Makin 'em sweat

3cardmonte . .I think that what you are describing is revenge .. which is never a good thing . I say what ever goes around comes around and that Karma takes care of such offenses. But what I would say is that if someone has offended you , anf this person is someone you care about and visa versa . . it is important for you to point out to them what they did and how it made you feel. They may not even be aware that they hurt you . .. we each deal with "stuff" in different ways. some of us retreat and choose to ignore and some others go on the attack .. Communication is key in any relationship and if this person is someone that you want a relationship with you need to deal with it in a healthy productive way ..

I guess so. If someone does something wrong to you, you shouldn't just run to them and love them. A person should no if they've done something wrong by you and that it's not ok.

The worst thing you can say is 'we need a break - it's not you, it's me' tell them it's them and tell them how much it hurt you. I believe greatly in punishment. If you did something naughty when you were a child and nobody punished you, what incentive would you have not to do it again? By forgiving and forgetting too easily, you're not making your point and opening yourself up to be walked all over. You need to make a stand and only after careful consideration, decide to forgive or agree to move on.

Nah, I wouldn't do that just for the reason of making them suffer. If it really hurt me, I might stay away from them for a few days out of self preservation, but that's really the limit. I think that it's rude to "make people suffer" for one mistake, especially if there was a valid reason for screwing up - I'd prefer just to talk to them about it. I have this one friend who acts really immature when I make mistakes, and it's maddening.

Depends I guess...if they did something that hurt me or embarrassed me I would make them pay, if it was someone's lame attempt at being jealous or something...then no.

Carrying a grudge is not a very healthy practice. The sooner that you let bygones be bygones, the sooner you can stop dwelling on whatever it is that someone has done to you! After all, would you like the person to make you sweat?

Nope....nada...nay....in all words NO....not worth my precious time..and the effort to even entertain making their lives miserable. Waste of my time. My time, I think, on this planet is precious...and to let some other "divergent" mess up my day, and make me think negatively is allowing someone else to control me...and that just doesn't work for me! Cheers!

It's hard to say what I would do in any given situation until that particular situation comes up. I've usually, throughout my life, just let things slide, which I guess is better than trying to get revenge. But in all honesty, it gets pretty difficult as you get older to continue to let it slide. I've always tried to treat people with respect but sometimes, you just get to the point when you get really fed up with trying to let things slide especially when they continue to poop on you. I'm sure you can guess what word I would prefer to use right there but it would be inappropriate on here.

I would make them sweat a bit as i would not want this to keep on happening to me after all if they get let off lightly the first time they may think that they can get away with it all the time and that would not be very good for you.I would let them know that i wasnt happy with them thats for sure even by telling them.