Can marriage last forever?
By scheng1
@scheng1 (24649)
Singapore
June 9, 2009 9:17am CST
This is one of the titles in Helium. The answer is quite obvious, marriage certainly cannot last forever, because we have to die one day.
But this raises an interesting question, how many marriages can last till either party die? With the rate of divorce going way north, can marriage even last for 10 or 20 years?
What do you think? Do you think a first marriage can last for half a century or longer, till the death of a spouse?
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@Jennlk84 (4206)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I am getting married in less than 2 weeks. I can honestly say that I think my fiancee and I have a pretty darn good chance of staying "together forever." I can't imagine waking up next to anyone else in the mornings or going to anyone else when I need love or comfort. We've been together for almost 4 years now, and I know that in a lifetime that isn't much time at all, but I feel the same way about him now as I did when I fist fell in love with this man. We definitely have a strong, loving relationship. :-) I do believe that a marriage can last forever. I'm very proud to say that my parents are still happily married. And so are my fiancee's parents.
@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
10 Jun 09
Congratulations Jennlk, I'm sure you will enjoy a successful marriage and "live happily forever". Hardly anyone takes 4 years to get to know each other. Plus both of you are fortunate to learn from the success of your parents.
It's hard to find people who can stay married in this age. Some of my colleagues are in the midst of divorce, after a couple of years of marriage. And you would think that Asians are more conservative, and would stay married forever. Well, times change.
Still it's great to hear of successful marriage.
@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
9 Jun 09
I think a marriage can last that long if both people are totally committed to each other and the marriage. Most people who have been married that long say that you have to be ready to be wrong and accept it, to compromise, to never think of leaving but always working things out.
People today are too self-centered, for the most part, to succeed in marriage. They believe all the media hype about fulfilling oneself and maintaining individuality. Well, guess what? Marriage means forsaking some of that individualism! You are one unit when you are married and must function that way, you lose a small part of your independence. Without accepting that, a marriage can't work.
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@scheng1 (24649)
• Singapore
10 Jun 09
Hi Dragon54u, I think long hours at work is another factor contributing to the high divorce rate. If both parties worked 16 hours a day, and on frequent business trips to different parts of the world, I dont see how their marriages can work out.
Sometimes work is so absorbing, and so demanding, you hardly want to talk after a long day at work. And two silent and tired persons at home is really a recipe for divorce.
