whatever type of ceremony you would like to have, and there are plenty of ways to cut costs these days.

It depends on your comfort level, actually. If money is an issue, you may of course curtail the details and keep it small. But age should never be the factor in enjoying life and if you really want to walk down in a wedding gown, you should just do it. Personal happiness is a big thing...even if its 2nd or 3rd marriage...if you are happy with it and feel like sharing and showing your happiness, just go ahead.

it depends entirely what sort of wedding you want. if you want a big dress and lots of flowers, then why not. just because it's your second wedding doesn't make it a lesser wedding than the first one. anyone that says it should be low key is just bitter.

i think its all really up to you.. if you want a huge weddings, and if you want flowers and gown then DO IT! its all up to you!

Hi YaYaMom... actually it really depends especially on financial issues... you know ma'am... it's not about the wedding... it's about the marriage... the exchange of vows as God as the center of your relationship... :) big church weddings aren't an assurance of long term commitment... :)but it's really all up to you... anyways it's your wedding day... your big day... :)

Money was an issue with my second wedding, as well. He moved to Canada (from the US) and, at the time we got married, he wasn't allowed to work yet. So, I was paying for everything. We decided to get married January 9th. This is an excellent time because it's right after the holidays and literally everything is on sale. We were having a small wedding (about 25 people, family & friends). I chose a black, white and silver wintery theme and the ceremony was a candlelight service. Since you can do your own flowers, that's awesome! I opted out of flowers because of the cost. My sister (as matron of honor) and I carried stemmed glasses that held white pillar candles and I decorated the stems with tiny silk flowers, beads and ribbons that flowed down the front of our dresses (all on sale, post-Christmas). My two daughters were my bridesmaids and for them I purchased large, plain silver christmas ornaments (about 8" across, on clearance too!). I created lace "handles" to slip over their wrists and decorated them with the same flowing ribbons and all - they picked up the candlelight wonderfully. I made pew bows of matching wired ribbon and the church lent me several candle stands. All of our dresses were velvet... me and both daughters in black velvet (yeah I know... got married in black LOL) and my sister's was silver velvet - all on sale after New Year's Eve. The reception dinner was in a historical inn nearby and, since they weren't at all busy at that time of year, they worked with me on a fixed menu - 3 or 4 "all inclusive" meal choices. The cake was gifted by my sister and brother-in-law. I had so many compliments from the people that attended and, by far, it did not break the bank. Unfortunately, no honeymoon travel but I was able to wake up the morning after the wedding with no debts to pay. Have that wedding you always wanted ;) Age doesn't matter... happiness matters. If you plan well, you can have everything you want and not stress over the financial aspect, either. Sincere congratulations to you both!

I think that you should have the type of wedding that you would like to have. If you want a big wedding, plan a big wedding. If you want a small wedding, plan a small wedding. It really doesn't matter what others want or think about how large or small a second wedding should be. So long as it's the wedding that you would like to have, then that's all that really matters. You should plan a wedding that you want, and not the type that others want.

marriages should never be big, because one doesn't know whether he or she will be marrying again

Should a second marriage be big or small? Hello YayaMom, if I were you I would definitely have the nice wedding. You know, the one that you've dreamed about. Even if money is an issue you can still make it very nice. You could have it done in a church and be sure to get the beautiful white gown that you want. There are so many nice gowns out there today that don't really cost a lot. I really don't think that age is a factor, these days it's like you should really just do whatever you feel like you want to do. Nobody will judge you and I just think that you ought to go for it and have a really nice time. If money is truly a big factor you could always save up for it. After saving a year or two you will be able to afford a decent wedding. If I were getting married again I would do it up big since I've never had that type of wedding before. Well this year will be my 21 year anniversary to the same guy. Maybe I will have a nice intimate celebration.Hey thanks for the idea! Well good luck to you and I wish you all the best. Be sure and let family members help out if they want to with cooking and decorations. I think it's more special when family members do take part in the wedding. But you must be careful not to allow them to take over, lols.

