husband wants me to get a job now

United States
June 10, 2009 1:49pm CST
before we got married my husband wanted me to be a homemaker and i agreed as long as i got to go to school, well we're only 3 months into our marriage and he's on my back about getting a job now. i dont know what to do i like staying at home and keeping things organized and clean but i want to start taking classes online. which again my husband isn't pushing so much anymore. we make do on his salary but we want to start saving now that we're getting settled in our new home. but if you know anything about military life you can understand where im coming from. i dont know what to do about all this.
4 responses
reckon21
@reckon21 (3479)
• Philippines
11 Jun 09
I don't understand your husband at all. First,he doesn't want you to work then now he wants you to work. Maybe he realized that life nowadays are hard,both wife and husband must earn for a family savings.
vipinmehar
@vipinmehar (98)
• India
11 Jun 09
Yes I agree with you reckon... After married view of thinkg really change .. That time they fill that money is matter. But I sugessted that decission should be taken by the only wife she wanted do job or not . She have to perform many jobs like mother,wife .....
marites31
@marites31 (267)
• Philippines
23 Jun 09
i dont have any idea of living with a military member of the family. but i guess your husband wanted you to be more productive rather than just staying home specially if he will be far away. lets just put it in a positive way because he is giving you the freedom to work and aside from that to earn also not only for yourself but for your future.
ladym33
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
14 Jun 09
How about something part time, would that be enough. That way you could bring in a little cash and still have time to mantain the home and take some classes part time. Maybe your husband will be happy with that kind of a sacrafice. Think about what you want for your future.
AlyssaCB
@AlyssaCB (68)
• Canada
10 Jun 09
My father was in the Military, but i fail to see where that applies to your situation. My suggestion would be get a part time position where you can work half the time and go and take your "online" courses the other half. Its a compromise, noone can complain it you meet him halfway and vise versa