What to do?

hi my experience of teenage daughters is that if you say that word "no" in whatever connection they will do the opposite. So hold tight give her all the parental warnings and tell her she is old enough to decide for herself but that she knows your opinion. If my lot are anything to go by it will fritter out in a couple of weeks. If you say no and put your foot down she will know eventually that Mum was right but will not want you to see that and will continue to see the boy

If she has known this young man for a long period of time, that would be one thing. But if it is just someone she met at a party or something, I would say no. You can justify that by saying she must date someone within one year of her age. Especially since she is just now getting to start dating. I think it would be a good idea if when people start dating they date people their own age, then it is more like fun. And a lot of times they will be more likely to double date and such if they are dating people in the same age category. This is a very hard time for both you and your daughter. I wish you luck in working this out in the least complicated manner.

I think that you should consider how mature your daughter is. I know that it would be best if you met the nineteen year old to see what he is like. Then if you decide your sixteen year old daughter can date him you will feel happy about it. If you say yes without looking into the situation you might feel nervous. If you say no without looking into the situation you might appear mean. Some teenagers will do things in secret if their parents are too harsh with them. Good luck.

You will need to spent a lot of time talking to her. Discuss concerns you have. Keep the line of communication open and reassure her of your love. Get to know the boy. And chaperone!

SAY no! we all know what a 19 year old boy wants with a 16 year old girl. explain that to her!

Oops, you made a mistake there. But you must be true to your word. Tell your daughter if it's okay with her for you to take your word back. If not, maybe meeting the guy and getting to know him is an option. Perhaps the lad is good and decent. Prepare dinner so you can have fun. Ask your husband to do the grilling and sauteing. He is the more guilty of the two of you. He had been a 19 year old boy once, right? Why tell your daughter to date at 16 when that age is so impressionable and vulnerable...

Stand by your word! Get her on birth control immediately, and don't preach to her. (it'd just be a waste of your time)

You told her she could date but now you need to sit down with her and come up with some rules for it. Make a written agreement with her and all three of you should sign it. Here are some examples: He has to be in school (this would cover the college guy) If he is more than a year older she has to go on double dates or out with a group of friends only. (this also covers the college guy) He has to meet both parents and show proof that he can legally drive before he takes her out. (that does not mean you copy down his drivers license number just that you see his license so you know he can legally drive) She has to be home at a certain time (be ready to compromise. Tell her she has to be home at 10 so she can bargan for 11, which is a time you are still comfortable with and she has won also) She has to tell you where she is going and if the plans change she has to call you (this means that she gets a cell phone if she does not have one already, I would suggest another contract over that one also) Be ready for her to say you do not trust her, that is fine, it means you are doing your job: being a Parent. Also be ready for her to put a rule or two into the contract, such as one night a month she can stay out an hour later ect.) Have punishments written in, such as being grounded on a friday night for breaking curfew the first time and the whole weekend for breaking it again. Explain to her that she can be treated as an adult through this contract but like any adult if she breaks it the consequences will be firm. Have a great day

Say NO, saying she can date is one thing, she can date guys her own age. She can not date someone whom is that much older than her. You are not going aganist what you said, you are just imposing rules and regulations to the dating.

Maybe meet the guy. Explain to her nicely that since there is such a big age gap you have a few concerns and would like to meet him and know him. I think if you say "No you can not date him" you will just trigger a bad reaction. I think the best way to approach this is by talking to her about things, explaining why you feel that way. Im speaking as a 17 year old who has just been in a bad relationship. If my parents had of said "No you can not go out with this person" i would have reacted in a bad way, and i think most teenagers would! But i can appreciate that you do have concerns, and i have a good experience of what those concerns are! You should definatly not let her freely go out with this guy though, because obviously there is a big age gap and he will have certain thoughts on his mind! Be careful though, you dont want to push her too far so she does things just to spite you. If you have said she can date when she is 16 then you should stick to that, otherwise you could be teaching her a bad lesson in life. Good luck!