Does your parents practice favoritism in your family?

mmmmmmmm, i don't know. my parents say they don't have favorites, they love us both equally but other people say that my mom favors my brother more as the youngest child and my father favors me more as the first child...but we don't feel it. my husband's side, they say he is their mother's favorite being the youngest. but my grandmother on my father's side..we all know that she has a favorite, her 2nd child...she said she don't have favoritism but its very obviuos and everybody notice it. as a result her other children got jealous and it don't do anything good for the family... and the favorite son..well at least he's kind to their mother but as i observed, ever since he never live away from his mom even if he already have a family, they live with her and there are times but that was long time ago, that my grandmother fed his family coz he don't have a job. but thanks God as i can see it everything is going smooth now, relationships between siblings are better now and even to their mother... maybe they already learn their lessons... have a nice day my FRIEND! :-)

Hi Friend, I know such things though this is not the case with any of my family tree. There is a psychiological problem with the Mama's son. Or he became so because of Oedipus Complex.There is some attraction towards his mother which is why now he can not come out of the situation and has been sort of trapped. Now actually he needs some counselling session or session with psychiatrist. Lets hope for the best.

My sister was always the favorite with my mom. It was my brother and I, we protected one another. But my sister fits into the picture for my mom. She gets straight A's, thin, cares about material things...etc. And I'm not really like that. I'm the opposite. It still bothers me that my sister is the clear favorite but I'm getting over it. I only go home about 1 or 2 times a year and when my mom concentrates on me it's actually nice but somehow I am always compared to my little sister.

My parents show favoritism and if it was that my sister who was clearly the favorite didn't grow up then I would become a teacher today and don't have to be struggling. In my father's eyes she never wrong growing up and because of this she did some things to me that has hurt me so much. It is wrong for a parent to show this. Love your children equally and teach them how to make decisions and respect others. Cuddling them is not good and this is not preparing them for what is in this big and evil world. I am glad that I was not a favorite because I learned through my ordeal with my sister how to fight for life and since then I have been fighting to do this. A favourite child expect everything to be on the platter for them and when he/she is married then this responsibilities is past on to the wife/husband. I hope that your wife does not practice this in your family because she has seen firsthand how this attitude has affected her brother.

i think most family have their own favorite daughter or son. whether they dont admit but they do. like my parents, my mom love my sister more than us, but it is ok with me because my dad love me more than with my two siblings. to us it doesnt matter whether they have favoritism because they give us the best of life.

i am a singleton,it just exist in my hubby's family,my hubby has a sister,my mother in law pay more care about my hubby obviously,but the reason why my mother in law will do like this for my hubby is very very independence and just a few days at home a year,so my mother in law would show her plenty love and care for my hubby.i know there are so many people to be dependence for mother's practiced,but my hubby is opposition.

I think all parents practice favoritism, knowingly or unknowingly. Usually the youngest is the favourite of the mother and the eldest is the favourite of the father. At least this is what I have seen in my extended family. Both from my mother and father’s side, the eldest always shouldered the family responsibility from a very early age and the youngest was so pampered that he/she couldn’t even realize their own good.

Favoritism is there in every family, but it is not a good practice. My father shows favoritism to my brother, which really hurts me. So i am careful that i do not show favoritism to my children because i know how much this would hurt them. Favoritism really ruins the person whom we favor and it is not a good thing to make someone else happy by hurting others.

It is there in almost all family. somewhere it is severe, whereas it is not somewhere.But its there as I guess. Its there with my mother's family. The son is always favourite.

Not really, my parents love all of us but tend to make comparisons often which really irritates me. Sill, there's no favoritism here :)

What i have experienced is 'favour' for particular son/daughter happens when the one is lack in something. Bcoz in that case, the parents have fear/plans how they could be equalised.

mobhomeir . .yes it is rampant in my family . . my brother was always the golden child in my mothers eyes. . he could and still cant do anything wrong. . and when I look at my mom and her brother . .I see that her mom did the same thing. . so I guess she knew no better . . interesting to note . . . I didnt pass this on like she did. I have only one child!

I'm the oldest of the three kids in my family and my parents don't practice favoritism in my family. For Christmas they spend the same amount of money on all three of us and the same for our birthdays. When my sister and I go out and do things my brother gets something he wants (like a video game). My parents try to keep us as equal as they can which is nice. My siblings and I tease each other about being the favorite but it's just that because my parents do a good job of not letting it show if they do have a favorite.

I don't think there is necessarily favoritism but they definitely treat the oldest and youngest child different based on the experience they encounter which might come off as favoritism. For example i am the youngest out of me and my brother and though at times he was aloud to do more things because he is older, i benefit from a lot of the mistakes my parents made with him, such as keeping to tight of a leash on him, and things of that nature.

Favoritism exists even in the Bible. Isaac prefers Esau and Rebecca prefers Jacob. The twins eventually had sibling rivalry. Still they loved each other in the end, the way brothers should be.

I have a similar situation here in my home. I have my elder sister. When we were kids and even now, my Mother's more inclined towards me. I am always protected, or say OVER-protected and I think to some extent it has hampered my growth and my being self-dependent as my Mother herself said. She has always favored me and cared for me.. But now, as she has realised it, I think it will help me "grow up" and take decisions on my own!

I have the same issue. If you are the favorite of you're parents or family among your siblings, it comes with a great responsibility. You should set good examples to them as he they are expecting a lot from you. Of course you get out most of the reward compared from the rest especially the attention. The negative side of being a favorite is envy and worst is that there is someone who is being considered as black sheep of the family.