Console me... I just sold my pups! I am a cruel master!
By ebook_freak
@ebook_freak (1511)
India
June 9, 2009 9:17am CST
I couldn't help it. My dad was making such a fuss about my pups so I had to sell two of them...
Well, let me tell you the story first.
Shirley had her delivery barely a month ago. Four cute German Shepherd pups were born-the girls and one boy. It was mylotters who helped me name them. I still remember how many mylotters wished us and help name the pups...I was a proud master then. Ready to train the four just like I trained their mom....
But now I had to sell the two girls. Shirley seemed to understand the situation but is in cross with me. I am really sad that the other pups are not at feeling freedom with me. They are like- scared of me!
Is there anything I can do to get the trust back?
Please help...
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15 responses
@cbeee3 (2061)
• India
9 Jun 09
Awwww... They must have been so adorable. I have never owned a pet :(
So I cannot really advice you.
I won't tease you this time cuz. I am sure you must feel bad. But there is not much you could have done.I am sure of that. 4 pups is a lot to handle I guess.
I am sure you must have chosen nice people to take care of the ones you gave away.
In time things will be ok. :)
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
11 Jun 09
Sad to hear that your ma is allergic to pets. Many people have this allergy to fur. I hope your mom never gets close to a pet! She could sneeze very badly. Can even lead to.... okay, let me stop my medical style!!!
And sis, thanks for your concern. Things have started to show a bit more improvement. And if you feel like petting my pups, sure come over!
What is mine is (for the time being) yours too and What is yours is mine. And what is mine is mine!
Gotcha!
Told you, my mood is recovering!
Gotcha!
Told you, my mood is recovering!@cbeee3 (2061)
• India
10 Jun 09
Awwwwww that is such a nice story...
My ma is alergic to both cats and dogs. So I never had a chance to have pets :|
But its ok. What's yours is mine and what's mine is mine.
So its almost like Shirley is mine :D
I think your relatives made a good decision giving her to you.
Hey by the way, do the other pups still fear you? Any improvement there?
@cbeee3 (2061)
• India
11 Jun 09
I am happy, that my bro is doing better now. :)
That is good to know. Yipee ..hehe
And ya, mum does keep her distance from the animals she can't handle.
Speaking of you getting into a good mood. I hope you will stop calling me old now.
I am mature.MATURE, is the word :|
Hey hey,I am on 195 posts.Very soon I will be in the magical emoteland.I am so excited :D
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
You are not cruel..at all! I myself can barely take care of one dog..and well i did not attempt after the first one because i know i really cannot handle them ( what more four!)
@jazel_juan (15746)
• Philippines
12 Jun 09
thank you friend, i have not been active with mylot for a week or something i went on a vacation with my family. Anyways, maybe dogs are like human beings as well, maybe you need to show them you can be trusted again. My husband would love to have a dog and is looking for one lol but i do not know if i could tkae care of one! hahaha good luck my friend. thank you!
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
11 Jun 09
Nice to see you around, Jazel. After responding to your Marriage Gift discussion, I never got any time to respond to any of your discussions. I hope your husband and child are having a good time. I am a bit depressed about the pups. I know managing them could be tiresome. But I never felt tired managing my Shirley. She was very active and obeyed everything- never asked for silly pleasures like other dogs. She was responsible doggie. I hope the pups were responsible ones too. They were adorable and having them lose my trust is something very sad... I hope everything turns out well...
Bet regards,
Ajith.
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
12 Jun 09
hey!No probs! I thought you just stopped starting discussions or something. And now that the vacations are over, time to mylot! family first- mylot second! And now the boy is showing some positive response. I think the girl will also start to feel the same way. In matter of time I think I can have their trust back! And as for Shirley, she is always loyal to me!
Happy posting.
And I hope you will soon find time to fulfill your husband's wish of buying a dog.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
11 Jun 09
As they say, time heals everything and so it will be between Shirley and you…don’t lose hope. Love her more, spend more time with her pups and soon you will be the cherished master again. Regarding your dad, I can understand his predicament…in his place, I would have sold off the entire brood but after some more time perhaps.
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
13 Jun 09
Hey! Nice words. I am really OK now and the pups are showing some sort of a curiosity right now. The boy just became OK again. He has started to spend more time with me. I mean started to play and all the stuff. The girl is still cross. Girls always are.....some girls want me to drop by their home on a pterodactyl and promise to show up and say a hi. But they never turn up!!
@tuyakiki (3016)
• India
10 Jun 09
You should not worry about it.Its going to fine. I think that so many dogs are a bit too much to handle,and it will be very bad if you can't care all of them in the same way.. I think one big one and two pups would just be perfect pet family. I hope the other two get a good caring master ..I think the pet family will forget with time and behave as usually...Please do spend some time with them.
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
11 Jun 09
Hi Kiki!
