I met a guy who thinks he is in love with me.
By amiee32
@amiee32 (30)
United States
June 8, 2009 10:46am CST
I met this guy about 2 weeks ago. He keeps coming over to my house unannounced, and calling me all the time. I have told him time and time again I don't want a relationship but he won't listen to me. He keeps telling me he loves me. Heres the thing. I went to breakfast with some freinds today and one of the waitresses asked me if I was related to tylia? I told her no and she said I looked just like her and that she used to work at the bar that was on my shirt. The guy who won't leave me alone also workes at this bar and dated tylia. I think now I understand why he is attaching himself to me. The thing I want to know is how do you tell someone like this to go away?
3 responses
@gypsywoman344 (214)
• United States
8 Jun 09
DANGER DANGER DANGER.
Time to set some boundries real quick! This needs to slow down and you need to take control befor he takes control of you. Personal experience has led me to catious when guys come on this strong. It usually means they want to POSSESS you.
If you are really interested and think he has potential, then set him down and set the boundries. Otherwise, send him spinning.
@helensguy1 (39)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Not all guys who come on too strongly want to possess you. Being a guy, I can tell you, some of us just fall too far, too fast. It took me a long time to realize this about myself. He may be dangerous, and unstable, or he may be like I was. He may not have learned yet how to control his own "romantic' emotions, or distinguish between infatuation and love. He may just simply need to have his bubble burst enough times to grow up. I know, I've been there, done that.
It took my having creeped a girl out so much that she stopped being friends with me and took out a restraining order because she thought the worst. I finally grew up, and realized that true love takes time, and getting to know a person, while infatuation wants to hurry up, and once it takes ahold, there's no room or time for love to grow.
The point is, be cautious, but not judgemental. You don't know his motivation, even if you think you do. Don't second guess him. Set the boundaries firmly, and if he won't agree to abide by them, or if you feel threatened, take the next step, and take out a temporary restraining order on him. He does need to learn a hard life lesson about controlling his own emotions. Infatuation can be harmless. But it can be dangerous, as well.
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@gypsywoman344 (214)
• United States
8 Jun 09
Point well taken. In this day and age however, everyone needs to be careful. You seem like a good and sensitive guy. The kind that if she sat down with you and set the guidelines, I believe you would have listened and having fallen that hard would have, inturn met her needs and slowed down a bit. It's just you are not most guys. Keep up the good work!LOL
@amiee32 (30)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I have told him that he needs to back off a little. I have explained to him about the bad relationship and how I am not ready for a relationship. I have firmly told him I want nothing more than friends. No boyfriend no dating, no marriage, no nothing right now. I have also told him I don't want him just showing up at my house. He abides by this until he gets drinking and then he shows up here at all hours of the night. I have tried to be nice about it all but I think I am at the point thast I might have to get rude to get my point accross. If this doesn't work then I will have to move forward with a restraining order. The only problem I have with that is the last one I had on a guy he showed me how much the little piece of paper will protect you. It didn't I got beat up then he went to jail. All it did was make him mad. Kinda affraid to go there again.
@marlagaya (24)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
My opinion on this is make sure if he really loves you. Because there are two possible things why he's doing this. First, he's doing this because he truly loves you. Second, maybe he's attached to that tylia and only passing his feelings to you.
But on the first place, if you really don't like a guy tell him immediately. If he is too persistent then do the next step. Tell him that you don't want to be annoyed by anyone or else you will report him to a police.
@amiee32 (30)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I have made it clear from the first time I met him that I did not want a relationship with anyone. I told him that I could be friends with him. I have been very clear from day one. I don't like to lead people on. I have been played one to many times and I wont do that to someone else.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I would say that you will have to have a talk to him and tell him you are not tylia and he shouldn't transfer feelings. How could he love you when he just met you. Ask him that...or ask why does he love you kind of make him think about what he is saying and maybe he will realize what he is doing. if not then maybe tell him to leave you alone and you don't want him around. Dont answer your phone when he calls.
