Is it okay to discuss marital problems with your kids?
@scarletwitch12 (562)
Philippines
June 10, 2009 6:46am CST
I just have this general wondering. If a couple has disagreements, say if the husband cheated on his wife, is it ok to tell your kids of their father's indiscretions?
For one thing, the kids may well be given the inside track on what is happening to their parents and why they are fighting. But isn't it a little damaging if the kids were to know that their father had an affair with another woman?
I know of some wives who tell their kids that their fathers cheated and they even go as far as telling them who the other woman was. I see that this tortures the kids and they grow up resenting their fathers.
I know that kids are very perceptive and resilient but should they be told of matters such as these or should this be kept between husband and wife?
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@navonly (901)
• India
10 Jun 09
I fully agree with you. Yes, this should not happen at all, none of the parents in this world should discuss their bad part of relationship with their kids, unless they are adult. Yes, if they are grown up and you think that they'll be able to take out the positive part from it, you may discuss it.
However, you should discuss, the good part of your marital life with them, may be they'll get to learn some good things for their future about how to lead a successful marital life.
I can understand, that how tough it can be for a wife to keep everything inside her, when their is no one to discuss all her problem in this world, not even her husband. In that case, the lady broke out and does the mistakes of telling all about her husband to their kids, but thats the biggest mistake she does.
@scarletwitch12 (562)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
That's right. Kids should be spared of all this. We wouldn't want them to grow up with a bad impression on family and marriage.
Thanks for responding!
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