Glad to see you around here. I am a bit happier now. I started this discussion with a real sad and depressed mood. Anyway now I have decided to spend a few more time with the pups. Many mylotters had given me ample advises. I am trying to put it into practice. I am glad that you arrived for consoling me.
Happy posting and Best regards,
Ajith.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
10 Jun 09
It is very sad we have to depart with somebody we love so much.Either financial problem or unable to provide room to all,you have to take that decision.Past is past.Let you spare more time to the rest and Shirley and gain their confidence back.For the time being,you have no other go and they could not understand our problems as we understand them.So,patience is the best thing you can have now.Hope you all play together soon.Cheers!
@srganesh (6340)
• India
11 Jun 09
Yes!Time is the best medicine which heals everything.Sooner or later,You,Shirley and those two remaining pups will all have a good time and you will win more prizes for training them as you like.Hope they will co operate in the near future.Are they now allowing you near?
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
12 Jun 09
Oh thanks for checking up!
Yes, the boy is ok now. He has started to respond quite positively and I am a bit relived. The girl is a bit haughty. She is a bit proud or more angry I guess. But girls have their own way of being reserved. I hope she too will forgive me soon...
And as you said. Time is the best remedy for this...
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
11 Jun 09
You are a man who believes in Patience. Even I believe in it. But practically, I can't imply it to the fullest. Anyway thanks for dropping in and sharing your view. I was momentarily depressed and wanted to do something to regain the trust. And it's as if I am regaining it.
Even I look forward for playing together. More than just playing, I enjoy training them. I hope everything works out pretty well!
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@kvarun88 (274)
• India
10 Jun 09
i hav never had a pet but i can assure u tht this feeling of guilt will pass away wid time. i hav seen ppl hav pets jus to breed them and sell the pups for a gud rate..! but i guess u were forced to do it and mostly u wuld hav sold those pups to ppl who really love to hav pets jus like u..! in a positive point of view u hav definately done a pretty gud stuff..by helping some one get a pet to their place..!! so take it easy..! and take care of the remaining pups as u took care of their mother..! all the best may god be wid u..! :)
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
11 Jun 09
You are an optimistic man! I wish I could be as talented as you were.
I am bit reassured now. Everyone just said the same thing: It's natural to sell pups when they are more in number. I never wanted to sell those. I know maintaining them is tedious, but my parents never wanted a lot of pups hanging around. I had to sell the two girls. Moreover keeping so many girls would mean so many future pregnancies. And that would mean even more pups and my Dad would really get frustrated.
It's alright now. And happy mylotting to you friend!
I am bit reassured now. Everyone just said the same thing: It's natural to sell pups when they are more in number. I never wanted to sell those. I know maintaining them is tedious, but my parents never wanted a lot of pups hanging around. I had to sell the two girls. Moreover keeping so many girls would mean so many future pregnancies. And that would mean even more pups and my Dad would really get frustrated.
It's alright now. And happy mylotting to you friend!@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
12 Jun 09
Hello friend.
You are correct. There can be respiratory issues for certain kind of people. First you can go to a doctor who checks allergies and test whether the members of your family is allergic to fur. Most people are not allergic. But some people are. If you bring a cat as near as two feet from an allergic person, he/she will start sneezing vigorously! More over they could get asthma too.
As for other diseases, we must take pet to vet on a monthly basis. One of my cousins is a vet. She comes home every month for a casual visit. And I make sure that she makes a check up too!
@kvarun88 (274)
• India
11 Jun 09
also dude i wuld like u to clarify a little bit of my doubts abt havin pets at home..!
is it true tht ppl get asthma if they hav pets arund..??
and also is it true tht some of the diseases tht a pet has culd be transferred to humans as well..??
cuz every time i tell my parents i want a pet they tell me these stuff and say not to go ahead buying one..!!
@sidyboy (284)
• United States
12 Jun 09
Selling puppies at 4 weeks old is not good at all. Those puppies NEED their mother- they are not old enough to even eat regular food yet and should still be nursing! They also need the socialization with their mother and littermates or they're most likely going to end up with temperament issues.
@tonyllenium (6252)
• Italy
9 Jun 09
yes i think is sad when you are costricted to sell the pups of your dog..normally they are cute and funny so you will get them all with you at home!!In amny cases this cannot be possible see you will find with many pets there so it won't be easy to mantain them all with you!!
Anyway if you seel them to good people who will take care about their new pets and will love them..i think you are not a kind of cruel master..
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
10 Jun 09
Yes. They were cute and really funny. It is not possible to maintain everyone you know. So I had to sell some of them. I didn't mean to sell But I had to give away and they gave me money for that.
I am sure I have sold them to good people. But that's not the problem. The problem is that, the rest of the pups are not minding me!
@schulzie (4061)
• United States
10 Jun 09
I would not worry about it. I think that 5 dogs is a little bit too much to handle. I think 3 would be just perfect. I would just say that as long as you show your remaining dogs attention and love then all will be just fine. I think they will forget all about it after a while.