I've never been a fan of big weddings so I would have to say that I am a little biased - I would say a smaller wedding would be what is expected, but it's your life so do whatever it is that makes you happy!

Whoa!!! Since money is not an issue to you, then go ahead, have big wedding. You said that you didn't even have a wedding dress on your first. Now is the time to go and look for that beautiful dress you want. You deserve it girl!!! If it will make you happy then go for it. Congratulations and best wishes !!!!

My first wedding was very small. I didnt want to be the center of attention, walking down the aisle. It was quiet with friends and family in my parents back yard. My second marraige, pretty much the same lol, but in my living room. I think its an individual thing. If you want the big tado, go for it. First, second or third. That day is all about you, do what you want I say!! If there is a third for me, which i doubt lol, it will be near the ocean, again, just family and friends

when we marry first time we wll celebrate it as big one. due to wrong understandings and other reasons we marry another girl. but this time we should try to marry in grand becoz the world should know we a re marry 'ng a good girl now.

It's fine to do a big wedding if you really want it, I see no reason why not. However, out of consideration for the guests it may be nice to say "no gifts please" in the invite or something like that just because some people will be irked thinking of buying a second wedding gift. A good one liner I've seen is "Your Presence is Present enough" Also, don't go overboard if you can't afford it. You can have a big wedding with lots of guests and still stick to a budget. Decide how much you are willing to spend before you even start planning.

It sounds like that you are eager to have a big wedding ceremony. You can talk with your spouse about this issue. A small wedding ceremony can be sweet, but a big wedding ceremony may be much more unforgettable. If you feel like having a big one, then just go for it. As you know, we won't get married many times in our lives. Just make it to be impressive. I love China

it's a wedding and you're the bride. You can have absolutely whatever you wish. It is about what makes you happy above everything else. If you're more comfortable with a small gathering I'd do it at a pretty location outfoors with flowers trees maybe even a beach. Wear whatever makes you feel prettiest. A long flowing gown or a pretty cocktail dress. Go crazy and just make sure you have fun and the smile never leaves your face. A wedding is one of the best days of a girl's life, no matter how many times or how old you are.

Hi, I think that it would be really cool to have a decent sized wedding for the second time around. It doesn't have to be a whole lot of people there to have something really nice for your 2nd time around. I know alot of people who do not have the big wedding and all. So at the end of the day its up to you, but there are so many sites out there that can help you have really cheap budget weddings and they look like a million bucks! I take notes on a few of them and look at what other people do. I am all about doing stuff myself, so they all give me ideas. I think the idea is really cute that you are thinking of doing something different. Then again, going to elope is cute too. Think you don't have to invite anyone. You can take a nice cruise and you only have to worry about what you pay for each other! It sounds really romantic!

You should have gown for this second tie since you missed it on first time. Even though your age is 46, but i can bet you you will still pretty and happy with gown on you. Just go ahead and wear your gown. Do what you think that will make you happy. :-)

My first wedding I had the beautiful dress, tons of guests, the big beautiful cake...the whole nine. I think ultimately it's really up to the two of you what you want and what you can afford. My new beau and I, while we aren't at the marriage stage yet, have talked about it. If/when we get married this will be his first marriage. As far as your budget goes. If the two of you decide you want a traditional wedding, there are ways to have a beautiful, but economical, wedding. There's a lot of places corners can be cut. For instance, my wedding dress, I went to a warehouse and bought it off the rack. It was $200. After it was all said and done, alterations, the veil, and the tiara, it was under $600, and even that could be done more economically. I had my veil special made and I had them do my alterations. If you could find a independent seamstress in your town, they probably wouldn't charge as much as a shop would. There's always $99 sales at David's Bridal, too. We made all of our center pieces for the tables at the reception and a majority of the stuff we bought at the dollar store. I would say in all, our wedding was probably around $3,000-$5,000. So, with that in mind, only you know what your budget is like, but it is possible to have a beautiful wedding without spending thousands and thousands of dollars!