How to get mom to back off!

Wow. I am now the mom of an almost 18 yrs girl, I am paying attention. I am not sure why your mom is confronting your friends. I find that odd. I also thought that the fun part of having a boyfriend was spending too much time with him, we all did, even your mom, so I am not sure what's the problem there. I will say talk to her and tell you her please stop confronting your friends, how that makes you feel, I am not sure if your relationship will suffer but if all fails chose to keep on of your phone numbers private, either the home or cell phone, that way you control the number of times she calls if nothing changes between you too. Take care.

I am 23 years old, but I cannot remember the time when my mom gets in the way with everything I do. I am happy that she realized that her children are all grown-ups, and she trusts me when it comes to deciding for my future. The only thing that I can't tell her is that I am having a boyfriend. haha!

I wish I knew the answer to this question. I am almost 28 and my mom still tries to make decisions for me and now for my children as well. I know she's only trying to be helpful and cares but it is extreme. I just have to keep standing up to her.

I'd simply make it clear that you're an adult now and capable of making your own decisions whether she agrees with them or not. A lot of moms are like this because they really haven't came to terms with the fact that you are an adult now and do have your own life. It's best for everyone if you put her in her place now. Don't be cruel about it, but do what you have to to make her ralize that she no longer has a say in things as ar as your concerned. I like the thank you for your opinion but this is what I've decided to do route. Once they realize that you aren't going to always choose what they want they tend to start letting you make your own choices.