Have a great day and happy myLotting!!!
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
11 Jun 09
I am giving the remaining dogs as much attention as I can. And thanks for consoling me. I was really depressed. So depressed that I didn't even feel like commenting to all the responses to this discussion. Now I am feeling better and I am implying various methods that mylotters are telling me.
@solitudine (603)
• India
10 Jun 09
Every thing is going to be find..Just don't worry about it..I am sure,those will be cute pups..I hope they get a good master...I can understand,you dad must be having a bad time with four of them..But afterall he is keeping one boy and one girl for you to play.Shirley will be fine within a month.Just pamper them with biscuits and spend time with them.
Shirley will be fine within a month.Just pamper them with biscuits and spend time with them.@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
11 Jun 09
Hey, it's you again! I always feel great reading your responses. And congrats- you have gone above 200 postings now you can use the mylot code!.
And yes, Shirley would be fine. She is a very trusted friend of mine and is always by my feet. A good woman she is. I am really scared about the remaining pups! They used to play with me often. But ever since the sale,they don't play with me. They just back off! I hope they regain the trust soon...
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And yes, Shirley would be fine. She is a very trusted friend of mine and is always by my feet. A good woman she is. I am really scared about the remaining pups! They used to play with me often. But ever since the sale,they don't play with me. They just back off! I hope they regain the trust soon...
@wonttakelong (3555)
• United States
9 Jun 09
first you are not a bad person or pet owner for having to sell a couple
4 puppies is a bit much all at once and now you will have plenty of time and attention to spend on the training of the two boys
its probably NOT that they dont trust you
I am guess that because you feel bad about getting rid of the girls you are acting different around them, less confident maybe
the boys can sense that you feel that way and see it as a sign of weakness
they cant respect what they feel is weaker than them
you need to compose yourself and regain your calm assertiveness
when you do that you will regain their respect and take your place again as pack leader
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
10 Jun 09
Well nice words. I saw this response yesterday. But I was not in a mood for commenting. I am depressed. I have one boy and one girl now. But they both refuse to interact with me. The back away when I get close to them. I feel really bad. And even my mom told me that I am not cruel or something...guess, it's because of the feeling I had to those pups....
@jugsjugs (12967)
•
9 Jun 09
Dogs can sense that you are not happy,just like they can sense if you are scared of them.It would be a good idea that you should carry on doing the same things and same routine like you did before the other pub were sold,that way the dogs would for get sooner.You are not bad for selling the pups so dont feel that you are a bad owner/master for selling them.The trust will come back and they will soon for get they had other pups with them,so enjoy yourself with the ones you have left.
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
11 Jun 09
Tghanks for telling me that I am not a bad master. In fact, I have come to know about the situation. The pps wouldn't budge from their seats or come to me. I have decided to wait and see whether they would finally be curious enough to come to me. I hope they are not in cross with me. Other than that, no problems...
Have a nice day!
@AlyssaCB (68)
• Canada
9 Jun 09
My dogs just had 6 puppies a week and a half ago, so currently i have 8 dogs and 2 cats, so i will soon understand what your going through.
Just know that your not a cruel master for having to sell them, i mean i knew from the get go i couldnt keep them all... even though i fell in love with my pups. Two dogs is enough nevermind eight.
I dont think they dont trust you anymore, i think they are probably just wondering where their siblings are.
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
10 Jun 09
6 puppies? Surely you have an idea what I am going through. They must be wondering where the rest are. Yes. You are correct. But why do they back off when I go to pet them. I used to play with a lot. I also used to make the boy stand on his hind legs and walk- we had lots of fun. Now they don't want me around. I am depressed....
@x_Jo_x (1040)
•
9 Jun 09
Aww they sound so cute! and its sad that you have to give them away, but training more than one dog can be tricky! Especially siblings. I have a brother and sister border collies and they just want to play all the time. And if im trying to teach one, the other one gets upset.
As for the trust, just play with them more, do plenty of activities and get them confortable to be with you so they can trust you again. Build up a really good relationship with them, and you will hopefully have no problems =) Good luck with them!
@ebook_freak (1511)
• India
10 Jun 09
They are really cute, yes. But I am really depressed now. They back off me everytime I approach them. Their mom and I were the best friends in the 'hood. She got the best Dog award and me the Best trainer. We had done a lot of adventurous things and our relationship is simply uncomprehending. She has lost 2 daughters and she is sad. The pups are not letting me close to them. That's another disaster...
I will try to keep your advise. I appreciate your willingness to help.
Regards,
Ajith.
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
11 Jun 09
It is hard to deal with too many dogs. If you found good home for your puppies, you don't have to think about. Small puppies need mother, so they pay less attention to you. They also can play together and may feel much better with each other companion than yours....it is perfectly normal....it takes time for them to pick up the leader...
