need your advice people. Is true love worthy fighting for?
By marlagaya
@marlagaya (24)
Philippines
June 8, 2009 11:05am CST
I broke up with my girlfriend back in highschool because I fell in love with my friend. We were getting closer to each other but all of a sudden she just told me that she couldn't go on with it. I don't know if she knows how much I love her. I really had my heart broken that time. For 4 years, I stayed single. I waited for her to be single too or waited for our paths to meet again. But I haven't got a chance. I tried to move on, I getting more matured so I need to move on. What is love if I could find another love? But its not that easy, and I'm not that kind of person. After 6 long years, the feelings went back again. I don't want our friendship to be ruin by this emotion but I was stuck in a moment on hoping that someday God will make our paths meet and give us a chance to be together. If God will do it, I will be very thankful and love her until the end of my life. I really love her, but if I will fight for this love what will I get now? Deep inside my heart I know she's my one true love. But I don't want to be stuck for another long years because of this emotion. Did she really love me back then? That's a big question also for me. I'm happy with your life right now. I'm just praying that I'm part of it.
8 responses
@eLsMarie (4345)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
you're too attached with her maybe that's the reason behind why she gave up in your relationship. i think you need to separate the feeling of being in love from being obsessed. love wouldn't be worth fighting for if you're the only fighting... let her go... move on... get a life... treasure your friendship.... :)
@marlagaya (24)
• Philippines
13 Jun 09
I'm not obsessed with her. When she told me to stop, I did it. Yes, I'm treasuring our friendship so better not to fight for a love worth nothing in the end.
@flzmlady (417)
• China
9 Jun 09
having experienced this situation before.
when my loved one was getting married,its a heavy stroke on me.
but time passed, the feeling became weak but not disappeared.
i think you should do this:
first, confirm again whether you are into her and without her you will be alone to the end of your life.
second,if the answer is yes, try to find out why she doesn't love you.I know persistance will finally shock a person.so if you really love her, keep in loving and persisting.
third, if she really doesn't love you,try to be a simply good friend to her.
all in all,its your great happiness to see your loved one enjoy her happiness,isn't it?
@marlagaya (24)
• Philippines
10 Jun 09
i think the 3rd option is better. We're friends and I don't want to lose her as my friend because of this one sided love.
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
8 Jun 09
I know how hard it is to be in love with someone, but not be able to be with that person. I believe i have found my one true love, but I am not with him because of certain situations. I reached out and we are friends right now, but admit we still love each other. Maybe try finding her and working on a friendship and then see what could come out of it and how she feels about you.
@marlagaya (24)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
We're friends right now. But we don't have constant communication and we're not also that close anymore. In your situation, your friends and seeing each other. But on my part, we are not. I think she's in a relationship right now and I don't what to be in the same situation back last 6 years ago. Do I need to fight for this love?
@friendship4lyfe (520)
• Saint Lucia
8 Jun 09
I think you should try harder to move on.There are situations where we are deeply in love with someone yet they dont share our emotions.Everyone have someone they love and somethimes that someone love another deeper than they love us.I went through that with my ex-boyfriend where i loved him and after four years he told me it was over.I havent move on yet but i am waiting to meet this wonderful person who will love me. I still love him and if god allow our paths to meet i might play hard to get but would give him a second chance.
@marlagaya (24)
• Philippines
9 Jun 09
Maybe you're right. Maybe I should really move on with my life not expecting for a second chance. If God will give me a second chance to have her, then may his will be done. But as I go on with my life, maybe I should stop thinking about her just to kill my emotions. If only she could read this.. For sure she'll laugh at me. hehehe!
@rocky85 (6)
• Indonesia
9 Jun 09
i think it's better for you to try again..tell her that you love her so much..
at least you know how's her feeling about you now...and you don't have to wonder whether she love you or not right now, right?
so, let him know what's your feeling for the past 4 years...
good luck...
@Redhornet117 (1248)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
Just give her time and space for the meantime. Let her grow a little bit. Then give it another shot. Get her back into your life. If she says yes then you are meant to be. If she says no, try another time. If in that moment she says no again, then tell her thank you for all the happiness that she gave your heart. And that the love of your life had passed you by. Love happens at the right place and at the right time. Good luck to you.
@marlagaya (24)
• Philippines
8 Jun 09
Thanks bro! I know love comes at the right place at the right time. I don't know if I could still have a chance to tell her again my feelings. Maybe I also need to grow old. If the feeling is still there, then only God knows what I need to do.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
9 Jun 09
I know love is all about emotion. But at times you need to think about some realistic approach to it. some times love can be one sided. In those cases, the other side is never going to admit it.I think your case is more so.Try to think if its really so in your case. if such is the case, then its no advantage of fighting for love that you only feels, not she. Think about it.
